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I am new to these boards, just found it while googling Christian sites to get real advice from other christians like me, Idk what to do anymore, this is my problem: I'm in love with another boy >.>
He knows I like him, But homosexuality is wrong, how do I cure myself from these thoughts I am having?
All I think of is hugging and kissing him ;________;
I haven't told anyone, not even my parents or pastor, do any of you have any advice? I need some fast >.>
 

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Where you go to discuss this issue wil depend on where you are living and what resources are available. You need careful, sensitive advice that is biblically based, but which is practical and supportive, not merely judgemental.

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This is a difficult situation. I was in a similar predicament once but God helped me. Despite everything, make it a firm decision to stay with Jesus no matter what. He definetly sees the faith of gay people too. In my case, I was a porn addicted pseudo-transsexual, and I confessed it to God in a prayer session and God healed me. That is, he had taken the nasty past away. When I get really down by life my body still remembers the addiction, but I can trust in Jesus and it's ok, I can resist the temptation. I got a girlfriend now and it's real love and I don't miss a thing. It's what my true self wants. Do some self examination. Maybe you're like me and the homosexuality just is a certain thrill that you don't have to follow by all means. Turn the love into a friendship. If the attraction persists, go talk to other gay christians who are respectable, who don't practice promiscuity most of all. The gay scene can be horrible in that regard. The love part Jesus understands and isn't antagonistic about, but the sex part simply is against nature. I know it's hard. Ask God to show you women in His light. Realize that modern homosexuality just aims at satisfying the high male libido. It promises a kind of freedom in sex that definetly isn't good. All the best, young brother!
 
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Lach_Nexx,

Hope all is well with you. It doesn't sound like you are struggling with solely sexual interest or transsexualism. Same sex romantic feelings or desires are much more difficult (or maybe impossible) to change. I encourage you to tell your parents or get advice from an adult you trust; if you know and trust your pastor, talk to him/her. Also, you need to be open and honest with the boy you are spending time with. If his feelings are mutual, you should let him know of your doubts without being judgmental. Whether a Christian or not, you should treat him with respect, and part of this is telling him of your doubts.
 
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My Little Brother,

You are a Child of the Living God. You were never gay. You might have thought so, and indeed, you was going through a very young phase in your life. Yes there are people, circumstances, and even so negative thinking in your part to make you think you were. The Deceiver,Satan, wanted you to believe there was something wrong with you. Now, because you have had people praying for you it has come to this. You have a special gift and calling from God, and now that you Know the Truth, strenghten your relationship with the Father through prayer. Concentrate on releasing that gift through guidance and leading of the Holy Spirit. Put on the mind of Christ and fight the good fight of faith.
Spend more time reading and studying the Word. Saturate your mind with the instructions of the Lord. Focus on doing what is pleasing to God. You have to stand your ground when impure thoughts and temptation comes and try to discourage you. You are a child of the living God and He has given you all the power you need to say "NO". The more you seek of Him, the stronger you become in dealing with impure thoughts and temptation. There might be a time when you might slip, but don't get discourage and dwell on your mistake. In Christ Jesus, you have what it takes to overcome. Fight the good fight and keep the faith. Be honest with yourself and others, spend more time with friends that you know are sincere and are there to help you out regardless what the situation may be. Most important, strenghten your relationship with the Father through prayer, remember He is the One and Only who will truely be there for you.
You can face each day certain that your life and future are in the hands of Someone who loves you unconditionally. Many of us get caught up in striving to please God in the things we do that we forget our first and highest calling is just to be in fellowship with him. Faith is the most powerful of all forces operating in humanity, and when you have it in depth, nothing can get you down, nothing. If you refuse to faint and fall away, you will have the victory. The only defeated Chrsitian is the one who quits (2Tim 2:3). Things may get a little rough at times but let me assure you, you'll always come out on top if you endure hardness as a good soldier. Get a revelation of God's love for you by meditating on the covenant He made with you (John 3:16). The Bible says God's mercies are new every morning. So if you'll take God at His Word, you can wake up every morning to a brand-new you.


IN PERFECT LOVE,

JESUS
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