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[Frankie1982]

I used to look at porn in my past, and touch as well, which i consider a sin, in the context that when you do so, you are most likely lusting after another person. However, I find that I get physically aroused at random times, even if there is nothing close to a sexual thought in my head. Any advice as to what to do? I know in my heart that these physical problems are not a sin in themselves, but I don't know how to pray about them or to get rid of them when the time is not appropriate.
-Frankie

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Don't worry, Frank, it's entirely normal what you're experiencing. It's called puberty, and it'll pass. Someday you'll think back and be amused at how you were standing in front of your whole class when ... it happened. You don't need to pray about this at all. Every guy in middle school has random erections. Even Jesus, when he was your age.

Congratulations on giving up pornography. God bless you. There are so many people, even ministers, who struggle with that their whole lives ... I'm not one of them, but I've read some pretty saddening testimonies.

-Adam

 

[monkeystink]

All of us guys go thru it sooner or later. I remember being mortified as I was expected to work out a problem on the black board in math one time. Talk about stalling. It seemed like forever.

As far as the porn goes...it is an ongoing struggle with me even if I have been away from it for a couple of months now. Every day removed is a day that is easier to remove myself from it. Does that make sense?

Anyway, I also want to address anyone that has issues with porn. It is a tough addiction to break. Your best bet is to confide in someone that you trust and ask that person to be your accountability partner. The AP will be the person that you can call anytime when urges get strong to fall into the same trap. Your AC is best if they are a Christian. Christians know why you are having this struggle when a secular person guy may ever condone or champion the cause that you are fighting against.

Brothers, I will pray that we can overcome all of these urges and lead a more Christ like life...

Blessings in Him
Eric

 

[doofus125]

I don't think any of us guys don't get an errection from time to time, mostly from built up sexual tension and there isn't anything you can do about it because the sexual tension is natural. I'm going to be 26 and have them all the time and they do happen in awkward places. I just try to think about something else and it goes away.

 

[LovingMinistry]

It's great that someone brought up this post, and good to see you guys so supportive.

I know it is very hard. I found it hard to give up pornography. I used it to feel good, kill time when I was bored, and release all those tensions. A relationship I was in wasn't very fulfilling so I used it to stimulate myself. But back then I had lost GOD as a major part in my life, probably why I felt my relationship wasn't fulfiling. But now that HE's back he has shown me how I allowed satan to take control of my life.

doofus is right. Think of righteous things, "all that is good, all that is pure, think of these things", it helps keep your mind on what HE wants for you.

These sexual tensions can be hard to deal with, especially when people around you are doing these wrong things.

You are right Frankie. Your heart is guiding you well. Keep it up! Er.... you know what I mean... But we always seem to just tie these things to lust and say "lust is a sin but if I'm not lusting after anyone then I'm ok". It is natural that we get errections from time to time, you might wake up and notice it, but it goes away, or you might touch someone, or be with someone that makes you feel the same way.

I have been questioning my feelings about sexual contact and that sort of thing. Often I think I need to do an activity to keep my mind on GOD. The Bible is a good place to start. If you have it with you you feel less inclined to do anything that you feel is wrong. I found that to be a great way of keeping myself from doing anything that might be against GOD. Try watching a funny DVD, one without any sexual or adult references of course, my personal favourite series is "Red Dwarf". Go for a jog, or a walk in the park. Find some other Christians to talk to. Hang out with your parents for a while (you'll be surprised how helpful they can really be). Play a Video Game you really like. Basically you just need to take your mind out of that situation and point it in the right direction.