God, should we adopt?

[JacktheCatholic]

My family, wife and son and daughter, have been part of the Foster Care program for over two years and have been discerning whether we should try adoption of a child in the Foster Care system.

We have many concerns, but place God's will over any of our concerns. We have been praying and seeking discernment for months and it is looking like we may close our license until our son and daughter are grown.

Wait or go for it now?

 

[JimR-OCDS]

Well, age is the factor, you have that you're 46 years of age now. I'd say after 50, you're over the hill, especially a very young child.

Remember, you're not under any obligation from God to adopt and your two children you have, are your priority.

That being said, only you and your wife can discern this.

If it seems right with a particular child and the doors are open for you, then go for it.

Again, don't wait to long and of course, pray to follow God's will, not your own agenda.


Jim

 

[JacktheCatholic]

Well, age is the factor, you have that you're 46 years of age now. I'd say after 50, you're over the hill, especially a very young child.

Remember, you're not under any obligation from God to adopt and your two children you have, are your priority.

That being said, only you and your wife can discern this.

If it seems right with a particular child and the doors are open for you, then go for it.

Again, don't wait to long and of course, pray to follow God's will, not your own agenda.


Jim

Thanks Jim. This was helpful.

 

[Galilee63]

You will be rewarded whichever Road your Wife and Self take Jack, given that you have already been fostering and brought God's Children into His World.

This is my own heart felt view.

If you are being Called by Jesus to adopt, as my Family member was, (and she proceeded) then you will be truly Blessed by Jesus and our Heavenly Mother Mary through Jesus.

I would be reflecting upon when the adoption thought first filtered through your Heart and Mind and your Wife's Heart and Mind when 'Called' by Jesus to think about this.

Then pray the Holy Rosary together as a Family sharing His Holy Decades of His Rosary, asking Jesus for His answer 'for the good of all your Souls'.

This includes Jesus taking into account your Children and their raising too.

Every 'answer' received from Jesus on major life issues, Jesus has Blessed me with and has been through praying The Holy Rosaries and Jesus' Divine Mercy Chaplet and in particular at 3pm for His Divine Mercy Chaplet.

If you read Anjelica's cancer Thread and do not know Jesus' Divine Mercy chaplet prayer, you will find it prayed there.

Jesus has spoken to my Heart during December, January and February IF I am fairly free of sin, fasting (on bread and water for a few days at a time - 7 is better, when healthy), attending Holy Mass and confession weekly, repenting from my heart.

Do not forget to place Jesus' Holy Cross in front of you all.

Our Heavenly Mother Mary intercedes and has spoken to my heart now for two years Jack; through Jesus' Holy Rosaries and in between, Loving and Guiding me with Jesus' Callings.

All obstacles in between Jesus has overcome; through our Heavenly Mother Mary's Loving Guidance.

Kindest wishes your Sister in Jesus Christ

 

[WarriorAngel]

I hope the Lord gives you an answer.

But look at this way - if your struggling - then you seem to NOT want to.
Then that's your answer.

 

[Galilee63]

One more thing I wish to share with you both Jack,

When my Family Member adopted my Neice from another country and she arrived; there was an unexplainable physical resemblance including their similar dispositions as my Neice was growing up; in fact from the age of Two I had noticed their physical attributes were similar, their dispositions similar and remarked upon this saying that God had most definitely Blessed this union between them both well before my Family member had ever thought or known it would occur during Life.

The joy and change in my Family Member's Heart and Soul has been nothing short of incredible Jack.

Every family (and I wanted to adopt Children too) should either be fostering a Child(ren) or adopting a Child during their lives, regardless of whether we have Children already.

Kindest wishes your Sister in Jesus Christ our Saviour

 

[Fantine]

Foster parents are special people--willing to love a child as long as (s)he needs care and willing to let him/her go if parents or other relatives become able to nurture him/her again.

If you continue foster parenting, you may one day care for a child whose parents lose parental rights permanently, and you may choose to apply to adopt. If that's the case, you can continue as is, because if you are meant to adopt, the opportunity will present itself.

But in the meantime, if you are finding it too difficult to see the children you care for move on to other placements, maybe you can work with children in other ways--Big Brothers or Sisters, etc.

I once knew a woman in St. Louis who cared for newborns being placed for adoption (Missouri law requires that the child live in a neutral placement for six weeks while the birth mother visits and makes a permanent decision on adoption). She once cared for a baby slated to be adopted by a major league baseball player and his wife. The birth mother had lots of issues and problems. Every time the birth mother would visit, the foster mother said a prayer that she would choose adoption...and so even this short term fostering was not without its angst.