To be perfectly frank, I am not at all comfortable discussing this subject with minors (people under 18). People can get the wrong impression, given the track record of the internet with stalkers etc. And wrong impressions can go both ways. So I am addressing other threads indirectly by posting here generically.
Jesus Christ did not look upon those who fell sexually as being beneath others or as if they were scum bags. People do this all the time (even when they try not to). Remember God loves the sinner while hating the sin. People (by our fallen nature) love the sin but hate the sinner.
That is why sex is so often encouraged, even forced upon folks, but when folks fall into sexual situations they are alienated. In the case of the children who lost their virginity, I seriously doubt their parents or even their pastor is taking this stance with them. But rather they are disappointed and saddened to the point of grief (over the loss of innocence and the difficult road ahead for the children who lost their virginity).
The alienation of friends at their own parents behest (look it up) is not so much directed at any one individual as it is a precaution to protect their children from the same downfall.
This is not to make anyone feel bad or badly about themselves. If you have lost your virginity you have lost something you are never going to get back. You would do well to seriously contemplate this loss. Learn from it. For if you do learn from it, you have at least turned one apsect of this hard lesson into a positive one.
Even if you have learned your lesson well, do not expect this will change things with your friends or your parents. This is one of the things that is so drastic about this.
Few people are properly warned about this before they fall into temptation... many might not listen even if they had been. But one thing is for certain, the devil has a mass advertisement agency working for him on the matter of sex.
Most people indulge in sex sin (that is, according to biblical standards). Men ogle everything that shows skin, women show skin to get men to ogle, movies, television, magazines, friends at school all say sex is just for fun or everybody's doing it...
Few Churches even bother teaching what the biblical criteria are for sexual behavior because it seems so archaic or so starkly in contrast with what takes place in the most common Christian homes (not to mention in public life). Of course, the divorce statistics in Christian homes meets and even surpasses that of non-Christians and has done so for over a generation now. The common denominator has been throwing out biblical standards for sex for generations now.
A chap made the comment that he thought one of the children who lost their virginity might have been forced to do so more than they realize. Given their tender age I would agree with him. Even if they thought they were a willing participant, some decisions a minor can only be coerced into making. We all have choices to make. But a child had less resolve and life experience / wisdom and can easily be swayed.
This is why children cannot buy homes or cars or cannot enlist in the Army.
Most adults have difficulty contemplating the ramifications of their commitments and decisions along these lines and all the more about sex. So, children have even less ability to make up their own mind. If the fiend (not friend but fiend) who took the virginity from them did not apply himself to coerce her then it almost certainly would not have occured to her. The same is true about peer pressure from friends.
It is appalling how children badger one another for simply being a virgin.
God created sex and sexual expression to be between one man and one woman for one lifetime in private and in the bounds of holy matrimony. Let not what God joined together be put asunder by any man or woman.
Sexual deviation from what God intended and instructed in his Word always results in trouble. First of all there could be a pregnancy. If a kid thinks it's hard to be a kid, it is nothing compared to being responsible for your own kid.
Sexually transmitted diseases are real and they are out there in the world and they are carried by people whom you would lease suspect would have them. Several of these STDs can most certainly infect you and scar you for life.
Suppose someday you meet Mr. Right, and you fall madly in love together. This is the one you want to spend forever with and raise your children with. BUT, he is a virgin and you no longer have your virginity to give him. It will matter. It will matter most to you. Or he may change his mind and not want to marry you at all because he waited and you did not.
Or what about another Mr. Right who may not care if you are a virgin or is not one himself. BUT, you have a cold sore that recurring shows up on private parts (herpes complex B) and there is no question that he will eventually be infected with the same virus (viral = incurable) by having sex with you.
Hollywood never tells how Will and Grace could end up with herpes or clamidia or syphilis or HIV AIDS.
This is not to scare the life out of anyone, but to harp on the facts so that repeat mistakes do not take place. God willing, none of you are pregnate or infected and that is a rare blessing. All is not lost. There is a special someone out there for you of God's chosing. Just be patient and wait for them.
Also remember, JESUS FORGIVES YOU!
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
That confession is to him, by the way. He already knows everything, but this is coming clean with God. And what you did is not too much for him to forgive. It may certainly feel that way now. But God loves you and sent his Son to die so that your sins could be washed away by his blood.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
This was mostly written for the benefit of the young men and women who frequent this board, but it gives us all pause to think and repent of the deeds we do, the ogling the flaunting, the flirting and worse.
God can forgive us, but the consequences for these sins linger on. Look all around us how sex saturated the world has become because we in the Church relaxed the rules.
Jesus Christ did not look upon those who fell sexually as being beneath others or as if they were scum bags. People do this all the time (even when they try not to). Remember God loves the sinner while hating the sin. People (by our fallen nature) love the sin but hate the sinner.
That is why sex is so often encouraged, even forced upon folks, but when folks fall into sexual situations they are alienated. In the case of the children who lost their virginity, I seriously doubt their parents or even their pastor is taking this stance with them. But rather they are disappointed and saddened to the point of grief (over the loss of innocence and the difficult road ahead for the children who lost their virginity).
The alienation of friends at their own parents behest (look it up) is not so much directed at any one individual as it is a precaution to protect their children from the same downfall.
This is not to make anyone feel bad or badly about themselves. If you have lost your virginity you have lost something you are never going to get back. You would do well to seriously contemplate this loss. Learn from it. For if you do learn from it, you have at least turned one apsect of this hard lesson into a positive one.
Even if you have learned your lesson well, do not expect this will change things with your friends or your parents. This is one of the things that is so drastic about this.
Few people are properly warned about this before they fall into temptation... many might not listen even if they had been. But one thing is for certain, the devil has a mass advertisement agency working for him on the matter of sex.
Most people indulge in sex sin (that is, according to biblical standards). Men ogle everything that shows skin, women show skin to get men to ogle, movies, television, magazines, friends at school all say sex is just for fun or everybody's doing it...
Few Churches even bother teaching what the biblical criteria are for sexual behavior because it seems so archaic or so starkly in contrast with what takes place in the most common Christian homes (not to mention in public life). Of course, the divorce statistics in Christian homes meets and even surpasses that of non-Christians and has done so for over a generation now. The common denominator has been throwing out biblical standards for sex for generations now.
A chap made the comment that he thought one of the children who lost their virginity might have been forced to do so more than they realize. Given their tender age I would agree with him. Even if they thought they were a willing participant, some decisions a minor can only be coerced into making. We all have choices to make. But a child had less resolve and life experience / wisdom and can easily be swayed.
This is why children cannot buy homes or cars or cannot enlist in the Army.
Most adults have difficulty contemplating the ramifications of their commitments and decisions along these lines and all the more about sex. So, children have even less ability to make up their own mind. If the fiend (not friend but fiend) who took the virginity from them did not apply himself to coerce her then it almost certainly would not have occured to her. The same is true about peer pressure from friends.
It is appalling how children badger one another for simply being a virgin.
God created sex and sexual expression to be between one man and one woman for one lifetime in private and in the bounds of holy matrimony. Let not what God joined together be put asunder by any man or woman.
Sexual deviation from what God intended and instructed in his Word always results in trouble. First of all there could be a pregnancy. If a kid thinks it's hard to be a kid, it is nothing compared to being responsible for your own kid.
Sexually transmitted diseases are real and they are out there in the world and they are carried by people whom you would lease suspect would have them. Several of these STDs can most certainly infect you and scar you for life.
Suppose someday you meet Mr. Right, and you fall madly in love together. This is the one you want to spend forever with and raise your children with. BUT, he is a virgin and you no longer have your virginity to give him. It will matter. It will matter most to you. Or he may change his mind and not want to marry you at all because he waited and you did not.
Or what about another Mr. Right who may not care if you are a virgin or is not one himself. BUT, you have a cold sore that recurring shows up on private parts (herpes complex B) and there is no question that he will eventually be infected with the same virus (viral = incurable) by having sex with you.
Hollywood never tells how Will and Grace could end up with herpes or clamidia or syphilis or HIV AIDS.
This is not to scare the life out of anyone, but to harp on the facts so that repeat mistakes do not take place. God willing, none of you are pregnate or infected and that is a rare blessing. All is not lost. There is a special someone out there for you of God's chosing. Just be patient and wait for them.
Also remember, JESUS FORGIVES YOU!
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
That confession is to him, by the way. He already knows everything, but this is coming clean with God. And what you did is not too much for him to forgive. It may certainly feel that way now. But God loves you and sent his Son to die so that your sins could be washed away by his blood.
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
This was mostly written for the benefit of the young men and women who frequent this board, but it gives us all pause to think and repent of the deeds we do, the ogling the flaunting, the flirting and worse.
God can forgive us, but the consequences for these sins linger on. Look all around us how sex saturated the world has become because we in the Church relaxed the rules.
