Phoenixdna,
Your "fatback" is still excess fat. That's just probably where your body stores fat more and it's probably the last place to lose. You need to figure out what it's going to take to lose that fat. Crash dieting, doing certain exercises, or other extreme things are not going to get it off. The only thing I know of that will "spot reduce" is liposuction and I am not an advocate for that type of stuff.
Speaking of what really bugs a person, I exercise every single day, watch my diet very carefully (you should see my extensive food & other logs-journals). Most people don't even do a fifth of what I do, and yet I see people lose a ton of weight. I started on my quest to seriously lose weight in '98. I would have to say in '98 I did lose some weight (bodyfat and muscle), and I'm still not to my goal yet.
However, along the way, I've learned the following:
1. How to eat very healthy for my specific body
2. Biochemistry & biomechanics of the body and how my body is
3. All sorts of alternative, healthy, natural ways to live
4. Finding the root cause of eczema for my daughter & helping her overcome this
5. How to exercise properly
6. How to lead a very busy, yet balanced life
7. The importance of sleep
8. The importance of proper stress management in the mind & body
9. Grown way closer to God
10. Developed patience, compassion, understanding, love, acceptance
11. Got rid of my bad attitudes in all sorts of areas
12. Developed greater perseverance
13. Gotten rid of the "quick fix" approach
14. Gotten rid of lots of emotional baggage (self esteem went from very poor to great)
15. How not to be a perfectionist (this can ruin one's life)
16. Have a successful marriage
17. Better manage my finances
18. Better manage my time
19. Gained a way better understanding about choices
20. Failing forward
There are lots of other things I've learned along the way. I don't know how long it will take me to reach my goals, but I'll hang in there. Afterall, I have a lifetime and once I lose it, I don't want to gain it back again. Exercise & eating very healthy are things I want to do and I find fun. Though they may be work for others, it doesn't feel like work to me.
Yes, I see people get to their goals way sooner than me, often by taking "quick fix" approaches, but I know in time their lack of discipline, unchanged habits will come back to haunt them and they will be worse off than where they were before. I see it all the time.
So, if it takes you much time, perseverance, etc to get to your goals, don't "hate" or be envious of others. Think about what you can learn and how you can apply what you learn to your life.
My very long journey to weight loss which has now turned into only wanting just to lose bodyfat and nothing else will one day allow me to get my PhD in a few different areas that I'm finding very intriguing. This probably wouldn't have been the case had I not gone through all the challenges that I've had to experience the past nearly 7 yrs. I look way better, am stronger, healthier, fitter than I've ever been in my life. I still have about 35 lbs of bodyfat I'd like to lose. I'm going to learn all the way and keep plugging at it. I'm not envious of others any longer that reach their goals before me. Those that have made lifestyle changes they can maintain, I'm happy for their successes. Be happy for others for their successes. It's not a reflection of where you are. Their success is not about you unless you had a part to play in their success. Heck, I'm always happy when I can help others achieve their goals & help them be successful.
Be Blessed,
Doris