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MauiMamma

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So, I have been thinking about separating from my husband. We have a terrible marriage. No love, lots of hate (toward me). The worst part is I caught him looking at pornography in front of my 3 y.o. son. I have made every attempt to make this work and definitely have left it in the Lord's hands.
Tonight my husband told me he wants a divorce. I have peace with God about this and believe we have been divorced emotionally and physically for a long time.

So if anyone is inclined I have prayer request for my son: that he be protected from ANY harm in this. He is my biggest concern.
My hope is that I get custody with supervised visitation for my husband because he has showed no signs of change and I can't bear my son's innocence corrupted like that.
My husband also has an addiction to online gaming and neglects our son.
I am praying for God's protection, wisdom, guidance, and will be done and what's best for my son. I hope we can at least have peace in separation.

I am in need God's provision because I lost my job recently and I will be on my own soon. Friends and support would be a blessing as well.

I desire God's will and love to saturate my husbands heart and life.

I pray that all of our family members be protected from any damage this divorce could cause.

I just thought I'd drop by and give a little summery of my situation because I have a feeling I'm going to be here for a while and grateful for any support I can get.
Any and all prayers are very appreciated.

God bless every one of you going through similar circumstances. :hug:

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I desire God's will and love to saturate my husbands heart and life.
It seems that your heart is in the right place and I'm impressed.
Even if your husband is a jerk to your son, be prepared for your son to miss daddy. This was my situation when my son was about 5 when I left. His dad was a bully and my son expressed sadness one time when we came home and dad's truck was in the garage. I was shocked and asked my son how he could say such a thing. That was the beginning of a wake up call for me. Even so, a few days after leaving I found my son sitting in the back yard crying with his head in his hands. God hates divorce for a reason, but sometimes it is the best thing to be done.
 
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MauiMamma

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It seems that your heart is in the right place and I'm impressed.
Even if your husband is a jerk to your son, be prepared for your son to miss daddy. This was my situation when my son was about 5 when I left. His dad was a bully and my son expressed sadness one time when we came home and dad's truck was in the garage. I was shocked and asked my son how he could say such a thing. That was the beginning of a wake up call for me. Even so, a few days after leaving I found my son sitting in the back yard crying with his head in his hands. God hates divorce for a reason, but sometimes it is the best thing to be done.

Thank you so much. Honestly, when my husband isn't participating in such objectionable activities, he's a pretty good father.
I know my son is going to miss is dad. It utterly tears my heart in half. It makes me furious, too. But I cannot FORCE my husband to act in a proper manner and God does not impose His will on us. I can only hope that the momentary pain of separation is less then a life time of it.
I am SO trusting God in this.
A verse that is clearly speaking to me right now is Exodus 14:14:
"The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still."

Thank you again for your support, insight and understanding.:hug:
 
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