Gf Morals Vs My Morals

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OK, so one night me and my gf were talking about sex. I believe that sex should be waited til marriage though sometimes I do think about it, but wouldn't engage in the act. As with my girlfriend she has had sex, but she is willing too experiment and try out things. So I told her I couldn't do that to her because I care about her. So then she throws this quote at me which I don't know what it means :

""Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. So aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something." ."

I don't know how that fits in there but I'm just clueless!

Any who! I'm a christian and she says she a catholic, but when I tell her I like her name which means " like God" she says she hates it and she disagrees with her religion. Makes me wonder sometimes she is confused.

 

[dayhiker]

Sounds like she has thought thru her morality and knows what she believes about the issues that are important to her. If I was her, I'd disagree with some of what her church teaches as well. Heck, I disagree with some of my church teaches as well.

Miss out on life .... I'd take that to mean that the church thru its history has had this ascetic streak that say enjoying God's creation is wrong. Its sin to enjoy many of the good things in this world. You know don't be like the world and deny yourself. The other side is be thankful for all things and do all to the glory of God.

As Solomon said, there is a time for everything under the sun. There is a time its vain and there is a time it brings many benefits.

 

[Sketcher]

Well, this is one circumstance where you should get her to compromise her morals.

In all seriousness though, there are good reasons for saving sex until marriage. God commands it. You won't be contributing to the problem of unwanted pregnancies, so if you're pro-life, that's very important. You'll be able to evaluate her and other girlfriends more squarely without sex clouding your judgment. And the restraint you exercise now will benefit your future marriage, since character is being built - to say nothing of the fact that you'd only be one flesh with your future wife. Right now, if your values and her values are not on the same page, then that's a bad sign.

 

[crazygardenlady]

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I was raised in a Catholic household, and I need to set you straight. We absolutely believe in and love Jesus, we just spread that love to the Holy Father, Mary, and the Saints. Do not judge the entire religion, but do evaluate the individual. If she has had sex before marriage, I'd say she is no Catholic! Sex out of wedlock is absolutely a sin in our eyes.

 

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[The Nihilist]

Thank you, FreeinChrist.

 

[The Nihilist]

I was raised in a Catholic household, and I need to set you straight. We absolutely believe in and love Jesus, we just spread that love to the Holy Father, Mary, and the Saints. Do not judge the entire religion, but do evaluate the individual. If she has had sex before marriage, I'd say she is no Catholic! Sex out of wedlock is absolutely a sin in our eyes.

I was also raised catholic, so let's not pretend that catholics all do exactly as the church teaches all the time.

 

[Johnnz]

That quote has no Christian basis. Christian morality derives from who we understand God to be ie our theology. I see a disconnect within her regarding God and thus she does not have a truly Christian basis for her thinking.

John
NZ

 

[crazygardenlady]

I was also raised catholic, so let's not pretend that catholics all do exactly as the church teaches all the time.

Of course not, it's an individual choice and many claim religion as simply another label. I wasn't pretending, so we're on the same page.

 

[BackwardsJustice]

OK, so one night me and my gf were talking about sex. I believe that sex should be waited til marriage though sometimes I do think about it, but wouldn't engage in the act. As with my girlfriend she has had sex, but she is willing too experiment and try out things. So I told her I couldn't do that to her because I care about her. So then she throws this quote at me which I don't know what it means :

""Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. So aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something." ."

I don't know how that fits in there but I'm just clueless!

Any who! I'm a christian and she says she a catholic, but when I tell her I like her name which means " like God" she says she hates it and she disagrees with her religion. Makes me wonder sometimes she is confused.

It's hard to give you a lot of feedback. I don't know how old you are, where you come from, or your past....

Things you should ask yourself...is.. If you are ready to have sex, are you able to prepare for consequences such as having a baby (sounds bad, but I mean mentally and financially) or STDs?

Do you really love her?

How long have you been together and how old are you both?

Is she willing to wait without putting a "date" on when you will have sex.

Etc Etc..lots of questions.

Above all, make sure you won't regret it. It could be awesome..but if you really aren't ready you will regret it.

 

[mathetes123]

OK, so one night me and my gf were talking about sex. I believe that sex should be waited til marriage though sometimes I do think about it, but wouldn't engage in the act. As with my girlfriend she has had sex, but she is willing too experiment and try out things. So I told her I couldn't do that to her because I care about her. So then she throws this quote at me which I don't know what it means :

""Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life. So aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something." ."

I don't know how that fits in there but I'm just clueless!

Any who! I'm a christian and she says she a catholic, but when I tell her I like her name which means " like God" she says she hates it and she disagrees with her religion. Makes me wonder sometimes she is confused.

The bible says not to be unequally yoked.