Fragile heart...

[TheLordIsMySheperd]

Hi my brothers and sisters,

I just want to share what I felt recently as it's getting too much to keep it to myself.

--- #1 - I felt my heart is so fragile recently ---
I don't know why, my heart has been saddened very easily when I witnessing greed that takes various forms and cause many sufferings and oppression in our society. It got to the point that it feels unbearable to live in this kind of world.

I talked to Jesus, He comforts me always, but as time goes by, or towards the end of the day, it's very depressing as my heart shattered.

Maybe because I have melancholic personality. I am not sure if I'm pessimistic.
I just don't know what else I can do...

--- #2 - I am longing for deeper fellowship from a circle of genuine friends ---
I still struggle to understand the culture in this country. I have lived here for more than 18 years. I have difficulty connecting to the member in men's fellowship in the church. I joined the fellowship because someone invited me. Some people are quiet, some people are nice and warm. The Pastor is nice and warm always. However, when I met them at church, nobody said hi first. So, I took a more active role, I said hi first. Sometimes their reaction are cold (mostly), sometimes warm. When I met them in grocery store, sometimes they pretend they didn't see me.

I don't know...too much inconsistency. I was told about culture shock my my education advisor from my home country 18 years ago, that people only connect at surface level. They would be nice and warm first time they meet you, but they could be a complete stranger the next day. After 18 years, it's still hard for me to chew it.
(I served at church, the ministry leaders are nice and warm btw).
I just wish I can have a deep, genuine connection. Is this because of cultural gap?

I just don't know what else I can do...

P.S.: Btw, I'm sorry if I post this in the wrong category.

Blessings.

 

[RC1970]

Hi my brothers and sisters,

I just want to share what I felt recently as it's getting too much to keep it to myself.

--- #1 - I felt my heart is so fragile recently ---
I don't know why, my heart has been saddened very easily when I witnessing greed that takes various forms and cause many sufferings and oppression in our society. It got to the point that it feels unbearable to live in this kind of world.

I talked to Jesus, He comforts me always, but as time goes by, or towards the end of the day, it's very depressing as my heart shattered.

Maybe because I have melancholic personality. I am not sure if I'm pessimistic.
I just don't know what else I can do...

--- #2 - I am longing for deeper fellowship from a circle of genuine friends ---
I still struggle to understand the culture in this country. I have lived here for more than 18 years. I have difficulty connecting to the member in men's fellowship in the church. I joined the fellowship because someone invited me. Some people are quiet, some people are nice and warm. The Pastor is nice and warm always. However, when I met them at church, nobody said hi first. So, I took a more active role, I said hi first. Sometimes their reaction are cold (mostly), sometimes warm. When I met them in grocery store, sometimes they pretend they didn't see me.

I don't know...too much inconsistency. I was told about culture shock my my education advisor from my home country 18 years ago, that people only connect at surface level. They would be nice and warm first time they meet you, but they could be a complete stranger the next day. After 18 years, it's still hard for me to chew it.
(I served at church, the ministry leaders are nice and warm btw).
I just wish I can have a deep, genuine connection. Is this because of cultural gap?

I just don't know what else I can do...

P.S.: Btw, I'm sorry if I post this in the wrong category.

Blessings.

I have had similar experiences myself. I think that most people are naturally pessimistic and it shows in their interactions. Many people who are looking for good friends don't know how to be a friend themselves.

 

[TheLordIsMySheperd]

Many people who are looking for good friends don't know how to be a friend themselves.

I don't believe it applies to my situation as I have good friends from my home country that I still keep in touch via chat app, mostly from elementary and middle school.

I feel culture is the obstacle.

 

[RC1970]

I don't believe it applies to my situation as I have good friends from my home country that I still keep in touch via chat app, mostly from elementary and middle school.

I feel culture is the obstacle.

In that case, you are probably right. Where are you from originally?

You need to find something that you have in common with other people. A hobby maybe.

 

[TheLordIsMySheperd]

In that case, you are probably right. Where are you from originally?

You need to find something that you have in common with other people. A hobby maybe.

I am originally from Southeast Asia.
With church community, I thought I would have something in "common" as well. My hobby is watching movie, won't help with meeting friends.

 

[RC1970]

I am originally from Southeast Asia.
With church community, I thought I would have something in "common" as well. My hobby is watching movie, won't help with meeting friends.

What are your favorite movies?

Most people like to watch movies, so talking about movies would be one way to break the ice with people.

 

[TheLordIsMySheperd]

What are your favorite movies?

Most people like to watch movies, so talking about movies would be one way to break the ice with people.

I mean, I thought you suggested finding a hobby to meet new friends right?

 

[RC1970]

I mean, I thought you suggested finding a hobby to meet new friends right?

Some of my friends like talking about movies. They also like watching movies with me. You can learn a lot about a person just by talking to them about how they perceived a particular movie. People will go on and on about a movie where you can hardly get anything out of them otherwise.

Why not start by asking someone at church (maybe your Pastor) to go see a movie with you?

Maybe someone you work with, or a neighbor. Once you make one friend, you may find more friends among their friends.

You can always have friends here on CF as well.

 

[TheLordIsMySheperd]

Why not start by asking someone at church (maybe your Pastor) to go see a movie with you?

Maybe someone you work with, or a neighbor. Once you make one friend, you may find more friends among their friends.

You can always have friends here on CF as well.

Naah, it feels so weird to ask my Pastor to go see a movie with me.
That's true...probably I am too introvert...that makes thing hard to make new friend also...

It's nice to have friend here in CF, but online friend and real friend is different though.....

 

[ToBeLoved]

Hi my brothers and sisters,

I just want to share what I felt recently as it's getting too much to keep it to myself.

--- #1 - I felt my heart is so fragile recently ---
I don't know why, my heart has been saddened very easily when I witnessing greed that takes various forms and cause many sufferings and oppression in our society. It got to the point that it feels unbearable to live in this kind of world.

I talked to Jesus, He comforts me always, but as time goes by, or towards the end of the day, it's very depressing as my heart shattered.

Maybe because I have melancholic personality. I am not sure if I'm pessimistic.
I just don't know what else I can do...

Do you watch the news? I have stopped watching the news and pretty much politics in general because I was feeling feelings like nothing would ever change. I am much happier now doing what I can to add to love in the world and not watching all the strife.