Grief

[Jeldist]

Thanks for the support.

 

[Rememberme]

cuz i have nothing to live for and nobody likes me anyways and i have 0 friends and nothing to do so bye.

Oh Jeldist .Please Hang in there.You are so valuable to give the enemy what he wants.You had a huge loss at such a young age.Remember you were here helping me the other day and gave me encouragement.It's a moment and will pass.You had a lifetime of dreams with your sweet Angel and poof.Gone.It takes time to recover from that.You are the age of my youngest son and I would so hate to see him in a deep depression.Have you had any counseling since your wife passed?You may need to talk to someone.I know it is probably hard to relate to your peers at this age.Most are out doing their own thing at this age.You have a sorrow that perhaps set you apart right now.Jesus knows that sorrow.We have to remember that.That is why he walked that hard road on the way to Calvary for us.He saw you and I and wanted to fulfill His Fathers will.It was for us.Now we have an advocate that knows all the pain and sorrow we would feel.I know it is not easy Jeldist. It is easier to yield to our grief and deep deep pain.You are loved by the Father.Gods not angry at you.He loves you with an everlasting love. At such a young age it may be harder to sort out all your feeling and to process it.

Can you go to a local church and talk to your priest?I don't know where you live, in a rural area or more populated area so it depends on what is available to you.Do you have family?Are you working?

I noticed on your posts that you like vampires.Can I give you some motherly advice? This is offered in love so do not be offended. When we watch this kind of thing you can open yourself up to darkness from the other side.If you know what I mean.

If you need to talk you can PM me.I am not your age but I have experience with your age.Please seek help if you are in this downward spiral.Praying for you.You are loved.

 

[astein]

1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon Him; for He careth for you.

 

[astein]

Hebrews 12:3 For consider Him that endured such contradiction of sinners against Himself, lest ye be weary and faint in your minds.

 

[Christianwidow]

cuz i have nothing to live for and nobody likes me anyways and i have 0 friends and nothing to do so bye.

Jeldist - please hold on and let God work in you. Deep down inside you know He loves you and cares for you. Get on your knees right now and pour out your heart to the Lord. He knows how you are feeling. He wants to help you. Your circumstances won't change right now, but you will have a peace which passes all understanding. He promises that. "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. AND THE PEACE OF GOD, WHICH PASSETH ALL UNDERSTANDING, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7

You have a friend here, Jeldist.

Christian Widow

 

[astein]

Psalm 23
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.

He maketh me to lie down in greenhttp://www.christianforums.com/#fn-descriptionAnchor-a pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointesthttp://www.christianforums.com/#fn-descriptionAnchor-b my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever.

 

[CGL1023]

Oh Jeldist .Please Hang in there.You are so valuable to give the enemy what he wants.You had a huge loss at such a young age.Remember you were here helping me the other day and gave me encouragement.It's a moment and will pass.You had a lifetime of dreams with your sweet Angel and poof.Gone.It takes time to recover from that.You are the age of my youngest son and I would so hate to see him in a deep depression.Have you had any counseling since your wife passed?You may need to talk to someone.I know it is probably hard to relate to your peers at this age.Most are out doing their own thing at this age.You have a sorrow that perhaps set you apart right now.Jesus knows that sorrow.We have to remember that.That is why he walked that hard road on the way to Calvary for us.He saw you and I and wanted to fulfill His Fathers will.It was for us.Now we have an advocate that knows all the pain and sorrow we would feel.I know it is not easy Jeldist. It is easier to yield to our grief and deep deep pain.You are loved by the Father.Gods not angry at you.He loves you with an everlasting love. At such a young age it may be harder to sort out all your feeling and to process it.

Can you go to a local church and talk to your priest?I don't know where you live, in a rural area or more populated area so it depends on what is available to you.Do you have family?Are you working?

I noticed on your posts that you like vampires.Can I give you some motherly advice? This is offered in love so do not be offended. When we watch this kind of thing you can open yourself up to darkness from the other side.If you know what I mean.

If you need to talk you can PM me.I am not your age but I have experience with your age.Please seek help if you are in this downward spiral.Praying for you.You are loved.

Posted in the wrong place; this was intended to be a response to Jeldist and don't know how to make that correction.

My pastor says, in your(Jeldist's) situation, if you are feeling down-hearted, despondent, feeling miserable etc, you are not spending enough time with Jesus. I am happy that I had that advice to rely on as it really works.

 

[blackribbon]

How do you NOT feel down-hearted, despondent, and miserable in the wake of your spouse and best friend's death? Loneliness hurts. The longing to join Jesus in a real way becomes very desirable.

I am not saying that it is the right option, but I am saying I do understand when people feel this way. I know I had to cling hard to Jesus to survive...but no amount of clinging made me feel "better" or less miserable...I just clung to the fact that God must have had a reason for leaving me behind at this time and I wasn't going to argue.

God did provide moments of "perfect peace" amongst my mourning that let me know that He still loved me and would care for me in my sadness.

 

[manny101]

Dear blackribbon I am sorry for your loss. I went through several losses and it seems that when it happens nothing makes sense - there is a sense of numbness, loneliness, insecurity, death of dreams and love. Remember God is faithful and He will never let you down. It has been 2 years and finally God is taking me out of the pit of despair, victimization and a new and better person is emerging. My focus is out of me and on others that need encouragement because I know how I felt and it seemed like no one cared or listened to my despair. God has used bible tapes - I go to sleep listening to it and wake up listening to it. If you want to correspond feel free to do so. your sister in Christ manny

 

[amenkid777]

Jeldist, God loves you dearly, and He knows and understands and cares deeply about how you are feeling. I will be praying for you, that God would fill you with peace, love, and be encouraging you like a good friend. When I first became a Christian, I didn't have any friends for a long time. I came out of a lot of issues, and had so much to deal with that I wasn't like the normal Christians around me who were following the Lord pretty well and had been taught well. It took a little while for God to work a lot of pain and wounds out of me. If you seek God, and keep asking, and let Him be your friend first, and show you how to be a friend to others, you will find a friend. I'm not saying you are unfriendly, I don't know you, but that is how it was for me. Honestly, I can still shut myself off from others sometimes. But I have gotten a lot better. You could also find a good church and get involved in serving somewhere and find a friend there. You will be in my prayers, I will pray you know how much God cares and how there for you He is.

 

[Lindaschatting]

What I did learn out of all my pain and total darkness was this. In order to get through all of it, I had to take just ONE thing at a time to deal with it. Not one day at a time.. but ONE THING that I was left with to deal with after my husband died. Everything else had to be put on hold, Write it all out in a notebook, get the priorities straight and tell everyone else, that's it! I can not do things the way that YOU want me to, I am in to much pain. God bless you.. God give you all strength.