Have you ever paid attention to what you say to people?

[Stanfi]

This is a topic that could be posted in different forums, but where I noticed it at was dealing with a relationship. I think it can impact people in the most severe ways when it comes to relationships. Have you ever paid attention to some of the following phrases that we say to people?

1.) Talk to you soon, or talk to you later
2.) Have a nice day
3.) Take Care
4.) I will call you (for the ladies)

These are just a few, but some of many things we say to people out of "habit". Do we really mean them? This girl I was going out with would say "I will talk to you really soon". Then it would be 2 or 3 weeks before I would hear from her. I expected to hear from her in the next or two not 2 or 3 weeks, because she said "soon".

From this experience in my own life, I have made of conscious decision not say anything that I do not intend to do or mean. I think you can do a lot of damage to people by saying things you do not mean.

What are your guys opinions on this? I would be intrested in reading your comments on this.

 

[LifeInYou]

Following through on my word is one of the most important obligations I hold myself to.

I ususally tell people "I'll talk to you later" if I don't know when I'll be talking with them because if I call 'em in the next hour, it works, if I call in the next week, it works too.

 

[Donny_B]

I have a night job...so I catch myself saying "Have a good evening" when it's morning, and "Have a good morning" when it's evening. To avoid the mistake, perhaps I should say "Have a good one", and it could be either/or. I notice this being said more and more....must be from people who either work 2 jobs or have different shifts.

Talk to you later seems like a good farewell, on a one-on-one basis, which leaves the actual talking to them later up in the air.

But at the hotel I work at, we had regular flight attendants who would stay every night in the hotel (some quite attractive, I might add)...their contract ended and they started staying at another hotel. But they all told me "Talk to you later" on their last day....but haven't heard from them since...oh well!

 

[wvmtnkid]

Hey, I'm having deja vu!

Just a little reminder, please, please, whether you are male or female, don't tell someone "I'll call you" if you have no intention of doing so. You don't know how much heartache you can save by just not saying those 3 words. Am I right?

 

[desi]

I usually do not say I will do something if I won't and I only half expect others to follow through on such polite gestures. 'Polite talk' is an annoyance we bear in the name of civility. Sort of like telling your mother who's dying of cancer in the hospital, "You look great ma!"

 

[Risen Tree]

Props to all of you. "How are you doing? Fine" is something that just drives me nuts. If you don't want to know that I'm having a horrible day, then by golly, don't ask!