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Growing together

Kehaar

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Hello all :wave:

I was hoping for some advice here. As a couple, is there anything you do specifically to grow together spiritually?

My bf and I don't attend the same church and he is also an elder Christian than myself by quite a few years. We do try and attend events together, pray together and I'm hoping we might do some bible study together too in the not to distant future.

Sorry if this seems like a silly question, just something I've been wondering about for a while! :D

Thanks!

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I don't think it's a silly question at all, but I think it's a hard question to answer. Faith is very individualized, and each person has their own ways of experiencing their faith. People also share their faith in different ways, and have different expectations for sharing faith in a relationship. I think you're off to a good start with the praying together, and if both of you want to, the Bible study sounds like a good idea.

My bf attends a different church than I do too, and that's sometimes hard because church is such an important part of both of our lives, but we do not experience it together. (not at this point anyway). So ya, I'd encourage you to talk about what faith means to you, not just individually, but together as well. What do you need individually to grow in faith?
 
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I would talk about it and pray together. My bf and I attend the same church and it has been such a strong point in our relationship because we are so close in church. He is away at college so we are unable to attend together on Sunday evenings and Wed. and it is harder. After church we always talk about the sermons, services etc.
Talk about faith a lot, share what God is teaching you and what you are studying in your Bible.
 
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tinkerbell

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Maeyken said:
I don't think it's a silly question at all, but I think it's a hard question to answer. Faith is very individualized, and each person has their own ways of experiencing their faith. People also share their faith in different ways, and have different expectations for sharing faith in a relationship. I think you're off to a good start with the praying together, and if both of you want to, the Bible study sounds like a good idea.
I totally agree!! It's so different for each couple. I think one thing that is quite helpful though is just talking to each other about where you are spiritually. That way you can know how to pray for your SO's spiritual journey, and your SO will know how to support you as well. I think it's a wonderful thing to pray about though. As Maeyken said, it's very individualized, for some doing ministry things together might be good, for others, having in depth Bible studies are good, for others, singing and praising God together is good, and the list goes on and on and on and on. I will be praying that God will guide you though!
 
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