Help me with this deep thinking

[churchgoer123]

This is like philosophy to me. I need some crazy, liberal advice NOW!!!

alright... (sorry for the lazy grammar)

presently, I'm focusing on the phenomenon "hard to get."

The sub topic follows.

Alright, there is this girl (yet ANOTHER ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) who likes me (a lot)

and i know she does, and it was finally like "WOW.... SHE LIKES ME!!!!"

she does, becuase she has always been real quiet and shy around me for the longest time (that is, exept when I walk by her in the halls, and she never makes eye contact with me at all, becuase shes so shy, and she just looks at her friends and starts talking fast when im around, and then after i pass her in the hall, she is normal again (it is kinda like an "I'm talking to my friends, not looking at you. I want you to know I am "cool" and that I have friends..... hard to explainm but I've done that when girls are around me, ill just talk to my friends real jabberly until she leaves.

also, i catch her staring at me all the time, and she pulls and twiddles on her earings all the time when doing it, and then she looks away when i look over at her,a then looks back, and then away again (there is more, I know she likes me)

so I called her the other day, and asked her if she wanted to go to dinner sometime, and she said "I don't know... ill think about it... and I said ok and that was sorta that"

then she texted me, and said "actaully ill go out to dinner with you, we should just do something more casual first, and not so romantic"
so when i got the message 10 minutes later, i responded with another text, i said "sure lets go get a cup of joe at starbucks for lunch n wednesday" and i responded twice, and then i called her, and asked her if she got the IM, and she said yeah i did, but im driving, i gotta go ill call u later (and she WAS NOT driving, she was at work, cuz my friend said she was working)

so then I instant messaged her online, and she said "hi wazzup" (she kept signing off, then signing on, over and over again to get my attention)

then she said "not much, ur self", told me a funny joke, said bye, then signed off in a matter of 5 seconds...

umm....HELP!!!!!

I really like her a lot

 

[ethereal_]

Hmm, she sounds very confused.

Either she doesn't know if she really wants to go out with you, or she is scared to make that step and really does want to go out.

You need to catch her online again and just tell her straight up that you really like her and want to get to know her better. Being serious about everything might pull her out of her shell.

 

[Scottish Joy]

 

[JWBZ SVT]

Age and maturity level probably have more to do with it than anything else. Try not to take it personal and stay busy yourself. Be upfront (but don't scare her by professing undying love for her) and leave it in her court. Stay busy. Let her initiate conversation after that. You've already done your part. If she's interested she'll IM you or text you etc...

 

[Ginga]

I agree with ethereal. She is either not sure if she wants to go out with you or she may just be scared about starting a relationship even though she may want to.

i would reckomend that you talk to her at some point, and find out what is going on. If she really does want to become more than friends or not. But i also recommend that you pray about this, and be patient. All good things will happen in God's timing, so be patient, and rely on God to help you with this. I'm not saying just leave it up to God, cause then you may miss your chance all together with her, just remember that God should be at the centre of everything that you do, and he wants to help you with this as well. But give her time, and don't pressure her. If things are going to happen between you two, then they will.

God bless and best of luck. Remember to listen to God, and seek his councel as well.

 

[the_man]

she does, becuase she has always been real quiet and shy around me for the longest time (that is, exept when I walk by her in the halls, and she never makes eye contact with me at all, becuase shes so shy, and she just looks at her friends and starts talking fast when im around, and then after i pass her in the hall, she is normal again (it is kinda like an "I'm talking to my friends, not looking at you. I want you to know I am "cool" and that I have friends..... hard to explainm but I've done that when girls are around me, ill just talk to my friends real jabberly until she leaves.

Hmm, sounds like she is nervous around you...it's not automatically a good thing.

also, i catch her staring at me all the time, and she pulls and twiddles on her earings all the time when doing it, and then she looks away when i look over at her,a then looks back, and then away again (there is more, I know she likes me)

In combination with nervousness, we are getting somewhere.

so I called her the other day, and asked her if she wanted to go to dinner sometime, and she said "I don't know... ill think about it... and I said ok and that was sorta that"

then she texted me, and said "actaully ill go out to dinner with you, we should just do something more casual first, and not so romantic"
so when i got the message 10 minutes later, i responded with another text, i said "sure lets go get a cup of joe at starbucks for lunch n wednesday" and i responded twice, and then i called her, and asked her if she got the IM, and she said yeah i did, but im driving, i gotta go ill call u later (and she WAS NOT driving, she was at work, cuz my friend said she was working)

The fact that she said yes is a good thing for you. The way she said yes throws up a couple flags. When she text msgs you again, dont' text back, call her up and talk to her, set to tone for what may be a relationship. The other thing is you don't want to appear desperate. She contacts you, you contact her and that is that. Not, she contacts you, you contact her, you contact her, you contact her and you try to contact her again.

so then I instant messaged her online, and she said "hi wazzup" (she kept signing off, then signing on, over and over again to get my attention)

then she said "not much, ur self", told me a funny joke, said bye, then signed off in a matter of 5 seconds...

Don't do that to yourself. It will drive you crazy and will lead you no where. You've made your intentions known, you asked her out, she sorta said yes. See what happens from there. Guard your heart man!

I really like her a lot

Indeed, this is most aparent.