AHHHHHHHHHH! I love my boyfriend and he doesn't love me back. I tell him I need him to come see me, a 2 hr drive and he has unlimited reasons why he cannot do it and pushes my hopes into the near future. I cannot shake this dead feeling! I am looking to the Lord for support, but it has just become so rough that I cannot pull myself out of it. This boy is my love and my obssession. Help.
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Heartbroken in love. I need relief.
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It's soul destroying - I know.
Remember that whether or not you have a man, you need to be happy with yourself. The relationship between you and God needs to be optimised before you can let anyone else in.
Remember that whether or not you have a man, you need to be happy with yourself. The relationship between you and God needs to be optimised before you can let anyone else in.
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I think I want to know how to seperate myself from this love at least a little and at the same time yes optomize this relationship I have with God.
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GG, I'd love to give you an easy answer, but there isn't one.
I guess being positive is a way forward. Think about the good things in your life, thank God for them every day. Spend time with friends (and have a good time!), work on the relationship between you and the Big Man!
It might feel like the end of the world.
Please try to remember that it's not!
I'll pray for you when I'm thinking positive thoughts for myself.
I guess being positive is a way forward. Think about the good things in your life, thank God for them every day. Spend time with friends (and have a good time!), work on the relationship between you and the Big Man!
It might feel like the end of the world.
Please try to remember that it's not!
I'll pray for you when I'm thinking positive thoughts for myself.
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glittergirl said:
Without getting personal, please give us a bit more information so we can better understand your situation. You say you love your boyfriend. What were his feelings about you before the present circumstances? When you say love, what kind of love? Was it an intimate type and was it mutual? That is revelant to our understanding.
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Stanfi
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Glitter Girl,
There isn't an easy answer to this. As bad as it hurts, you cannot make someonelse love you, not matter much you love them. I know it doesn't seem fair. I've been there as I'm sure that we all have.
1.) Put God absolutely first in your life. Read your bible, pray, study listen to preachers and teachers as much as you can. Do anything that you can to learn more about God, and make your relationship with him grow. Rember, he truly loves us, and wants to be the first love in our lives. God's peace and comfort can heal the hurt, that your boyfriend doesn't not return your love.
2.) I also think that you need to distance yourself from this guy. If he doesn't love you they way that you want to be loved. Then it will take it's toll on you. It will affect you emotionally, spirtitually and physically. God has someone out there for you, who will adore you and return you love. The best way to do this is to avoid anything that reminds you of him.
3.) Go talk to your true friends. The ones you trust with the details of your life. They can be a great support for you, spend time with them and go do something that you enjoy.. have fun. Don't sit around the house thinking of this guy.
Think of it this way. If this guy doesn't love you, then he doesn't deserve you.
I don't mean to be harsh, but the longer that you hang on. The worse the pain and heartache will be on you.
There isn't an easy answer to this. As bad as it hurts, you cannot make someonelse love you, not matter much you love them. I know it doesn't seem fair. I've been there as I'm sure that we all have.
1.) Put God absolutely first in your life. Read your bible, pray, study listen to preachers and teachers as much as you can. Do anything that you can to learn more about God, and make your relationship with him grow. Rember, he truly loves us, and wants to be the first love in our lives. God's peace and comfort can heal the hurt, that your boyfriend doesn't not return your love.
2.) I also think that you need to distance yourself from this guy. If he doesn't love you they way that you want to be loved. Then it will take it's toll on you. It will affect you emotionally, spirtitually and physically. God has someone out there for you, who will adore you and return you love. The best way to do this is to avoid anything that reminds you of him.
3.) Go talk to your true friends. The ones you trust with the details of your life. They can be a great support for you, spend time with them and go do something that you enjoy.. have fun. Don't sit around the house thinking of this guy.
Think of it this way. If this guy doesn't love you, then he doesn't deserve you.
I don't mean to be harsh, but the longer that you hang on. The worse the pain and heartache will be on you.
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Why would you want to pursue a relationship with someone who is apathetic toward you? You can do better. For not being married to him you seem to have a lot invested into the relationship.
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seangoh
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Amen to that! You know they say that when two couples get together, it's not because they need each other. When i heard that, i had to do some thinking of what it means. It sounds ironic i know. If they don't need each other then why get together? But i think we have to interpret it in a different way. When two people are so strong in their love for God and put God first only, and willing to give up their loved one for God, then they are ready to be together. Because sometimes your loved ones can betray you and God wouldn't want that to happen unless both of you has a love for God that is stronger than the love for your other half. Hope it makes sense.emmajane said:
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