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He wants more input in what happens with my child.

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This concerns me as well. He shouldn't question you in front of your daughter, EVER. My husband and I would never question each other in front of our children. My husband doesn't correct me, and I don't "go to him" all the time about disciplining our son. We talk about it and how things are going and anything we want to change, but I don't need his permission to make simple choices. Also I find it laughable that he thinks a sibling relationship makes him an expert on child-raising....
 
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dawnsday said:
you would think so...right? but my bf and my daughter want to go shopping for new clothes and i want to go fishing and camping. Hmmm maybe I should listen to his advice more LOL
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I give - let me rephrase - it might be different if it were a son.
 
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he's never REALLY disciplined her. He says things like "I heard your mom say you can't do that..."
And he has rule of his property of course "don't touch the computer" etc.

but i think what he is saying is he wants to have input and the same authority her godparents or my mother has --- and for me to respect his disagreeing positions. where as i have been like you, the stepchild...and am seeing things from her position as well as my own...but don't necessarily understand HIS position
 
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I think it would be a good idea to sit down with your bf and explain to him your rules and then talk about them see if it works for everyone...basically just sit down together (maybe your child could go to gramma's for a few hours while you sort this out) and make a game plan that works for both of you.....IE No spanking (if that is your choice) Major dicipline left up to you but he may send her for time out if she is disrespecting him or his rules...Then after you have decided between the two of you, You need to sit down with your daugher and explain that he's going to be part of her life for a long time and what is expected of her where he's concerned...and maybe a few outing with just her and your bf wouldn't be a bad idea either....so they can get to know each other better.
 
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See well that has got to stop. One thing with dh and I (we are both biological parents for both our children) try never to do, is undermine each other in front of our children. It is EXTREMELY important, because the kids need to see a united front in the things we do.

So if dh tells ds (who by the way is 6 too) to go do something, I never tell him to not do it. Or if dh makes a decision that I disagree with, or asks ds to do something or I feel is too harsh with discipline, I wait until ds is out of the room to give my input and vice versa.
 
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