Flirting

[angel_girl86]

What would you consider to be flirting?
is it a sin?
I was talking to some friends and we thought maybe it was when you act a certain way with the opposite sex, a way that you wouldn't act with anyone else. Still, boys seem to interpret things differently......
arrghhh soo confusing.

 

[Alejandro]

It seams very confusing!

as per m-w dictionary:
2 a : to behave amorously without serious intent b : to show superficial or casual interest or liking <flirted with the idea>; also : [size=-1]EXPERIMENT[/size] <a novelist flirting with poetry>

on both statements.. there's nothing serious.
Could you give us an example of a boy interpreting something else?

 

[angel_girl86]

i think what i'm trying to say is that I don't want to be seen by people as a flirt. As a guy, what would u consider to be flirting??
If a girl acts "flirty" do guys automatically think that they like them?? what goes on inside their head???

 

[Alejandro]

Oh.. I understand now!

Well.. men will always be boys. And yes.. many will take a flirt as if you were interested.
There are different levels of flirting too.. A mature male will know that a flirt is just a game or nothing serious.. he might play along with or just refuse it.. but for many men a flirt will mean to them that you want them.

If it's a sin? depends on your intentions.. if you're doing it naturally.. not knowing the guy will take it too serious.. then it's part of nature. There's no guy who will deny a flirt from a girl.

If you do it with bad intentions.. knowing the guy will take it seriously and hurt him.. then yes..

 

[angel_girl86]

Come on boys!!! be honest, if a girls flirts with you (intentionally or not) what automatically goes through your mind? Do think that maybe she likes you?

 

[WalkOn]

If a girl flirts guys are gonna think it's because they like them.

 

[Alejandro]

Come on boys!!! be honest, if a girls flirts with you (intentionally or not) what automatically goes through your mind? Do think that maybe she likes you?

What does it mean to you to flirt with a guy?

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

If a girl acts flirty I wonder if she's into me or really just into herself and liking the attention.

So it taskes more than flirting to get me intersted in a girl based on past experiences.

 

[fishstix]

Come on boys!!! be honest, if a girls flirts with you (intentionally or not) what automatically goes through your mind? Do think that maybe she likes you?

If somebody flirts with you, of course you are going to think that they like you. That's basically what flirting is - giving signals that show romantic interest in another person. If you don't want someone to think that you like him, then it would be a good idea not to send him those signals.

 

[Evie1980]

I think I have a bad habit of unintentionally flirting with guys (I have been told this on a number of occassions) so now I have to make sure I don't flirt which makes people think that I don't like them at all because I am so careful about my actions around others. I think that sometimes our behaviour can easily be misinterpreted by others (doesn't really matter the gender) and this can have disastorous effects on the relationship you have with that person and because the way we behave is seen as another form of communication sometimes the true message isn't listened to (just like all other forms of communication). It is very confusing!

God bless, Evie

 

[_Paladin_]

What would you consider to be flirting?
is it a sin?
I was talking to some friends and we thought maybe it was when you act a certain way with the opposite sex, a way that you wouldn't act with anyone else. Still, boys seem to interpret things differently......
arrghhh soo confusing.

What would I consider flirting? acting very playful taking something of someone's and running around in circles trying to keep it away from him/her, poking, throwing little peices of paper, etc.
No its not a sin if the intentions aren't to mislead someone.

 

[immersedingrace]

I get so annoyed at the concept of flirting. I've been accused of flirting with someone simply because I was having a conversation with them and was laughing at their stories/jokes.

acting very playful taking something of someone's and running around in circles trying to keep it away from him/her, poking, throwing little peices of paper, etc.

I do this with my brothers, is that flirting? I don't think so. I've seen friends do this when you knew that the two people weren't interested in one another.

I think I have a bad habit of unintentionally flirting with guys

I don't think one can "unintentionally" flirt. Flirting has a connotation of wanting something. Simply being nice to a guy (or girl) can be considered flirting by an outsider, when it's simply meant as a kind gesture.

so now I have to make sure I don't flirt which makes people think that I don't like them at all because I am so careful about my actions around others.

I know what you mean. I don't have a flirty bone in my body, but I've been accused of it on many occasions when all I was doing was being nice to a person. Are we not allowed to joke with our friends? Are we not allowed to be playful? I have to curb my natural tendencies around those I don't know in order to not be called a flirt. It stifles my friendships with men, because the last thing I want them to think is that I'm interested. (Ironically though, when I am interested, I retreat, but that's a whole different topic all together)

I think that sometimes our behaviour can easily be misinterpreted by others (doesn't really matter the gender) and this can have disastorous effects on the relationship you have with that person and because the way we behave is seen as another form of communication sometimes the true message isn't listened to (just like all other forms of communication). It is very confusing!

It can be, and the result, at least in my life, is stifled friendships with the opposite sex. I find that sad.

 

[JPPT1974]

If someone was married, I would just smile and say that if you weren't married I would ask you out on a date.
But if someone wasn't married, I would flirt with them but not to the extent where I got carried away.

 

[wildthing]

Come on boys!!! be honest, if a girls flirts with you (intentionally or not) what automatically goes through your mind? Do think that maybe she likes you?

You know what goes though my mind would be, could be. Yes I do enjoy a good flrit. Even do it on the net.

 

[angel_girl86]

wow everyone has so many different view on flirting.
I personally don't think I'm a flirt. But I guess I can see how sometimes being really friendly can be seen as flirting.
I have friend (a guy who is younger than me...18) who's always flicking my nose, I think it's funny and pretend to be annoyed at him. It's like a game that we play......is that flirting?? I mean I don't think it is, but he could....right?

 

[chanis]

Flirting is, I think, part of being human. There's quasi-courting behavior that we display when we find someone attractive. Fliritng can come in a varity of different behaviors, sor one person it may look a certain way than it does for me...I know I CAN be a a flirt and I'm aware of when I do it and whom I do it with...I wouldn't say I do it all the time...there's just fronzy people you certainly don't want to be fliritng with...I don't think it's a sin...

 

[gvsuman]

Come on boys!!! be honest, if a girls flirts with you (intentionally or not) what automatically goes through your mind? Do think that maybe she likes you?

Yeah, to be honest, that is probably the first thing that enters my mind. But then reality smacks me upside my head and tells me that there is no way she actually does like me. I think flirting means when a girl smiles alot and gears jokes towards you and compliments you alot, and doesnt really pay attention to other people.

 

[JPPT1974]

Everybody is different on flirting.
Nobody is the same.
I just don't want to get caught flirting with someone that is married or in a relationship.
Now what would that say about me?

 

[sweetlambofgod]

not a sin, a thing you do to get a guys attention

 

[Kristin06]

I agree...flirting is just a way to show a guy that you want to get to know him more! As long as it is innocent flirting, I don't think it is a sin!! I only flirt with guys who I feel I have a connection with, otherwise it would be like leading someone on!