He was late...again

[Linnis]

Yesterday my brother in law decides instead of 2-11, I'm going to have my nephew 5pm-1am. Considering I've had the last five days off pretty much, except for maybe six hours I agreed, but made him promise to be back for 1am, he even promised his son.

1:45am, I have my nephew standing at the bottom of my bed asking me why he's still with me, because it's after 1. I'm like I'll call your Dad. He called back 2:15 saying he decided to play basketball and since I should have been asleep he didn't want to wake me, and asked if I wanted to be woke up to be told he'd be late he'd do that next time.

I'm like "No, I don't want you to be late. If you say you'll be here at 1, show up at 1. Not quarter after not 2:30. 1."

Two weeks ago, the last time I had him past 11, he was 3 hours late, this was his last chance.

So today I'm going to tell him I no longer keep my nephew after 11, I love him dearly but I need a life too. I aslo feel like this is a complete lack of respect on the part of my BIL, not only towards me but to his son, since he flat out lied to our faces.

He likes to do this Saturday night because he knows I have church the next morning. I hate going into service on about 5 hours of sleep because even if I'm paying full attention, I yawn, I can't help it. I also wish I could get a full nights rest because I went a few times on a full nights sleep and felt I got more out of it.

I know I have no legal way of making him be a good parent and at the end of the year when they move I'm going to have to live worrying about that boy lving in a house where he's left to fend for himself so much but I think I have every right to demand how we're treated until then.

Blah.

 

[andiesmama]

Yes, you are totally in the right. You are doing him a favor and the least he can do is to be sensitive to your schedule and requests. Of course you love your nephew dearly, but like you said, you have a life, too.

As long as you & your DH present a united front to your BIL, he shouldn't have a problem with it. It might even be better coming right from your DH.....brother to brother, you know?

Anyways, all around it's a difficult situation and I wish you the best!

 

[Linnis]

My husband's brother is difficult. He thinks he knows everything, that he's so mature, mature enough to get his gf pregnant at 16, but ready and willing to shrug off the fact he's responcible for him.

I went to a clearence sale and sound spiderman sandles. I hope he likes them and some cloths so he'll have clean stuff to wear I hope he likes the sandles as much as I do.

 

[Leanna]

Some people have late personalities. We have one friend who drives me crazy with always being late, never calling back when he says he will. He is probably of that personality group. That doesn't make it right, but I'm just saying I doubt you'll be able to do much about it. Tell him that you have plans and tell him to pick him up 30 minutes before you have to go anywhere....

andiesmama, what is with the picture of the right on the left? is that the new thing? What does it mean and how do you get one?

 

[Linnis]

No, he knew he just doesn't care. Well it won't be happening again because I'll just refuse to watch him. I love my nephew but I had a good talk with my BIL's GF and we think if we both are together on how much we will and will not watch him and don't give him ways out to go off and party or do something else. He'll have no choice.

While he didn't change his cloths, he did actually spend waking non phone hours with him this past week. My nephew loved it and it won't kill my BIL to do more of it.

I hope this doesn't make me sound heartless but I am starting to think if I don't stand up for myself I'll forever be taking care of a child who will never be mine, one I can't even legally take to the doctor. I want to have my own life, children etc and as much as I love him, my nephew deserves a good Father, even if I have to kick him in the butt to make sure that he is.