Hello,, problems with girlfriend am I overreactive

[unaidedbean]

Hi, I recently became a Christian and have since made the decision to abstain (since September). I have just starting going out with a non Christian girl and its going really well , she knows that I could never marry her or anything unless she was a Christian, and she also knows how i feel about sex before marriage, but at the minute its not really causing many problems. Anyway, shes 18 and im the same age, but she likes to go to the clubs and dance, often guys try to dance with her and touch her. Not only this i tried to get in contact with her last night and she sent me a text at 1:17 AM 'sorry some guys we met nicked my phone for a bit and so thats probably why ive only seen the text and realised you tried to call'. I feel disrespected and unhappy being with someone who doesnt see this as an issue, am I overreacting to this or not?

Dan

 

[tangled]

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

You're unhappy for a reason.

 

[BHolmes36]

No you're not overreacting . You said it yourself , that she is not a christian and likes to go out and meet other guys . The Bible says that you should not be unevenly yoked together . You can't force her to change or make her see things your way. If she loved you she would respect you and try to make an effort to change on her own . You should find someone else who believes like you believe before you get hurt .

 

[Avniel]

First off why would you be in a relationship with someone you can't marry, that is a waste of time. Secondly I am a married christian man I do go to the clubs and dance with my wife, meet some friends up and ect. I do think you are overreacting. She's 18 years old and like you said you can't marry her so whats the point of your courtship. She wants to have fun and you have not given her a reason to stop.

My thoughts are she wants to have sex you don't have sex with her and she finds it else where. Her being 18 and immature she keeps you along because she probably really likes you but she likes being 18 even more.

Count your losses and move on playa.

 

[Tink]

Move along.

 

[Inkachu]

You're a Christian going out with a non-Christian. That's your problem right there. Cut it off and seek God, not a new girlfriend. Once you've grown and matured in your faith a bit, start asking God to prepare you for your future wife, and prepare her for you. Don't rush, don't be impatient, and don't be led by your hormones.

 

[JohnDB]

You really no longer have anything in common with this lady. Your goals in life are on a completely different track than hers. Polar opposite directions that at times will appear the same.

New person means a new method for getting girl friends.

 

[Cute Tink]

I am going to have to echo the sentiments of the others. If you will not marry this girl, then what are you doing with her? Are you hoping that she will convert? How long will you pursue a relationship with her if that's what you are waiting for?

And if you don't like this behavior, then have a discussion with her about it and break it off if things aren't going to change. Also on this point, keep in mind that this is your issue, not hers. If she doesn't want to change this, then you need to decide if you are going to deal with it or not. She has every right to continue this behavior if she wants, whether you like it or not - you just don't have to live with it.

 

[Lissa <3]

As the others here have mentioned.... why invest your time and heart on someone you do not see a future with?

 

[Guy Incognito]

You're a Christian going out with a non-Christian. That's your problem right there. Cut it off and seek God, not a new girlfriend. Once you've grown and matured in your faith a bit, start asking God to prepare you for your future wife, and prepare her for you. Don't rush, don't be impatient, and don't be led by your hormones.

True story bro.