Grief

[Christelvg]

How do you overcome grief?

 

[Boidae]

How do you overcome grief?

You overcome grief by working through the 7 stages of it. Without working through all 7 stages of grief, that grief will weigh on you until you do.

If it feels as though it's getting to be too much to bear, talk to God and ask Him to help you get past it.

 

[Christelvg]

is there perhaps a text in the Bible about grief?

 

[znr]

is there perhaps a text in the Bible about grief?

http://nitewriter.net/BibleScripturestoComfort.htm

 

[BFine]

Are you asking us an "Open" question or are you seeking
help for the grief you are dealing with?

Not trying to be rude, just wanting clarification.

 

[Johnnz]

Grief is very real. People work through their grief in different ways and at different rates. There are some helpful guidelines around. Grief is a time for being very real and honest, not being 'super-spiritual' and flicking it off quickly.

John
NZ

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

How do you overcome grief?

I do not think grief is something you can overcome, it is something that must be accepted. Just know that when you are in the grief seasons of your life that you look to Christ for comfort. He will lead you and guide you through the haze of questions and sadness because He truly cares for you.

We can come to Him to find the calmness and peace in the God of all consolation.

"casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7)

"But I am poor and needy; Yet the Lord thinketh upon me: Thou art my help and my deliverer; Make no tarrying, O my God." (Psalm 40:17)

When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. "Where have you laid him?" he asked. "Come and see, Lord," they replied. Jesus wept. Then the Jews said, "See how he loved him!" (John 11:33-36)

 

[paul1149]

The significant factor in dealing with grief is to acknowledge the Lord alongside us all the way, comforting and guiding us through it.

Some verses that come to mind are:

Casting all your care on him; for he cares for you. 1Pe 5.7

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.
If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer.
Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort.
For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead.
He delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will deliver us again.
You also must help us by prayer, so that many will give thanks on our behalf for the blessing granted us through the prayers of many. -2Cor 1:3-11

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. -Rom 8.28​

 

[iambren]

Take the pain, let time heal.

 

[scrofford]

My dad died on Feb 24th 2010 suddenly at 66 years of age and I can relate to grief! What can I say? The pain is excruciating at first! Your life is turned upside down and you are usually numb. As the days go by, if you know the Lord, you lean on Him and talk to Him and cry out to Him, and cry out to Him more. Those that don't know the Lord just cry.

The truth is that as time goes by, you do feel somewhat better. You go through sadness, anger, blame and a whole bunch of other emotions. Your heart is ripped in two. You wonder why this had to happen. You wonder if the pain will ever go away. I'm here to tell you it does. Just not completely. I don't think you ever get over it.

You lean on the Lord. He heals your heart so you can function. He gives you the strength to make it through the next minute, hour, day. He does, it's true! This was probably the hardest things I ever went through - losing my dad. But I know where he is and I know I will see him again someday.

You can't let the grief overcome you. You overcome it by focusing on the Lord. That's the only way I know. And He brings you through it. You never really get over losing someone you love. But God can help you and heal your heart. I hope this helps.

 

[NoelAsa]

How do you overcome grief?

I don't think you can ever overcome grief. It just gets better to deal with as time passes. My husband died four years ago on July 1. I went to grief counseling which helped me a lot. I used Hospice for the counseling because it was what we had used during his final week. Some chuches also have classes in grief counseling. At the time my church did not have any, but last year they started one.

At my local Hospice they will also allow people who did not use it to attend their grief sessions. Not all Hospice centers will do this, but you might call your local Hospice and see if they will. This is a free service.

Try the churches in your area to see if they have grief counseling classes. This is also free, but you will have to buy whatever book they are using. Usually you do not have to be a member of that church to go to the classes.

It was very comforting to be around people who were experiencing the same emotions I was. It was very healing. I even became friends with some of the people and we still see each other.

Praying for you. I understand how hard it can be.

 

[Peripatetic]

Grief is a time for being very real and honest, not being 'super-spiritual' and flicking it off quickly.

Very true. There is no quick fix magic formula for grief. In my experience, the key ingredients to dealing with grief are honesty and hope. As John mentioned, being honest means accepting grief for a period of time. Don't try to push it away quickly, but let it work through its cycles.

Hope is what helps me to get through the first stages that are some of the toughest. I know that this loss happened for a reason. I trust that time and perspective will eventually begin to heal the wounds, so I can face it as a very difficult but temporary period of pain and sorrow.

 

[Christelvg]

Are you asking us an "Open" question or are you seeking
help for the grief you are dealing with?

Not trying to be rude, just wanting clarification.

I know of someone who is grieving, and I'm trying to help that person.

 

[Christelvg]

I don't think you can ever overcome grief. It just gets better to deal with as time passes. My husband died four years ago on July 1. I went to grief counseling which helped me a lot. I used Hospice for the counseling because it was what we had used during his final week. Some chuches also have classes in grief counseling. At the time my church did not have any, but last year they started one.

At my local Hospice they will also allow people who did not use it to attend their grief sessions. Not all Hospice centers will do this, but you might call your local Hospice and see if they will. This is a free service.

Try the churches in your area to see if they have grief counseling classes. This is also free, but you will have to buy whatever book they are using. Usually you do not have to be a member of that church to go to the classes.

It was very comforting to be around people who were experiencing the same emotions I was. It was very healing. I even became friends with some of the people and we still see each other.

Praying for you. I understand how hard it can be.

Thank you very much for your advice.
This person is not very keen on talking to any counselors. I've tried suggesting it. But I will try again.