Giving- When is it appropriate?

[Light88]

Hi all,

"When/if giving can be inappropriate" probably should've been a better title.

So, my question is: Where does giving start and where should it end?

Is there a circumstance to not give someone something they seemingly need? Should we put our foot down sometimes and say NO!

Or, should we just be more careful about how and what we give and to whom?

As a man/woman of God can you say no? And do you feel bad/upset when a person with the"I love to get over on others because I'm so smart!" mentality try to take advantage of your God given kindness?

 

[Fireinfolding]

I just give if I see a need somewheres and I am able to meet that need.
Though, not everyones expressed wants (or desires) is a need.

And I would say no for various reasons, no. One for instance when my brother in law on drugs was found out to be lying to the relatives (concerning having need) but was getting monies through them to do drugs.

Theres always a for instance to the contrary.

And I wouldnt cosign for anyone for a loan either unless I was willing (and able) to pay if they could not (that type thing).

But if I could do more then meet a need and just have something in my possession someone else might enjoy, I might be like, "here ya go". I sure dont think theres a problem with that.

Sorta like sharing with others and not just hoarding stuff up for yourself.

God loves a cheerful giver.

But if your doing it as a bribe, or to buy people (so to speak) I think thats wrong. Talks about given to the rich and becoming poor, always best to direct your giving to the poor.

Prov 19:17 He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the LORD; and that which he hath given will he pay him again.

Like when throwing a feast, Jesus said invite the poor, lame, those who cannot repay you and you shall be repaid at the resurrection of the just

Prov 21:13 Whoso stoppeth his ears at the cry of the poor, he also shall cry himself, but shall not be heard.

1John 3:17 But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?


James 2:15 If a brother or sister be naked, and destitute of daily food,

When I was naked and hungered....

James 2:16 And one of you say unto them, Depart in peace, be ye warmed and filled; notwithstanding ye give them not those things which are needful to the body; what doth it profit?

Loving not in word and tongue but in deed and truth.

And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him.

It truly is more blessed to give, to share, and to distribute to others, especially the poorer

 

[Spiritlight]

Giving is a tricky thing.
Giving to somebody in need who cannot repay because of their misfortune is an easy one. Give what you can from your excess.


Giving to someone who is lazy and unappreciative is easy too. Do it sparingly because they will keep taking and geting lazier, you make them get up and earn their keep by refraining.

give to those in need not those in greed!

Thanks for that!

What really helps people on welfare is learning how to manage money and budget wisely. If you can live within your means it helps a lot. But still there are times all of us need a helping hand.

 

[Girder of Loins]

give to those in need not those in greed!

I nominate this for bumper-sticker of the year. If everyone thought like this, social welfare problems would vanish(mostly).

 

[BFine]

Not everybody who is in need should be given cash.

I believe it is wise to find out what the actual need is, how the person
got to be in need and figure out how to actually help the person
without him or her becoming dependent upon "you".

 

[seeingeyes]

Any gift given freely is appropriate.

 

[thesunisout]

Hi all,

"When/if giving can be inappropriate" probably should've been a better title.

So, my question is: Where does giving start and where should it end?

Is there a circumstance to not give someone something they seemingly need? Should we put our foot down sometimes and say NO!

Or, should we just be more careful about how and what we give and to whom?

As a man/woman of God can you say no? And do you feel bad/upset when a person with the"I love to get over on others because I'm so smart!" mentality try to take advantage of your God given kindness?

Giving should be done through the leading of the Holy Spirit. As you know, we are called to sacrificial love. The things that we have were given to us by God, and they belong to God. God expects us to use the things we have to further His Kingdom. There are numerous examples of this throughout scripture, even going to the early church where everyone sold all they had and pooled it together for the common good.

So, we are called at times to sacrifice for someone else. To give the things we have that are needful to us for the need of someone else. This can be very tough to do but not if you trust God to provide for your needs. When I give something I think I need away I know that God will provide it again, if I really do need it.

What we should be concerned about is not our treasures on Earth, but storing up treasures in Heaven. Jesus gave us a very high standard. He said when you put on a feast, don't invite people you know who can pay you back. Invite the poor and downtrodden who can't repay you so you will receive a reward from your Father in Heaven. When we think about giving, Jesus gave us one standard which is sacrificial giving. If someone sues to take your jacket, give him your cloak also. If someone asks you to go one mile, go two. It says basically, give to all those who ask of you. If it isn't right, the Holy Spirit will let you know.

 

[DiscipleHeLovesToo]

Hi all,

"When/if giving can be inappropriate" probably should've been a better title.

So, my question is: Where does giving start and where should it end?

Is there a circumstance to not give someone something they seemingly need? Should we put our foot down sometimes and say NO!

Or, should we just be more careful about how and what we give and to whom?

As a man/woman of God can you say no? And do you feel bad/upset when a person with the"I love to get over on others because I'm so smart!" mentality try to take advantage of your God given kindness?

(2 Corinthians 9:7) Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.

in all things, be led by God. God has led me to give to people who don't seem to appreciate it at the moment. i've found that rather than give to people, it is better to always give to God, and then deliver what you've given to Him to the person that He wants to give to - this insulates me from judgment if the person receiving doesn't appreciate the gift, or if their motives appear to be wrong - God honors my gift, even if they don't honor His.

 

[tbogunro]

Hi all,

"When/if giving can be inappropriate" probably should've been a better title.

So, my question is: Where does giving start and where should it end?

Is there a circumstance to not give someone something they seemingly need? Should we put our foot down sometimes and say NO!

Or, should we just be more careful about how and what we give and to whom?

As a man/woman of God can you say no? And do you feel bad/upset when a person with the"I love to get over on others because I'm so smart!" mentality try to take advantage of your God given kindness?

Simply put God said be quick to lend and share. But the IMPORTANT thing is to give according to your spirit promptings. Don't worry if someone swindled you either bcuz God will ALWAYS make things right! I remember when I gave a few hundreds to some organization on tv then later finding out it was a scam. Few days later I received the same amount I gave into my account. So yeah God's got our back, just be willing to give CHEERFULLY, LISTEN to your spirit, leave ALL consequences to God