He said he loved me...but he lied!

[Tawnymarie]

Right now I am struggling because I was with a guy for a long time...we actually got engaged to be married...

Then just before Christmas we decided to break it off...This alone hurt me very deeply..

Then this past June I found out that he was also engaged to another girl at the same time and he broke up with me so he could marry her and not feel guilty about what he had done!

When he was married in June 2006 my life fell apart. I started self destructing and I feel as tho I still am...

I don't know what to do or how to handle this!! I cant seem to move on and I definitely cant make myself trust anyone or let them get close to me!

 

[madison1101]

Rejection and betrayal hurt deeply. I understand. My husband of 25 years left me five years ago, and has remarried. I understand that pain.

Dig deep into God's Word and study it and learn how important you are to Him.

Hugs,
Trish

 

[peri]

Ouch, that's a tough one. While it may sound cliché and oversaid - time really is a beautiful healer. You've obviously lost someone very dear to you, but it obviously wasn't meant to be. If he could be engaged to someone else while he was with you, and marry so quick after the relationship ended, at the end of the day, he's not worth it. He wasn't the one. It's ok that it hurts right now, that's perfectly understandable. But you're so very beautiful and special in the eyes of everyone else around you, you can pick up the pieces and move on. I know it's hard, I really do. But you can do it.

You know, perhaps it'd be a good idea to keep yourself busy. Get together with friends, have a laugh. Do silly things, have girly nights in. Whatever. Just try and have some fun again - you're not tied down. Your ex is off living a happy life now, he's married. In time, you'll learn to love again, you'll learn to trust. Right now, your heart and your mind needs time to heal. It just takes time and a lot of love from those people around you. If you go to church, I'm sure there'll be loads of people there who will take special care of you and pray for you. Take it easy. I know it hurts right now, but that hurt won't last forever. You're still worth something without him, you're still precious. Remember that.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Oh, I am so sorry!!

I know its hard, but just remember that God does love you, and He does have your best interest at heart. I am sure that right now, you can not even imagine thinking what happened is for the best, but I am sure in time you will come to realize that. Also, you are still so young, and God will bless you with someone. And when you DO meet that person, who treats you the way you deserve to be treated, you will be so happy that this guy left.

I know its hard to trust again after this, but you do have to give yourself time. Just trust in God, and lean on Him now. He is the only one who will never disappoint, and who will never betray your trust. I will keep you in my prayers, I cant imagine what you are going through

 

[covenantwmn]

The betrayal is what can get you, the enemy will use it and take it as far as he can to keep you from God and letting others get close. If you ask God, He will help you forgive, which will set YOU free. God calls us to righteousness and to be reflections of Christ. When these things happen we can become consumed by them, losing all focus. My prayer is that You re-focus your heart and mind on Christ, trust in Him to heal and restore your heart. I pray that He gives you a deep hunger for His Word and for His people. There is healing in being surrounded by the body of Christ, be blessed and be a blessing. I'm so sorry this happened, leave him with God. You can bet he's moved on while you're still crippled. I know the Lord has something special for you, remain in prayer and trust Him.

 

[Leanna]

I'm sorry, it always hurts to be betrayed. It won't be any consolation now, but it will get better. If you allow it, time can heal a lot of pain. I know it has for me. Don't let yourself self destruct, keep busy and just wait and it will get better.... you're so young and there will be someone better for you. That woman who married him married someone who sounds like he has a large potential to be unfaithful. You didn't want to be her.

 

[WordForUs]

Right now I am struggling because I was with a guy for a long time...we actually got engaged to be married...

Then just before Christmas we decided to break it off...This alone hurt me very deeply..

Then this past June I found out that he was also engaged to another girl at the same time and he broke up with me so he could marry her and not feel guilty about what he had done!

When he was married in June 2006 my life fell apart. I started self destructing and I feel as tho I still am...

I don't know what to do or how to handle this!! I cant seem to move on and I definitely cant make myself trust anyone or let them get close to me!

Love God your Savior the first and the most.
Put your heart in heaven whereno tief will rob it and no rust will eat it.
Amen.

 

[Fobian]

That is absolutaly Crazy! I am really sorry. I will pray for you!

 

[rainygirl]

I agree with what some of the other's have said...it's painful now, but in the long run it's better to have found out about this guy's character before you really did marry him. And at your age, you have SOOO much time to find out who you were really meant to be with..

 

[If Not For Grace]

This is a lesson hard learned. That's why they call it the school of hard knocks. You have met evil (enemy/devil) disguised in human form. The enemy always uses those closest to us to get to us.

Ok, you got tricked, fell for it hook,line and sinker--DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP OVER THIS. Everybody who is good, will be deceived at some point, because we have not been exposed to such and are not trained to look for it. This is one of those things that happens to others (then we become others).
Betrayal is experienced by us all.

We see the good in people, but we must learn to look deeper and discern the truth.

It is better that you found out now, rather than after you were married. Count that much as a blessing. He was probably attracted to you because you are good, honest and steadfast. He is the one who lost. Only time will heal your pain, but use this experience so you will not be tricked again
look to a man's character not his words for what his makeup is.

I will pray for your comfort, and do know that not all men are this way, but most boys are.
Give yourself time to grow and heal. The advice of get busy and get better is hard but good advice. Good luck. He's not worth hurting over. Just remember that.

 

[maidenoftruth]

He has not only rejected you but also he has betrayed you and your trust.
First of all you didn't deserve that kind of treatment no-one does.
Secondly, She was in the same situation now but she is in deeper as she is now married to him unaware of the lies that he has told.
And thirdly you are beautiful person and sound a very strong person so you can (with God's help and guidance) be strong enough to overcome this.
I wish you all the luck in the world with your situation and I pray that God gives you strength to get through this.

Hugz to you maiden x

 

[mom_one]

how sad ,but be thankful you found him out befrore you married him,he wasn't the right one for you