Hateful Calvinist

[StrugglingPilgrim]

Why are some Calvinist just plain hateful and mean? I have seen so many lately on the Internet who claim to be following the Lord and yet at the same time show so much rank vile toward those who do not hold to the same ideas that they do and they attack them unmercifully as if some how that brings glory to God.
One person in particular I have seen on the web who goes by the nic, Crazy_Calvinist, acts as if it is her God given right to attack, slander or defame anyone who disagrees with her or her Calvinist friends concerning any particular issue no matter how trivial it may be. This person brags on being a Calvinist but her words and actions leave little doubt about her relationship with the Lord.
Right theology is very important but if it is misapplied than what good is it than? How can someone make their boast about being a Calvinist and knowing all there is concerning
Reformed theology and at the same time sow no real Christian virtue or character? I am so grateful that not all Calvinist I come into contact with are as nasty and hate filled as this person is.

 

[bradfordl]

Making accusations without supporting evidence is generally considered slander. Making determinations about someone's "relationship with the Lord" can be a dangerous business. The Lord has decreed to redeem all sorts of people, and at any one time there are Christians at a wide range of growth in grace. I'm sorry you've experienced such difficulty in relating to this person. Perhaps you should pray for her.

 

[StrugglingPilgrim]

Just so you know I have decided to let it go. I no longer have any ill will toward this person and have prayed for her. I was bitter and upset for how she treated me but I can now say that I have forgiven her. She may be a true child of God for all I know and maybe she is having a hard time. At any case let the Lord deal with her in His way. I am free from any debt to this person.

And just for the record, I have never used her real name in my posts even though she has slandered me and drug my name in the mud time and time again and still does in her blogs and groups. I have forgiven her a lot more than she has ever needed to forgive me for. When I forgive I forget but she never forgives or forgets.

 

[UMP]

Just so you know I have decided to let it go. I no longer have any ill will toward this person and have prayed for her. I was bitter and upset for how she treated me but I can now say that I have forgiven her. She may be a true child of God for all I know and maybe she is having a hard time. At any case let the Lord deal with her in His way. I am free from any debt to this person.

And just for the record, I have never used her real name in my posts even though she has slandered me and drug my name in the mud time and time again and still does in her blogs and groups. I have forgiven her a lot more than she has ever needed to forgive me for. When I forgive I forget but she never forgives or forgets.

Unfortunately we all still struggle with the flesh.
Do you have any questions for "Calvinists" (for lack of a better word). I prefer to be called a Christian.
We believe in the Truth, as taught in the word of God.
What do you not agree with?

 

[Reformed98323]

I am grieved to hear of your experience but, I am sad to say, I do know exactly what you are talking about. While I AM Reformed and love the Doctrines of Grace, I have met many who identify themselves as "Calvinist" whom I call "Angry Calvinists" and "Arrogant Calvinists".

I do not think a true understanding of God's Sovereign Grace and these personality triats are compatable altho' I know I struggle with them myself.

Soli Deo Gloria.

Dean

 

[heymikey80]

As with anyone, Calvinists can be separatistic. Some strands of English Calvinism have quite a history in this.

Many strands of fundamentalism do as well.

It's very common in so many different religions to have hated, marginalized groups in them -- some of which I've experienced firsthand -- I can't say it could possibly be restricted here.

Humans can be hateful, regardless. Understand. Pray. Seek to redeem. Forgive. And Love for the sake of the hateful one.

 

[FlyingDutchman]

Why are some Calvinist just plain hateful and mean?

Most one the ones I have met are passionate about the glory of God and his absolute sovereignty. Now indeed there may well be some Calvinists who seem mean but then again that is not a disease peculiar to the Reformed.

 

[TigerBunny]

I've been labeled unkind, blunt, acidic, abrupt, and a few other things when dealing with unbelievers and...er...folks who's doctrine is wildly incorrect. I'm not afraid to state the facts on many issues and it causes some comment.

Now, that being said, when is it allowable to call a lying, blaspheming, adulterous, hate-filled, self-righteous so-and-so exactly that?

I'm all for love, gentleness, kindness, patience, humbleness...but I believe there are those out there that simply deserve the facts. If that means telling them exactly what they are in relation to thier standing with God or thier brothers...so be it.

 

[xapis]

I think most everyone gets defensive when they're core doctrinal beliefs are challenged. We're usually quite sure of ourselves which can lead to brazenness and rigidity at times.

What we must all remember... and this is especially true for us Calvinists... is that it is nothing more than God's sovereign grace that separates us from darkness. We have the truth and that should humble us, not make us boastful. Staying in the Scriptures (and not just reading our favorite authors) is probably the best cure for hardened and prideful hearts.

 

[Christiangal01]

It my sin