Does anybody else find that being single is more of a burden than a blessing? Is it a personal fault if you feel like you can't function alone? I know some people believe that God will send somebody to help (no man is an island), but what if that just doesn't happen? Nothing is promised in this world aside from death and taxes. Is it possible that even "happily ever after" is not a guarantee? I'm rambling now. Blah.
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Gazing From My Window To the Streets Below
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PaulDavid
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Key word man "nothing is promised IN THIS WORLD" but take this time away from the distractions of a female to learn about the promises "In the Word".
God wants you to Himself for a minute before He is going to share you with someone else, take a sec to find out what He wants to tell you. "Seek ye FIRST the kingdom and all these things will be added unto you"
God wants you to Himself for a minute before He is going to share you with someone else, take a sec to find out what He wants to tell you. "Seek ye FIRST the kingdom and all these things will be added unto you"
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i don't view it as either a blessing or a burden, its just a phase of life i happen to be in. there are challenges to it no doubt, but there are also good things to it. same thing with being in a relationship.
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StarryEyes
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Maybe some days
But definitely there are days I'm glad I'm single.
Also, it could go the other way too.. some relationships may seem to be more of a burden than a blessing.
"The grass isn't always greener on the other side.. it still has to be mowed."
But definitely there are days I'm glad I'm single. Also, it could go the other way too.. some relationships may seem to be more of a burden than a blessing.
"The grass isn't always greener on the other side.. it still has to be mowed."
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BarelyBreathing
Everything is Beautiful
From the thread title I thought this was going to be a thread about looking out our windows. I have a gorgeous view of the tops of the trees. At nights, I sleep with the stars.
Oh, back to the topic....
I don't think being single is a blassing or a burden. I think it can be an opportunity. Singleness can be a time not only to grow in God as PaulDavid suggested, but also to grow in yourself. It is in this time that you should strive to learn to love yourself and live with yourself. This is the timem to become the completely whole, unique individual that God created you too be, seperate from anyone else.
As for when you are married, yes, hopefully you will have a wife who will be your helpmate. Someone to help bear your burdens, cook you dinner, wash your clothes, greet you at the door with a kiss, etc. At the same time, though, you will have such a great responsibility to be the man and husband that God intends for you to be to your wife. It is not that one stage in life (single, married) is easier than another, they are just different. If anything, when you are married you now have greater responsibilities as now you are responsible for at least one other as well.
You have to find peace and happiness in your singleness before you can find it in a marriage. We can not depend on another for that or we will always find ourselves disappointed.
You are right, marriage is never guarenteed. Some of us here will be single for the rest of your life. The question is: will you sit around waiting, or will you take the bull by the horns?
YouTube - Lee Ann Womack - I Hope You Dance
I have a gorgeous view of the tops of the trees. At nights, I sleep with the stars. Oh, back to the topic....
I don't think being single is a blassing or a burden. I think it can be an opportunity. Singleness can be a time not only to grow in God as PaulDavid suggested, but also to grow in yourself. It is in this time that you should strive to learn to love yourself and live with yourself. This is the timem to become the completely whole, unique individual that God created you too be, seperate from anyone else.
As for when you are married, yes, hopefully you will have a wife who will be your helpmate. Someone to help bear your burdens, cook you dinner, wash your clothes, greet you at the door with a kiss, etc. At the same time, though, you will have such a great responsibility to be the man and husband that God intends for you to be to your wife. It is not that one stage in life (single, married) is easier than another, they are just different. If anything, when you are married you now have greater responsibilities as now you are responsible for at least one other as well.
You have to find peace and happiness in your singleness before you can find it in a marriage. We can not depend on another for that or we will always find ourselves disappointed.
You are right, marriage is never guarenteed. Some of us here will be single for the rest of your life. The question is: will you sit around waiting, or will you take the bull by the horns?
YouTube - Lee Ann Womack - I Hope You Dance
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Just my .02:
Yes it is not a guarantee. Marriage, romantic love is not a requirement for the Christian life. The future is unknown so there's just a lot of things you'll never know till the future comes and you see what happens so its up to you what you want to do with this.
If God is in control of everything then maybe its time to stop waiting and start looking and going after what you want right? I mean if God is in control than that would automatically mean that God is there with you while you go after what you want right?
Too many times I wonder if Christians just remain in the waiting room of a life with God just waiting for God to do everything while believing that God is with them, guiding them and always in control.
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Too into oneself; not into oneself enough. Wait for God to provide, don't wait for God.
Jiminy Crickets, this is too confusing for me.
Jiminy Crickets, this is too confusing for me.
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BarelyBreathing
Everything is Beautiful
hikingchick77 said:
All the people I have known who are egocentric really have not learned to truly love themself. It is more of a facade to cover up all the insecurities and inadequacies they feel within themselves. A way to hide behind an outer display, and convince themself. The reality of it is that none of them are happy people, even though outwardly, superficially they can appear happy.
I do agree with you that we should reach out to others. The love we hold within us should be so great and spilling over that it affects those around us. I can think of a few people on this forum that I see that at work in. Jesus told us that we are to love others as we love ourselves, and often for people the "loving ourself" is the most difficult part of it all. To truly love is not a selfish act, but a selfless one.
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white dove
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There are blessings in each stage of your life. The key is to find happiness where you are at; otherwise, you will never be happy in your life.
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