How is it done?! I think I'm halfway there, but I lost it somewhere along the way! My mind and spirit are there, but ya know.....I think I'm going to be needing my heart to. Hmmm....
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Getting Back Your Heart!
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I gave it to a girl who deserves it very much, but I may never see her again. I'm trying not to worry about that aspect of it. God will take care of the future, I just have to keep my eyes on the present.
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Stanfi
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Catch,
You need to accept that God has a plan for your life and seek that His will be done in your life. You also have to accept that His will may not be for you to have this girl that you gave your heart to. That is the first step. Second give your heart to God for safe keeping and guarding. Then pray and seek his will, and keep your eyes and heart open to whoever God may bring into your life. I know it is hard, but it is not good to keep staring a door that maybe close, when God may have another one wide open right beside you.
God knows the desire of your heart, and he has a plan for you. You just have to open up and trust Him completely.
You need to accept that God has a plan for your life and seek that His will be done in your life. You also have to accept that His will may not be for you to have this girl that you gave your heart to. That is the first step. Second give your heart to God for safe keeping and guarding. Then pray and seek his will, and keep your eyes and heart open to whoever God may bring into your life. I know it is hard, but it is not good to keep staring a door that maybe close, when God may have another one wide open right beside you.
God knows the desire of your heart, and he has a plan for you. You just have to open up and trust Him completely.
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So it's a simple as just handing it over to God? I can do that. See the thing is, I'm not pessimistic about this situation at all (now anyway). I know that God DOES have an awesome plan for my life, and I'll just let it happen in His time. I'm open to whatever God may do with my life. Right now though, I just am content to be alone. I wouldn't mind if God brought someone special into my life again, but I don't need it. All I need is God. He's my comfort, and my strength. He's my everything.
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KeilCoppes
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I agree with you in that the future is in God's hands, but to be responsible, remember that the future is in _God's_ hands. What do I mean? What I mean is that many people set their heart on God doing what they want, and never embrace the fact that it is possible, sometimes likely, that God will do what they _don't_ want. This is what it means to truly be in God's providence, embracing both sides of possibility, doing what you can, and then settling your heart to be content either way.catch22 said:
I would suggest to you, though it still seems early, that you release or at least very much loosen your emotional ties at this point, as much as it may hurt. Leave the door open for the pleasant possibility as a surprising but very pleasant blessing from God, but don't live your emotional life on hold. I've been there and it is a halfway existence. If you have made promises, you need to keep them, but make sure you have communication. If you don't have communication, you're done. Repeat - if you don't have communication, you are done - the other person has already dropped the link, and local concerns will dominate. Much as I my heart thirsts for it to be otherwise, the reverse has always been the case. If you don't have communication or any active participation, there is nothing there - a heart that echoes inward attachment will echo outward attachment.
If you are not moving forward, you must heal the wounds of being apart, often by releasing that person to God's care and moving on, leaving the possibility that if God wills He will bring you together, but that that is most likely not to happen. Then, with the basis of you in a healthy relationship with God, you move forward alone under His care and blessing.
No matter what, you need to be moving forward, either with growing an attachment, being single and open to new attachment, or single and settled in never marrying and growing your own life. The alternative is stagnation, and a quiet daily death. The soul that does not grow is either dead or dying. You always need to be moving forward, no matter how difficult. Your heart cannot be taken, it is always attached to you, and you cannot live without it. You are secondarily responsible for caring for the hearts opened to you, but if your own heart dies, you will not be healthy enough to care for others. You are its steward, and responsible to God for its care, watering, and growth. Do not rain on the heart committed to your care! Make sure that it has sunshine and that the weeds around it are being pulled!
In Christ,
Keil C
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Good advice Keil. I appreciate it. It was never mine to possess, but I've given her heart back over to God. He will take far better care of it than I can. Maybe someday if it's in His will, He will bring her heart back to me, but if not, then I know that He will give it to someone who will treat it better than even I could. I still care for this girl tremendously, and even if I don't see her again until we're both in heaven, I will always consider her my friend. Let God's will be done.
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Sadly for me I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve so my heart has been given away to so many unworthy men. Ah well, God has restored my self-esteem and my heart and now He holds it.
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Just a thought, but I got my heart back after a really rough time in my faith when I read a book called Wild at Heart By John Elderge. It's a book on finding the true nature of a man's heart. It's worth a read.
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Lil_Miss_Fire said:
Wild at Heart is a bit more for guys, for you and what we talked about I think you should read Waking the Dead by John Elderge
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Hehhe...I've already read Wild at Heart and Waking the Dead, and I even bought The Sacred Romance yesterday...I'm a fan of Elderedge's books.
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Even though Wild at Heart is designed for guys, it has a lot to say about and to women and I learned a ton through it and definitely recommend it to christian women as well as men.
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No Breetai, it's not like that at all. I gave it to her, and then her parents decided they didn't want me ever to speak to her again.
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Believe me, I've thought about it. And I probably would have too were it not for God speaking to me through the Bible at just the right time. It's a funny little story, but basically God told me "Love and Patience." So, instead of those little escapades, I'm wrting a letter to her parents which hopefully they will find to be an admirable thing. You know that old saying, if you love them let them go...and so forth. Well, thats the gist of my letter.Breetai said:What!?! That's stupid. Crazy parents. PM me if you want. I'm curious!
I say pull a Romeo and Juliet on them.
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