Good place to go for a first date

[jenste]

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[Living4Him03]

I don't mean to burst your bubble, but before you do any asking out, ponder these thoughts :

-Is he really that shy? Could there be a possibility that your friends are the ones putting the pressure on you two to date, even though it may or may not be something he wants at this time?

-Have you spent time together talking and getting to know each other first so that you will know whether he's really interested?

-Are you just reacting to pressure from others that think you are "meant to be" or is it real?

-Love at first sight? You can find someone attractive at first sight, but I don't believe God brings two people together through "first sight" it's more about building a lasting friendship and letting God take you where He wants you to go

It has been my experience that most guys like to pursue a girl, and do not prefer being pursued. Maybe you should wait until he shows more interest and begins pursuing you? If you do decide to ask him out, ask him to do something simple...don't make it into a big romantic occasion. I think guys like to woo us and if you are doing all the wooing for him it takes the fun out of it. This doesnt mean you can't show some interest. Give him compliments, encourage him, tell him how much you enjoy the time you spend together, etc. Chances are, if he feels the same, he will take the intiative and ask you out if he sees that you are interested. Hope that helps!

 

[SlowRoasted]

Go somewhere where you can talk, i would say movies are a definite no no. Just take a stroll in the park or go to a coffee shop. Ive always thought the guy was supposed to be the one to do the asking, but if your praying about it and feeling led to do this go for it.

 

[chris320]

It has been my experience that most guys like to pursue a girl, and do not prefer being pursued.

These are the aggressive ones that have outgoing personalities and played sports in college and often partied, chased skirts, etc. There are some men out there that make great husbands, but they are more shy and may not decide to pursue you if they think that they will have to spend too much time competing with the agressive ones for your attention. What you may try doing with the shy ones is to just accidentally "bump" into them to get their attention, or strike up a conversation with them. If you let the shy ones know you are interested in them, they will probably see it worth the effort to ask you out.


-Chris320

 

[Erichero]

All guys (and girls for that matter) have face some critical points in their lives, in particular getting a driver's license, getting a job and asking a girl out. It's a really big highlight and can seem like a mountain. But it's something to face up to it, and if he can't face up to it, do you think he's going to face up to some of the other big issues that will come along his way? However, I do like the nudging idea of Chris320

 

[stubbornkelly]

Check out the "keeping the cost down" thread in this forum. A good tip was posted about doing something first that will stimulate conversation before doing the dinner or coffee thing. Particularly if the two of you have been dancing around the idea of going out for a while, it could get awkward for you if you set up something big like dinner, which breeds all sorts of expectations.

 

[jenste]

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[Erichero]

What's a few months in a 50-year marriage?

 

[lil_god_lova]

yeah all the ideas here have been pretty good...