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Fornication in long term relationship

heymikey80

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I think I have to argue that to your pastors, the issue of your faith is somewhat [more] important than the issue of your fornication. I get the feeling that they didn't want to ask of you more than you can bear -- for Christ does forgive as you grow in repentance and faith. I don't envy their attempts to draw lines in redemptive ways.

Yes, they should have represented God's morality more consistently. I hope you would please grant them their faults like any other Christian. They're probably constantly dealing with people whom they think, if only the new Christian would grow just a bit more, they would come to recognize God's will for their lives and be married, or quit drug use, or drunkenness. It's a tough range of people that ministers minister to.

It's a tough thing to walk the line of redeeming people, yet recognize their newfound faith as well. I've been in that situation in my own church -- we generally don't admit unmarried, sexually active couples to membership, but invite them into participate in every other opportunity where they can grow to see God's claims on their lives.
 
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Hi Clep! I believe that when you knew right from wrong (realized it is a sin to fornicate no matter how long you've been together w/out being married) then you now know right from wrong and it is a sin. I believe you should abstain from sex until marriage. It is hard to abstain from sex, my partner and I had been togeter for 4 years before getting married our 5th year together and I abstained from sex for a month before marriage and it was no simple task. It is possible to live together AND not have sex, just takes some self control, hope this helps!
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 & 1 Corinthians 7:1-2
"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."



 
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Thank you. My thoughts exactly but put so much better than I could have.
 
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