I'm not sure if this should be in this forum or in the restoration forum.
I will start by saying the marriage I am in has been a roller coaster ride and has caused tremendous pain before my ex-spouse ever got involved.
Problems with current marriage:
His parents lead/control our life, marriage, and raise his daughter. His parents tell him what he's allowed to do in our home and what he's not allowed to do. They tell him how to dress his daughter and other things related to raising her. I know I really shouldn't care/have too much of a say regarding his daughter since she's not biologically mine but I've been close enough to want to care about her and I worry the emotional affect it will have not being allowed to see her bio mom and her dad not being very involved in her life. I'm also worried his parents will cause problems in relationships for her later.
He doesn't act like he wants to spend any time with me (or his daughter). The majority of his time goes to his parents first. Anything they want to do or want him to do for them comes first. (They are not elderly - they are very well-bodied. This includes hunting, fishing, going to junk yards, and any heavy lifting - things that doesn't actually require him or could at least wait.) If he's not investing time with them, he works on cars as a part-time mechanic which takes up more time. If by some miracle his parents don't have anything to keep him occupied and no vehicles are scheduled he makes excuses to "fix", look at, or "improve" our personal vehicles. Usually this stuff is not important to the driveability and it seems like something that is being used as an excuse to not spend time with me.
Lies. There's been so many lies in our relationship that I don't know what to believe. There were lies about pornography from the time we got married til I finally got him to confess a couple months ago over a (1 1/2 yr). I'm pretty sure he sent texts from his and/or my phone to his mom but I can't prove it and can't get him to admit it. His mom somehow got private text messages predominantly to him but also to one other friend on her cell phone. He promises things will change and cries and begs me to stay when I've contemplated leaving - but nothing ever changes. I've asked for minor compromises in the marriage and can't even get that.
The Ex-Spouse
My ex-spouse got in touch with me about 3 weeks ago. He and I divorced because he cheated and didn't want to be with me at the time. I was never completely over him but thought I had lost him completely after he got married. He is now divorced, has apologized and wants to get back together.
The question: Would it be a sin for me to end my marriage for the purpose of reconciling with my ex-husband?
I will start by saying the marriage I am in has been a roller coaster ride and has caused tremendous pain before my ex-spouse ever got involved.
Problems with current marriage:
His parents lead/control our life, marriage, and raise his daughter. His parents tell him what he's allowed to do in our home and what he's not allowed to do. They tell him how to dress his daughter and other things related to raising her. I know I really shouldn't care/have too much of a say regarding his daughter since she's not biologically mine but I've been close enough to want to care about her and I worry the emotional affect it will have not being allowed to see her bio mom and her dad not being very involved in her life. I'm also worried his parents will cause problems in relationships for her later.
He doesn't act like he wants to spend any time with me (or his daughter). The majority of his time goes to his parents first. Anything they want to do or want him to do for them comes first. (They are not elderly - they are very well-bodied. This includes hunting, fishing, going to junk yards, and any heavy lifting - things that doesn't actually require him or could at least wait.) If he's not investing time with them, he works on cars as a part-time mechanic which takes up more time. If by some miracle his parents don't have anything to keep him occupied and no vehicles are scheduled he makes excuses to "fix", look at, or "improve" our personal vehicles. Usually this stuff is not important to the driveability and it seems like something that is being used as an excuse to not spend time with me.
Lies. There's been so many lies in our relationship that I don't know what to believe. There were lies about pornography from the time we got married til I finally got him to confess a couple months ago over a (1 1/2 yr). I'm pretty sure he sent texts from his and/or my phone to his mom but I can't prove it and can't get him to admit it. His mom somehow got private text messages predominantly to him but also to one other friend on her cell phone. He promises things will change and cries and begs me to stay when I've contemplated leaving - but nothing ever changes. I've asked for minor compromises in the marriage and can't even get that.
The Ex-Spouse
My ex-spouse got in touch with me about 3 weeks ago. He and I divorced because he cheated and didn't want to be with me at the time. I was never completely over him but thought I had lost him completely after he got married. He is now divorced, has apologized and wants to get back together.
The question: Would it be a sin for me to end my marriage for the purpose of reconciling with my ex-husband?
