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Can I talk to someone and hear some Godly and clinical advice? I'm a Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress? Maybe my boss felt it somehow as I radiate some "heavy" aura?

I need some advice. Thanks.
 

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The only verse that's coming to mind is "the fear of man brings a snare".

One of the issues with depending on others to fill you up with approval is that it runs out..

My advice is to fill up with the approval of what God has done for your through his son. That you are loved and accepted, failures, imperfections and all, and rest in receiving what he thinks of you rather than what others think of you.

Spending all your time thinking about what other people are thinking is what is causing the lack of sleep/eating problems.

I suggest taking small steps towards resting in some bible study, prayers, being still, focusing on what Christ says and taking small steps towards eating better and slowly start a new routine of this to overcome the addiction of worrying what others think. It is a hard thing to stop worrying.

Congratulations on the new job and I do hope that you'll look after yourself and just rest in what God through Christ thinks of you. That you are loved and accepted regardless of what others think of you.
 
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Welcome!!

You may find some good advice by posting your issue in the Christian Advice section. That is more active area and the area for advice.
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Can I talk to someone and hear some Godly and clinical advice? I'm a Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress? Maybe my boss felt it somehow as I radiate some "heavy" aura?

I need some advice. Thanks.
I'd just stick to what you actually know rather than pile assumed beliefs on yourself. If that means that you have to go without knowing the facts for a while, then just accept that's okay.
 
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It may be that the mistake is not what is bothering them. Sometimes we take on blame that is not ours. There could be another issue affecting them, and/or perhaps the "new" has worn off and it's just business. As a new Christian, one of the harder things to do is to forgive ourselves. If you have apologized for the error, and worked hard to not make it again, that is true repentance. God forgives such indiscretions, and if He as a just and righteous God can forgive and let it go, we, too must follow his example. Give them some time, do your best, and hopefully it will work out. If they aren't smiling, try doing it first. Be friendly yet professional and I'll be praying for peace and wisdom for you.
 
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