Friendships at work?

[Jenster]

I'm just wondering ... how many of you feel like you have good friends at work?

I am friendly, but I don't know I'd consider them friends, more like "good co-workers." However, clearly some people are fast friends. It makes me feel a little weird. Part of the reason why I hold back is because I'm a Christian and I just live a different lifestyle and hold very different views than most.

Yeah, it does bother me a bit.

 

[nb37]

Yeah I have made some really decent friends at work, some are Christians and some aren't . Those that are not Christians know where I stand, and they respect it. It can be a little bothersome cause it's not that easy to make freinds cause you don't want to hang with people that don't share your values.

 

[Jenster]

Well, four of the people I work most closely with are living with their bfs or gfs (including the 70-year-old divorced guy!). I *know* they would think me judgmental if I were say I didn't personally believe in that. So yeah, sometimes it's hard to get into any deep discussions about values and such because I am afraid (shouldn't be, but sometimes am) of being judged -- for being "judgmental" in their eyes. Poeple can be so intolerant, especially under the guise of being liberal.

 

[GreatistheLord]

I have good friends at work (at my old job at least, now I've just moved on), but I never worried about what they thought about my beliefs.
I think people respect you for being true to your beliefs. If they know you're a Christian, then they already know that you disagree with alot of "accepted" practices. Being open about what you believe may not make you popular with *everyone* but who cares?

 

[nb37]

Like what GreatistheLord said they know you are a Christian so they know that you probably don't agree with them choosing to live with their bf/gf. But as long as you're not condemning them, you are being an example for how a Christian should act, not that you condone what they are doing but that you are not condemning either, and who knows one of them may come to you and inquire more into your faith and who knows by talking with you they may become interested in checking Christ out and therefore coming to the realization that living together before marriage is not a good thing. Boy am I going on or what?? I wrote that because I experienced something like that , I have a good friend and she was living with her boyfriend, I didn't condemn her and she knew that I didn't agree with her lifestyle either, now she has been married for 6 years. Thank God!

 

[overit]

Yes I have good friend co-workers. Male and female, SOme are married, some w/gf-bf, some engaged, some single as I am now. We have lunches, go out for a beer after work and sometimes after work hrs (wknds) we'll get together. I have been here 10yrs and have long-time friends and some in the last year or two.
Next week we have a conference of 4 days and I'm glad to know I have a good group of friend/co-workers to hang out with, typically we have a really good time and we do share lots of stuff, personal, gossip about the latest work rumors, start some rumors ourselves by joking that somebody takes seriously and it snowballs, talk about our kids, our spouses, church, religion, finances, every day life, politics, (those are always fun cause we get heated but love eachother), talk about traveling tips, help eachother with work tips/suggestions. I must say I have a wonderful group around me, some from my area, some from different areas of the company. My social circle has recently expanded even more in the last 2 months.

 

[BouncedBack]

friendly friends? Yeah. Friends that I would confide in and hold dear? No

 

[GreatistheLord]

I think it's good to have friends at work that you can really talk to. Witnessing is something that works well when people trust you.

 

[smiledaily]

Being friendly yes, getting close enough to confide in and tell someone personal things, no.

 

[Radagast]

I'm just wondering ... how many of you feel like you have good friends at work?

I've had some really great friends at work.

They were all Christians, though.

 

[Jenster]

A bunch of my co-workers usually have lunch in the break room (we're a small company) and often there are people who dominate the discussion. Then the other day, I walked in and it was all the quiet-yet-pleasant people for a change. I sat there and just thanked God for the chance to talk with them.

Even though I say I'm not close friends with anyone at work, I realized I do appreciate various people. I just don't call them close friends because I wouldn't make it a priority to do things outside of work together.

 

[Bridgit]

I'm just wondering ... how many of you feel like you have good friends at work?

I am friendly, but I don't know I'd consider them friends, more like "good co-workers." However, clearly some people are fast friends. It makes me feel a little weird. Part of the reason why I hold back is because I'm a Christian and I just live a different lifestyle and hold very different views than most.

Yeah, it does bother me a bit.

Same with me.