help fearfull 2 year old???

[britishtankgirl]

hi
i have a lil 2 year old whos starting to worry me. shes my third and i dont remember seeing this behavior in my others. it started with just beeing scared of dogs even though we used to own some. but i thought fair enough its a normal fear and one that can be helpfull as going up to dogs you dont know is dangerous. then she started to get scared of my friends kids they are 9 months younger than her and once they satred walking around she started screeming at them as she was scared of them. im not sure if once they grabed a toy off of her or something negative like that happened. but she now screams whenever we are out and she sees another child. she has to be picked up and carried away from them its a nightmare taking her to the park as she cant interact with other kids. im perservering with my friends kids but it is extremely tiring. especailly as im 8 months pregnant carring a 2 year old around is hard work.
now the situation has got worse, she is starting to have crying attacts brought on by small things like not wanting to get dressed or bathed but having it done anyway. she will scream and scream shouting im scared im scared. i cant calm her down no matter what i do. she just screams cuddle and i am cuddling her but she pushes me away she so beside herself she dosent know wot she wants.
please could anybody tell me if this has happened to them or have any ideas on what i can do with her.

 

[Princessperky]

I dunno if this is very similar, but DS suffered from severe stranger anxiety for a couple months, he would also search the house for me if I wondered out of vision, and scream if he couldn't find me. It about drove me crazy, but I responded with calm truthful statements (not going anywhere, and a small house, can't be far) Also with no pressure to go visit other people, even 'family' (which is often still a stranger to him since he never really sees them)

He is now much more outgoing than he was before the month or so incedent. I think my letting him have the security he wanted helped him get over it fast. (though I would and do punish screaming in a 3 year old, regardless of cause)

It was never as severe as your poor kid though .

Oh and being 8 months pregnant prolly has something to do with her asking to be 'babied'. I always told my kids starting from month 3 'momy can't pick you up', I can only carry one kid at a time . But I do help them from sitting or they go without (sorry not a requirement that you wera a shirt or play with X toy - less we are going out)

 

[Entertaining_Angels]

The behavior could do with you being pregnant. She senses something is different but doesn't really understand what is going on. Maybe if you just relax a bit more and spend more quiet one on one time with her. And, since calm is a good thing for you, if you're going out a bit, just take some time to stay home.

I see this happen all the time in kids who are about to get new siblings. It is natural.