Perhaps some of you have seen me posting in different areas of the forum.I have been recovering from a divorce that I initiated three years ago. I am having a very hard time letting go apparently. I have a lot of anger. 
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I know your feelings. I am in the same situation. I may be going through a separtion soon. My wife has given me many chances and I keep doing the same thing. I however did not initiate the separation but I contributed to it. I need help and I am seeking it very seriously now. I am getting in individual counseling, group counseling and on meds and I will be more active in my church. Our world has to many divorces and I don't want to be divorced like my parents beacuse its like a never ending cycle that must be broken. Remember all things are possible for those who believe in Christ.
Why did you choose to separate for your spouse? Are you angry about what your spouse did to cause the separaton?
I look forward to your reply.
Why did you choose to separate for your spouse? Are you angry about what your spouse did to cause the separaton?
I look forward to your reply.
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My former spouse is an alcoholic and has mental health problems. He won't deal with his alcohol problem, and now after 3 years, he is finally dealing with his mental health problem. I couldn't take it anymore.
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Well, for me, identifying who I'm angry at and what I'm angry about is a huge part of resolving it and moving on. 
Like - when I went through my divorce ages ago - I found that as much as I was angry at my former spouse - I was actually angrier at myself for "being so stupid as to ignore the warning signs" - and thinking that I could end up anywhere *but* divorced. It seemed like those years had been such a monumental waste of time - and I was angriest about the fact that *I* had willingly chosen that path.
As much as I wanted to sit back and say "what a kook" about my ex - and blame them - the sad reality was that she simply was what she was. The fault didn't rest upon the leopard for having it's stripes - the fault laid with me for thinking I could change them.
...but that was just me.
I think that recognizing anger is part of really dealing with it - and then being able to finish the grieving process so you can truly move on and be done with it...
Ya know?
Like - when I went through my divorce ages ago - I found that as much as I was angry at my former spouse - I was actually angrier at myself for "being so stupid as to ignore the warning signs" - and thinking that I could end up anywhere *but* divorced. It seemed like those years had been such a monumental waste of time - and I was angriest about the fact that *I* had willingly chosen that path.
As much as I wanted to sit back and say "what a kook" about my ex - and blame them - the sad reality was that she simply was what she was. The fault didn't rest upon the leopard for having it's stripes - the fault laid with me for thinking I could change them.
...but that was just me.
I think that recognizing anger is part of really dealing with it - and then being able to finish the grieving process so you can truly move on and be done with it...
Ya know?
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