Growing up without a mom

[Tmac1818]

So my mom died a while ago from cancer. It was not totally unexpected as she had fought cancer for most of my life that I can remember, starting around when I was 6. She was a very religious person unlike my father. I was never too into religion and when that happened, it only made it worse. I was very depressed for a while after and would think about it all of the time. Since then I completely denied God and thought I knew He was fake. In the past few months Ive been trying to find what I really can believe and I am trying to become a Christian again.

Lately Ive been thinking about my life and what it will be like. I was much more close to her than anyone else I knew. Now Im thinking how this might affect my life. Does anybody know what can happen? Ive heard some things about people ending up being messed up for life because of it.

I know that my mom really believed in God and she wanted me to, too. I want to do what is right and I have no clue where to start.

 

[Mask]

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom! That must have been terrible for you, at such a young age, especially. Just because your mom died at a young age doesn't mean that you will be messed up! Lots of people only have one parent and they are doing fine in life. My mom died a few years ago and I still miss her a lot but the sadness has gone. I pray that God will heal your hurting heart and bring you comfort. Your mom loved God and would want you to have a relationship with God too but only you can make that decision. If you just talk to God and ask Him to reveal Himself to you...He will! You just need to ask Him to come into your life and be your Lord and Savior...He will! You can talk to God, just like you would talk to you best friend, except He will always be there, and He will always listen and understand, He will always love you, no matter what ! Isn't that awesome? It would be a great time to start reading you bible too. The new testament would be the best place for you to start. There really isn't any big science to becoming a Christian! You just accept Christ's sacrifice that He made for our sins and accept Him into your life! Very simple!!!

I will be praying for you! I pray that you will come to know God! I pray for peace and blessings for you! Let me know what decision you make!

 

[Petunia]

Hi Tmac.
Your mom isn't just gone. You will see her again. It may be a hundred years from now.. but when you do see her, it will be as if you last saw her a few minutes ago. She lives eternal. She still knows you.. and still loves you.

Click the link below to find out how the Lord feels about you.

http://www.fathersloveletter.com/fllnarration.html

 

[lavenderskies]

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father when I was 24 and was devastated. He was my best friend.
I encourage you to visit this site.
http://www.rfgifts.com/
its a christian grief ministry

I wrote letters to my father after he passed away, it really helped me to work through the grief. I also saw a grief counselor.

Know that your mother is watching over you. I consider my father my guardian angel.

I am praying for you!

 

[DarkLegend28]

I guess I don't know what to say. My father left when I was 5 and my mother died of cancer that she fought for three years last june. I was pretty much an orphan until my sister took me in, mostly for the insurance money.. because her and her husband and their kids despise the crap out of me... But I guess I thought anything was better than my stepfather.. Anyhow, that's besides the point.. You aren't at this alone. Feel free to drop me a pm if you want to.

 

[Musician4Jesus]

I don't know if this is of any solace, but I lost my father recently, and I'm only 23. I was blessed to be able to grow up in a home where I had two parents. However, I became a Christian when I was 17. Ever since then, when my father was alive, our relationship deteriorated. A rift developed between us, as I lived a completely different lifestyle then he did. I also grew up into an adult, and became capable of making my own decisions for my life, which I think he refused to acknowledge that I was actually capable of doing so (at least he expressed this in his actions sometimes). I tried to love him the best I knew how, it was extremely hard to know how to love him, when I'm a Christian and he wasn't. I wish our relationship had been better, but sadly, if you're a Christian who truly lives your faith out and really loves God, then it just comes with the territory.

 

[wizdim10]

My heart goes out to all in this forum. I know what you are all experiencing. My mother died very suddenly 8 years ago when I was only 12. As I am the only religious person in my family, this time was very hard for me and I began to question my religion. My faith is starting to be restored after finding a great church last year. Also the support of one of my good friends. I miss Mum everyday and always think what it would be like if she was still with me in everyday situation. But I know I will see her again one day

 

[BAFRIEND]

I never knew my dad because he was killed in Vietnam when I was a month old. He left for the war the very day I was born.

Going through his stuff as a kid and a teenager I would read all the religious stuff he liked to read. It was what developed and shaped my faith. My father was able to teach me about Christ and lead me in the path even though I never in a physical sense ever heard his voice.

I know it is hard not to be bitter and blame God, but God did not take her from you, your mother is still with you.

 

[sunflower2007]

I'm sorry you have had to live without your mother. No child should have to lose their mother. I don't know about those statistics, but you don't have to be one of them. There are children with only one parent who grow up to be fine people.

You didn't lose your mother, she is still alive, she's just in another place. When people die, it is just like they walked into another room. You can't see her, but she is just as real as any of us are.

You can be just as close to Jesus as you were to your mom. He loves you and wants to have a personal relationship with you. He has the best plans for you. Jeremiah 29:11- "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a future and a hope."

It is wonderful that you are trying to become a Christian again. There is no need to try to become a Christian, just cry out to Jesus. The Bible says you only need to believe (entrust your being to the Lord), repent (turn from your sins to God), and confess your sins and you will be saved. If you have any questions, feel free to ask away. There are many of us on here that would be more than happy to help you.

You said you don't know where to start... You can start by crying out to the Lord and asking Him to reveal Himself to you. He will!

Matthew 7:7-8
"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened."