Happy To Be Single?

[brownyk]

1. Who here is truly happy to be single?

2 .And who is fed up of waiting for the right person?

3. Why do you feel happy/fed up about your singleness?


Well to answer my own questions!

I am very happy to be single, after dating a non Christian it has made me realise that I need to wait for the right person! I am sure that was God's intention too!

Would love to hear from you!

 

[remy]

this is probably the single most-asked question in this forum.

 

[Jeffreycentex]

I guess I am somewhat happy to be single... Yeah, sure I would like if found the right girl and got married, but that hasn't happened as of yet. Whatever path the Lord leads me down, I will follow.

 

[RadicalJeeper]

I am incredibly happy to be single right now. I love the freedoms of singles and only haveing to be responsible for myself. Now I do have times of loneliness and sometimes I get to where I wish I was getting engaged like a lot of my friends are right now. Last night at one point it hit be pretty hard. My best friend of 12 years got engaged and we had a party for him and his fiance, it was hard seeing their amazing love for each other. But at the same time it showed me an aspect of the kind of love God put in her for my friend and how my future love will have that same love for me. I just hieghtened my desire.

 

[fishstix]

1. Who here is truly happy to be single?

2 .And who is fed up of waiting for the right person?

3. Why do you feel happy/fed up about your singleness?


Well to answer my own questions!

I am very happy to be single, after dating a non Christian it has made me realise that I need to wait for the right person! I am sure that was God's intention too!

Would love to hear from you!

I am happy to be single. I know that is what God wants for me right now - there is no way that marriage would be right for me at this point in my life. I may be 24, but I really am not ready for that kind of relationship - it wouldn't be beneficial for me or for the other person. As a single person, I am able to concentrate more on my relationship with God, friendships with other people, personal growth, and my career than I would be if I also had a significant other to focus on. I enjoy the freedom of being able to make major decisions like where to live and what car to own and whether to spend tens of thousands of dollars on another degree without having to consult anyone but God. I like being able to hang out with friends of the opposite gender without the awkwardness that having a significant other might add to the equation. My life isn't perfect by any means, but overall, I know that singleness is the right lifestyle for me right now.

 

[MrDude]

Sign me up for number 2. I'm sick of waiting. All anyone ever says about anything is "wait for it" or "wait for God's timing" blah blah blah blah. Waiting gets old. I've never had any form of romantic contact with a girl, I've never even had a girl slightly interested in me.

It's not just romance I'm tired of waiting for. I want to be a cop. I've wanted two things my entire life, even since I was a tiny little kid, to be a cop, and to have a loving wife. I've been waiting 16(since I was 3) years for both, and I'm sick of waiting.

 

[vibrant]

i'm happy being single.

 

[awashinlove]

1. Who here is truly happy to be single?

2 .And who is fed up of waiting for the right person?

3. Why do you feel happy/fed up about your singleness?

*Truly* happy?

Well, I'm happy being single, but that's not to say that singleness isn't frustrating and lonely at times. I'm thrilled to wait on God's plan because with everything in his loving hands, I'm secure in knowing his perfect plan is in store for me, whatever that may be. But seriously, sometimes I really wish the Big Guy would get a move on.

Blessings,
awashinlove

 

[waterbear]

this is probably the single most-asked question in this forum.

Well it's always phrased differently at least

As for me, I'm not ready for a relationship and - granted I'm not making any serious efforts to change this - I suppose I'm content being single.

 

[Redneck]

this is probably the single most-asked question in this forum.

Ok. That's seriously a bad pun. Was it intended?

I'm not unhappy being single. I know that the right person will come into my life at the right time and God has a plan for me. That's enough.

Right now, I'm more than happy to wait because this way I can keep up on my school work.

 

[ZACTAK]

At times I am tired of being single and at other times I am happy to be single. I have been single virtually my entire life, besides a few dates here and there that never developed into anything.

I am tired of being single because I want to be able to treat a woman like royalty, and have someone to talk to openly about things without fear of what might happen.

On the other hand, I like not being tied down and having to worry about what my girlfriend might be doing or if she would want me to do something with her instead. I also don't have time right now to have one, I am too busy with my studies and God is still working on me... and I also believe God will deliver me girlfriend(s) when He is ready for me to have one.

 

[Gopher]

Well, although I know that I am in no position to get married right now (school...), I have been single for nearly 3 years now, and the one thing I desire most is someone to love, and be loved by. It would be nice to find the person that will one day be my wife.

 

[lunalinda]

1. Who here is truly happy to be single?

Not truly happy, no, but am perfectly capable of bearing it.

2 .And who is fed up of waiting for the right person?

Nah, not fed up. Irritated at times, yes. Bratty, yes, but not fed up. If I were fed up, I'd be dating any guy I can. I guess I just try and tell myself that the longer I wait, the more "perfect" the person is going to be. He just takes a lot longer to complete. But who am I to rush God? Heh.

3. Why do you feel happy/fed up about your singleness?

Well I'm not happy because I feel like I have more "use" when I'm in a relationship. Well maybe not use, but...well...I just feel more comfortable in a role like that. I like caring for that special someone. I like seeking another's opinion. I like NOT thinking of JUST myself. I like being in a team, when each player can lean on the other when he/she needs to, and vice versa. I like the affections that I just can't show with anyone else. I just like the companionship. Even if I haven't had enough of this (which I haven't) I still know that it's what feels best for me. Hopefully, it's what God wants, cuz if not, then I'm in for a rude awakening.

But as I said, I'm not fed up with my singleness. Day by day I realize just how much I should REALLY know about myself, my relationship with God, and what He wants to do in my life. And day by day I realize that He must do the same thing for whatever future spouse he wants to give me to. I may think that I'm ready and able to maintain a healthy, long-term, committed relationship (which is true), but who knows...maybe God says that I'm not ready at all, and still wants to do His work in me, which is why he puts an end to relationships I was (at the time) thrilled to be in. And Father knows best, right? *shrugs* All will be revealed in time.

 

[Macrina]

I suppose I fall into the "happy to be single" category. I'm a rather private and independent person, so I like having my own space and the freedom to make my own decisions. I don't feel like I need a man to "complete" me. In fact, I know that relationships, specifically marriage, require a lot of work and sacrifice. If that is something that God has for me, then He will bless it and it will be worth all the difficultites... but at the same time, I have to appreciate the fact that my energies are free to serve the Lord in other ways.

With that said, I don't want to come across like I am against marriage or anything -- I'm happy to be where I am, but I can see that if things changed, I'd be happy there, too. I would have to give up some independence and privacy, but (ideally) I would gain a partner, a confidante, and a close bond of a kind only to be had between husband and wife. That kind of companionship, with the right person, would be worth the work and the sacrifice. Specifically, I think a partnership with someone who shared my passion for serving God would be wonderful -- so that my adventures in ministry could be shared with someone. (He doesn't have to be in formal ministry, just the common ministry to which all believers are called.)

So, I'm truly happy to be single as long as I can serve God best in this way. If I find someone to be a companion in my walk of discipleship, than I believe I would be happy with that, as well. I guess I'm just content with whatever lot God sends my way.

 

[Talie]

I love being able to do stuff - eat - go out - sleep in - whatever without having to consider how it might affect my significant other - my life at the moment has pretty much no schedule (mostly due to health reasons) and I think it would be extreemly difficult trying to work around someone else's needs.

Also, I'm very busy right now - well, in relative terms, and I simply don't have any quality time to spend with someone - and as Im' happy with my work - I'm happy with my general situation in life.

I haven't felt down about being alone in quite a long time

 

[chanis]

I would agree with Remy that is always asked...I think we need to learn to be content in what ever stage of life we're in and make the best out of it, we can't have these pity parties of "oh life sucks because I don't have a SO." We need to find happiness and fullness in who we are in Christ versus trying to find that happiness in another person...

 

[brownyk]

I would agree with Remy that is always asked...I think we need to learn to be content in what ever stage of life we're in and make the best out of it, we can't have these pity parties of "oh life sucks because I don't have a SO." We need to find happiness and fullness in who we are in Christ versus trying to find that happiness in another person...

Well I'm relatively new and have not seen it asked when I looked back at posts.

 

[woman.at.the.well]

I am finally at a place where I am happy about being single. I've just decided that is apparently where God wants me and I am really just fine with it. I'm happy wherever He has me/puts me.

I haven't given up on finding a good Christian mate however. And I never will.

 

[chanis]

Well I'm relatively new and have not seen it asked when I looked back at posts.

it's all good!

 

[remy]

Well I'm relatively new and have not seen it asked when I looked back at posts.

Agreed, it's all good. Welcome to the forums, btw.