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The ironic thing is is she has anxiety because she’s not dealing with those subjects. Just sayin’.
 
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The ironic thing is is she has anxiety because she’s not dealing with those subjects. Just sayin’.
Yeah that's what I thought. She is in therapy but she won't talk about certain things there either so.
 
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No one wants to talk about things they are not doing well in, whether it is a school or a job or something else. So we should be sensitive about touching on subjects that may remind people of their failures. The exception would be if they have actually asked for our help.
Now, as for yourself, you don't need to force yourself to talk about babies all the time. I mean, I love my married friends' babies and they talk about them, but we are talking about real, existing babies here.

If one of my single friends only wants to talk about her future baby when she's not even pregnant, I would really not know how to pretend to be interested every single time. It seems like both of you can find other frieds who share similar interests.
 
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Yeah that's what I thought. She is in therapy but she won't talk about certain things there either so.

It's actually not realistic for someone to plan for babies if she is not taking responsibility for her school and job. She just may not yet be at a maturity level that you were hoping for in a friend.
 
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If she has told you that it is anxiety-related, you might try to ask her about her anxiety and share your own experiences of anxiety.

It may be that she is lonely and just wants to be listened to. She may be afraid of failure and unwilling to share negative aspects of her life. She may be afraid to commiserate with your own ailments because she sees that as a sign of weakness and does not want to be vulnerable. People are different, it could be any number of things. Praying with her never hurts.

As to you, it sounds like in this friendship you give more than you receive. That's fine as long as it doesn't get out of control, and as long as you have other friendships and activities that feed you.
 
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