flashbacks are bad SA TRIGGER

[_Ella_]

Am hurting a lot ...flashbacks are bad ...I have tried grounding techniques yet nothing helps
My husband is supportive and he says that i need to keep trying to ground myself
Av felt spacey all day as well
I dont have a Therapist nor can afford one outside the NHS and i have asked my psychiatrist for one and he said i didnt need one that i should learn other ways to deal with the past and that i should be able to do that without therapy...
Today am not sure what triggered me something on the news about a gang rape in India left me feeling dirty and disgusting
My husband don't know that that is the thing that triggered me
but we don't have the news on now as my husband is on his pc playing games
Av made myself a hot drink see if the hotness from the drink will ground me
as i feel very dissociated
Its just finding what works am scared and i feel like am the bad one in this because i let the abuse happen

 

[Johnnz]

Memories are very real. That's how we function as humans. It's the extent that we have processed past events and also allowed Jesus to enter into our past hurts that 'depowers' really nasty flashbacks.

John
NZ

 

[raven1]

I am sorry i am late. Can you make a safe spot. I made one in my bedroom closet with a Stuffed animal , a cross and some candy. I went there when things got bad. It helped.

 

[RuthD]

I ground myself by talking to my birds and hugging my dog and playing music. I'm sorry you had that flashback. I get them when I go around lots of people and know how hard it is to get grounded sometimes. I am praying for you. I just saw your post sorry it's late. God bless you and keep you.

 

[kopite]

a very good way to be rid of flashbacks is, E.M.D.R. light treatment.

 

[the.Sheepdog]

I wont say that my flashbacks are anywhere near what you suffered but A war incident when I was 18 is with me still. It had faded I thought with time until the 91 Iraq war. TV brought it all to me live almost in living color. Flashbacks started again that night later in bed.

Flashbacks always seem to involve terror and helplessness and then guilt later. I have used the VA to treat my issues and they are no help. Meds was not my answer.

I bring my weakness to Jesus and accept that things are not my fault and my guilt was really pride. "I" felt "I" should have died not the other guy. Like "I" had any control over events at all. My problem is common to those who survive when others did not. Stuff happens and we dont have to worry over why really. Just how we deal with things later. I slept on the floor a lot in the early days of being home. I am not cured believe me. I still consider the floor sometimes at night and wake up and listen for hours for things that never come.

I trust in Jesus and cling to that.