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And as such the guys who are intrested in you and mean you absolutely no harm must deal with them which brings us back to post #1 in this thread.vibrant said:i know i have defence mechanisms for a reason. they serve to protect me, my body, my heart, and my emotions, because it's not easy or safe to be a young woman.
not safe to be a young woman.
Deliberatetourist said:And as such the guys who are intrested in you and mean you absolutely no harm must deal with them
Deliberatetourist said:Well us guys have our defense mechanisms also. You might say in perspective its not safe for us either for a number of reasons [...]
Instincts and judgement...or fear? I don't begruge anyone anything of the sort. I have stated on another thread that if a woman turns me down for a perfectly plausible reason (ie.I'm balding) then I have no problem with it. But I don't think its fair to us to turn us down simply because they are afraid especially when in most cases that fear is unjustified. If you look at my list above of the types of women us guys should fear it's safe to say that you would immediatley agrue that those women represent a minority of the actual female population and I will not argue that they do not. But in turn the kinds of guys you are afraid of are of similar proportion.vibrant said:okay. even more reason not to act like we're blank slates to each other, where every initiative should immediately be seen as honourable and duly respected. if a woman's instincts and judgment tell her no in regards to you, then don't begrudge her.
I am sorry that you are interpreting my posts as bitterness. Nothing could be further from the truth. As for my success with women....I'm quite successful at the moment. I have dated 3 outstanding women in the last six months and I have a steady girlfriend right now. If I would be bitter about anything it's about the social structure of things back in the States but only because I see so many fellow guys giving up and settling for less. I don't have to worry because I am not going back there to live ever again. Frustrated,....... perhaps at one time. You see I am a 35 year old guy who looks about 28. My hairline is receding but other than that I have a better body then some people 10 years younger than I. Well on the physical level I was only attracted to women about your age or a little older. On the maturity level I was attracted to women more my age but the available ones my age made me feel like I was going out with my mother. I just couldn't get interested. I tried dating a few women that were around 24-25 but once they found out that I was 35 they treated me like I had the plague and the few I did date just wern't mature enough to convince me that there would ever be anything there other than a shallow arrangement. In Asia I am in my groove. The women over here are happening well into their 30's and even 40's (diet and lifestyle) and if you are of the persuasion and you want to date down in age the taboos simply aren't here so its no problem. However I still like the maturity of someone more my age. I've settled in with a 27 year old Thai woman thats a good balance. Old enough to have some maturity and young enough to not look like she's ready to start pulling balls at the rectory.sunshinejennii said:You know you come across as really quite bitter and hostile Deliberatetourist. I'm not saying you actually are, but I think it's worth bearing in mind. Maybe you aren't as successful as you'd like with women because they can sense that, and it's incredibly unattractive. A seemingly bitter man would be better off announcing that his mum tucks him into bed with a hotwater bottle and some cocoa (and she lives in another town), still wets the bed on a regular basis and finds dead fish a turn on.
Deliberatetourist said:Why would you lose dignity? Is there any more dignity in getting slammed by 10 gals in a row because you couldn't get past their contrived defense mechanisms? If the afforementioned approach works then one guy is gonna be enjoying an evening with the gal he wanted to be with while you , "Mr. Dignity" are sitting in your private corner trying to ignore all the undesirable types who are vyeing for your attention.
Servant4God said:Well I don't really know if i agree with girls saying no because it makes them feel like they have power. Maybe some girls do that, but I know if I said no, it wouldn't be for that reason. I would say no because I didn't like them in that way or I know its not God's will. Yet, I would try to be as nice about it as possible.
Hm... and yet, what we must ask ourselves if we are also being ignored because we are the "undesirable" types.
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