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he cheated.... now what?
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That seems to be the $64 question.
I wonder too and I'm not even sure my wife is doing anything or has done anything.
In my opionion it too A LOT for your husband to do what he did, so be happy about that. What he told you was devestating though, don't get me wrong.
Unfortunately only 2 things will fix these thoughts....God and time. But in the end it will be up to you to decide whether you want to go through this. God hates adultery and yet Jesus forgave the adulteress.
My prayer that I do, that I give to you, is for God to protect your mind and heart, surround them with a barrier so these thoughts don't enter. Be strong and be happy. God loves you and your husband came back....with GOD!
I wonder too and I'm not even sure my wife is doing anything or has done anything.
In my opionion it too A LOT for your husband to do what he did, so be happy about that. What he told you was devestating though, don't get me wrong.
Unfortunately only 2 things will fix these thoughts....God and time. But in the end it will be up to you to decide whether you want to go through this. God hates adultery and yet Jesus forgave the adulteress.
My prayer that I do, that I give to you, is for God to protect your mind and heart, surround them with a barrier so these thoughts don't enter. Be strong and be happy. God loves you and your husband came back....with GOD!
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united4Peace
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Prayers for you...
In our case it was the opposite and we got through it...
(Yet I was the christian all the long)
In our case it was the opposite and we got through it...
(Yet I was the christian all the long)
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kanga22
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My dh cheated on me with two women shortly after we were first married. He told me about it, and we did marriage therapy for six months. Then, we never brought it up again! Over time I was able to get past it as we created new memories together.
Although, I'm starting to believe that the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true. It's eleven years later for us and my dh's recent solution to some setbacks is to look for female companionship elsewhere. So, I'm not convinced that a man who allows himself to stray once, won't do it again.
My dh has never accepted Christ. You said that your dh has, and with that true change of heart, he will be a new creature in Christ and cast away old ways.
Although, I'm starting to believe that the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true. It's eleven years later for us and my dh's recent solution to some setbacks is to look for female companionship elsewhere. So, I'm not convinced that a man who allows himself to stray once, won't do it again.
My dh has never accepted Christ. You said that your dh has, and with that true change of heart, he will be a new creature in Christ and cast away old ways.
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AirForceTeacher
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I just yesterday thiought aboutmy wife kissing that other man. She's apologized and knows it was wrong. I have forgiven her, and will again when the painful memory hits. That's really all I can say ... when the pain hits, try to forgive. It's not anywhere near easy, nor is it pleasant advice to hera, but that's all I've been able to do.
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Take your sweet time moving back together. You need to have begun the forgiving and healing process before you do that. His telling the truth is a good thing... but was it done to make himself feel better or as step one of clearing away the rubble and building a new relationship with all new behavior? Only time will tell.
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