My husband and I are getting getting a divorce. I'm going though so many diffrent emotions and hurt. I need all the prayers I can get.
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Going crazy with emotions...
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Well you have my prayers I know its not the easy thing to go through.. All I can say is keep your eyes on God and know one else and stay in prayer at all times cause honey GOD is the only one that can see you through this...... Praying for you.
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Dear Lord, Please help gwenevere as she goes through this time. Please give her strength and lift her spirits. Calm her deep inside and as the other prayer said, help her to keep her eyes on you. In Jesus name I pray. Amen
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I think that for your immediate healing it would be best to post about your situation and your emotions immediatly so we can offer you some advice on the situation.
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I have been through a divorce, not by my choice, and can attest to the fact that the Lord will heal you. Jeremiah 29:11 says that the Lord has plans to give us hope and a future. Trust Him in all you do.
If you need to, find someone to talk to about your feelings. I have been in therapy through my divorce and it has helped tremendously.
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Trish
If you need to, find someone to talk to about your feelings. I have been in therapy through my divorce and it has helped tremendously.
Hugs,
Trish
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I have learned something in my own pursuit of a stress-free lifeif I want peace rather than the pressure of stress in my life, I must choose to seek direction from God in every situation.
Our God is a God of peace. He will always lead us toward peace and joy, not toward anxiety and frustration. Therefore, we have to be listening for His voice. By following His voice, we can find peace and overcome the stress that so many are dealing with today.
To find peace in our lives, we simply need to obey the promptings God gives us each day. A prompting is a "knowing" deep down on the inside, telling us what to do. First Kings 19:11,12 refers to this knowing as a still, small voice.
A prompting is not a whack on the head with a hammer! In 1 Kings, the Lord did not use the great and strong wind, the earthquake, or fire to prompt Elijah. His voice came to Elijah as a sound of gentle stillness and a still, small voice. A prompting doesn't even have to be a voice at allin fact, God often gives direction by speaking to your heart rather than to your ears.
Since a prompting is very gentle, some might question whether it is from God or not. When you're unsure about a prompting, it's often easy to ignore it. One time, after I had been shopping at the mall for three or four hours, I sensed that God was saying, "You need to go home now." I had only purchased half of the eight items on my shopping list, so I ignored the prompting and kept on shopping.
The remaining items on my list were not immediate needs. But, like many determined, goal-oriented people, I was not about to leave that mall until I purchased every item on my list. I had come for eight items, and I was going to leave with eight items! I didn't care if I had to be dragged out of that mall, I wasn't leaving until every item was crossed off my list! And I wasn't going to listen to any voice that said otherwise.
I remember reaching the point of being so tired and upset that I wasn't even able to think clearly. All I wanted to do was finish shopping and get out of there. It was almost more than I could do to remain civil to the other shoppers and clerks in the store. I was stressed out!
Looking back, I can't remember how many times I've done thatstressing out because I've pushed beyond the prompting of the Lord. I can always tell I've gone too far when I'm not able to practice even the most basic mannerspoliteness, kindness, and self-control.
If I simply had obeyed the prompting of the Lord when I heard that "still, small voice," telling me to go home, I would have easily relieved the stress from the situation. Instead, I bulled my way through in my own determination to achieve my goal, and I ended up bringing stress on myself and everyone else around me.
If we will simply learn to listen to God and do what He says, we will discover that things will go well for us. No matter what the situation, we need to listen to God and obey His voice. Proverbs 3:6 states: In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. You may not understand the reasons for God asking you to do certain things, but as you listen to His voice and obey His direction, you can experience a peaceful calmness as your stress level begins to decrease. So listen up...and de-stress!
Our God is a God of peace. He will always lead us toward peace and joy, not toward anxiety and frustration. Therefore, we have to be listening for His voice. By following His voice, we can find peace and overcome the stress that so many are dealing with today.
To find peace in our lives, we simply need to obey the promptings God gives us each day. A prompting is a "knowing" deep down on the inside, telling us what to do. First Kings 19:11,12 refers to this knowing as a still, small voice.
A prompting is not a whack on the head with a hammer! In 1 Kings, the Lord did not use the great and strong wind, the earthquake, or fire to prompt Elijah. His voice came to Elijah as a sound of gentle stillness and a still, small voice. A prompting doesn't even have to be a voice at allin fact, God often gives direction by speaking to your heart rather than to your ears.
Since a prompting is very gentle, some might question whether it is from God or not. When you're unsure about a prompting, it's often easy to ignore it. One time, after I had been shopping at the mall for three or four hours, I sensed that God was saying, "You need to go home now." I had only purchased half of the eight items on my shopping list, so I ignored the prompting and kept on shopping.
The remaining items on my list were not immediate needs. But, like many determined, goal-oriented people, I was not about to leave that mall until I purchased every item on my list. I had come for eight items, and I was going to leave with eight items! I didn't care if I had to be dragged out of that mall, I wasn't leaving until every item was crossed off my list! And I wasn't going to listen to any voice that said otherwise.
I remember reaching the point of being so tired and upset that I wasn't even able to think clearly. All I wanted to do was finish shopping and get out of there. It was almost more than I could do to remain civil to the other shoppers and clerks in the store. I was stressed out!
Looking back, I can't remember how many times I've done thatstressing out because I've pushed beyond the prompting of the Lord. I can always tell I've gone too far when I'm not able to practice even the most basic mannerspoliteness, kindness, and self-control.
If I simply had obeyed the prompting of the Lord when I heard that "still, small voice," telling me to go home, I would have easily relieved the stress from the situation. Instead, I bulled my way through in my own determination to achieve my goal, and I ended up bringing stress on myself and everyone else around me.
If we will simply learn to listen to God and do what He says, we will discover that things will go well for us. No matter what the situation, we need to listen to God and obey His voice. Proverbs 3:6 states: In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. You may not understand the reasons for God asking you to do certain things, but as you listen to His voice and obey His direction, you can experience a peaceful calmness as your stress level begins to decrease. So listen up...and de-stress!
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G.W...I hope things work out for you. I just hate to hear when ppl are divoicing.I wish ppl could work things out. and give their problems to God. he created marriage. and he's the only one who knows how it works and how to piece one back together.
I pray for hearts to be change. and that this is just a tough stage you two are going through. and you will make peace with eachother and reconsile your marriage. peace. and hope everything will work out for you.
I pray for hearts to be change. and that this is just a tough stage you two are going through. and you will make peace with eachother and reconsile your marriage. peace. and hope everything will work out for you.
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I'm posting again and yes I'll pray for you I dealt with one with a co-worker. Just put your focus on the author and prefecter of your faith. I pray that there is reconciliation. but definitely let CF know of your progress and what direction your life needs to go.
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I never thought I was going to be divorce. My husband decided that I was the wrong skin color. He said I was the perfect wife but he would like the whole package from the inside and out. I fianlly gave up. I can't change my skin color.george said:G.W...I hope things work out for you. I just hate to hear when ppl are divoicing.I wish ppl could work things out. and give their problems to God. he created marriage. and he's the only one who knows how it works and how to piece one back together.
I pray for hearts to be change. and that this is just a tough stage you two are going through. and you will make peace with eachother and reconsile your marriage. peace. and hope everything will work out for you.
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mmreed
... by His wounds you are healed!
gwenevere said:
Realize that there is nothing you did to cause this. Skin color is simply "wrapping paper" on the gift within. It is a shame your husband cannot see this and has decided to use it as an excuse to divorice.
We can only control our side of the situation, and when the other has made thier choice, we simply must go on.
Realize that there is someone out there that will love you for who you are - skin color, age, occupation, whatever.... someone that will love the person inside first.
I, like others here, are always willing to chat privately if you ever find the need.
Loss of love is hard - and no matter what any human being says, it wont get better until time and God heals you.
God bless you and realize you are young and have a while life ahead of you to find the person God wants you to be with.
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Oh my goodness, the man surely wasn't color blind when he married you.gwenevere said:
He surely can think of a better reason than that.
That should not be a factor, but since in his eyes it is...
I will pray God heals you and his will in your life.
I will pray your husband will realize God hates divorce.
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willcoach said:
I wish we could work it out but he want's marry a person that is Blonde and white. He has been looking and found one. I love how God created me and the way I am
. He keeps telling me that I'm the perfect wife in the inside but want the whole package. I don't feel bad because I'm not the right skin color according to my soon to be ex standards. I'm guessing that's why God didn't give me kids with him and I know he will heal me. Right now I don't want to date right away. I want to take time to have a closer relationship with God.
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Sorry about that one I for one do not care for skin color for I call an ace an ace and a spade a spade i'm sure your beautiful and God will restore you, Gwen
In Christ,
Will
ps sorry for the quick word I hit reply to quickly
In Christ,
Will
ps sorry for the quick word I hit reply to quickly
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Prayer is definitely needed in this case. People have a hard time coming to God because they think of Him as being one color or another. But TRULY - HE - GOD cares not what color a person is, but that we all accept Him for who He is.
For a man to have a problem (or even say that he has a problem) with the woman that he says that he loves (He did say that at one point correct?) over color - than He is simply misguided. I for one think that the wrapping paper of a present does not make the present any less valuable when it comes from some one that loves you.
Dear God - please open the eyes and the heart of this couple and mend the issues according to Your GRACE, MERCY and KNOW HOW. IN JESUS' NAME - AMEN!
For a man to have a problem (or even say that he has a problem) with the woman that he says that he loves (He did say that at one point correct?) over color - than He is simply misguided. I for one think that the wrapping paper of a present does not make the present any less valuable when it comes from some one that loves you.
Dear God - please open the eyes and the heart of this couple and mend the issues according to Your GRACE, MERCY and KNOW HOW. IN JESUS' NAME - AMEN!
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That's what I asked him. If he really loved my when he got married. He said I was one of the lightest hispanic and there was no white blonde girls where we're from. He said the woman had or is still having an affair with is what he always wanted. Some how I feel used and that I waisted my year with him. I just wish I can forward to healing part and not hurt anymore. It's getting better each day but still hurts a bit.Lwest25 said:
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