I am furious!!
My aunty ( who raised me) and who is 80 years old reprimanded me on the phone for being confidant about my appearance!
She is of the old school where women feel the need to shrink in order to be acceptable.
What I am more furious about is that I rely on her for chats at midnight.( She lives abroad.)
Without her I am even more isolated than I already am and lack good connections.
My pastor has said to me that old people like her are obstinate and think they know it all.
I need to find a way to have enough connection in my life so I dont need to speak to her.
She invariably invalidates me and then I have nowhere to process this frustration.
I am sure she doesn't do this with her own children.
Why us it that when someone is kind, open and empathic people think they can take liberties and thrust their ( outdated) opinions down other peoples throats?
I dare not confront her on this because she is so stubborn and hard headed she will just escalate it.
A common tactic she uses is to raise her voice when things are not to her liking.
Honestly I am more angry with myself than her for continually subjecting myself to her rude, dismissive behaviour.
I'd you want to pray, feel free.I would prefer your insights more though.
Why are mother daughter relationships so often so fraught?
It is pure vexation!
My aunty ( who raised me) and who is 80 years old reprimanded me on the phone for being confidant about my appearance!
She is of the old school where women feel the need to shrink in order to be acceptable.
What I am more furious about is that I rely on her for chats at midnight.( She lives abroad.)
Without her I am even more isolated than I already am and lack good connections.
My pastor has said to me that old people like her are obstinate and think they know it all.
I need to find a way to have enough connection in my life so I dont need to speak to her.
She invariably invalidates me and then I have nowhere to process this frustration.
I am sure she doesn't do this with her own children.
Why us it that when someone is kind, open and empathic people think they can take liberties and thrust their ( outdated) opinions down other peoples throats?
I dare not confront her on this because she is so stubborn and hard headed she will just escalate it.
A common tactic she uses is to raise her voice when things are not to her liking.
Honestly I am more angry with myself than her for continually subjecting myself to her rude, dismissive behaviour.
I'd you want to pray, feel free.I would prefer your insights more though.
Why are mother daughter relationships so often so fraught?
It is pure vexation!
