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<blockquote data-quote="St_Worm2" data-source="post: 75751642" data-attributes="member: 511"><p>Hello again James, yes, that is always a good thing to remember. That said, they are human beings, not animals, and we are not called to be a doormat for others because we've become Christians<span style="font-family: 'Georgia'"> (and that, for their sake). </span>I say that very carefully, but if you always keep ~their~ good in your mind <span style="font-family: 'Georgia'">(especially in the midst of strife) </span>and pray for the Holy Spirit's guidance in dealing with them<span style="font-family: 'Georgia'"> (before, during and after you have contact with them), </span>trusting that the Lord will see you past your present problems with them, things will be fine .. or at least they should end up that way<span style="font-family: 'Georgia'"> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></span></p><p>That's good <img src="http://www.maritime-sda-online.com/forums/images/graemlins/default/thumbsup.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":oldthumbsup:" title="Old Thumbsup :oldthumbsup:" data-shortname=":oldthumbsup:" /></p><p></p><p>As for your issues with "confidence", you can certainly work on that (or is this a matter that is principally related to the present relationship that you have with your co-workers?).</p><p></p><p>Correct. They shouldn't treat you poorly either, of course, but as Christians, we are "commanded" not to do so. I'm certain that you are aware of the Golden Rule, yes, <span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px">"<em>However you <strong>want</strong> people to treat you, <strong>so treat them</strong>, for this is the Law and the Prophets</em>" .. <em>Matthew 7:12. </em></span></span>The thing about it is, we are commanded to treat others like we would want or expect to be treated by them... no matter how badly they may 'actually' be treating us at the time (or have treated us in the past). It's hardly an easy commandment to follow, impossible, in fact <span style="font-family: 'Georgia'">(on any kind of a regular basis)</span> outside of Christ (or for Christians, apart from walking in full fellowship with Him/being guided by Him).</p><p></p><p>Again, this is not to suggest that we are simply to be a doormat and "take it" <span style="font-family: 'Georgia'">(as that rarely does anyone any good)</span>, but we are to always approach others, even when they are being harsh towards us, in a loving manner/with their good in mind, even if the reason we are doing so is corrective.</p><p></p><p>Finally, if they are unwilling to be reasonable, tell them that you are sorry that they feel that way and then politely excuse yourself from the conversation, walk away, and pray for them/pray for another opportunity to talk with them in the future <span style="font-family: 'Georgia'">(and for yourself too, especially if your emotions are continuing to run high and you are having trouble with the idea of loving them and wanting the best for them)</span>.</p><p></p><p>Pastors are called by the Lord as His undershepherds, to help us/guide us/pray for us, and to keep a close watch over our souls on this side of the grave .. e.g. <a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Hebrews+13%3A17&version=NASB1995" target="_blank"><em><u><span style="color: #0000ff">Hebrews 13:17</span></u></em></a>. Most pastors I know enjoy talking to their congregants and are very good at giving us timely, godly advice, so just call him <span style="font-family: 'Georgia'">(or email him if you'd prefer)</span>, as this seems <span style="font-family: 'Georgia'">(at least to me)</span> too pressing a matter to wait until the COVID restrictions have been lifted. Quite frankly, you'd probably want to communicate with him privately about this anyway, even if the pandemic had never happened.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for praying for me as well <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>God bless you!</p><p></p><p>--David</p><p>p.s. - here's a set of Scriptures that I copied from another forum that seem good to consider and keep in mind whenever we have dealings with others <span style="font-family: 'Georgia'">(and especially when things are not going so well)</span>.</p><p></p><p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em><strong>Matthew 5</strong></em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em>16 Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and <strong>glorify your Father</strong> who is in heaven.</em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em><strong>Matthew 7</strong></em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em>12 However you<strong> want</strong> people to treat you, <strong>so treat them</strong>, for this is the Law and the Prophets.</em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em><strong>1 Corinthians 13</strong></em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em>1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have<strong> love</strong>, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.</em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em>4 <strong>Love is patient, love is kind</strong>........</em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em><strong>James 1</strong></em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em>19 Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;</em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em>20 for <strong>the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God</strong>.</em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em><strong>1 Peter 3</strong></em></span></span></p> <p style="margin-left: 20px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 18px"><em>15 Sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet <strong>with gentleness and reverence</strong>.</em></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="St_Worm2, post: 75751642, member: 511"] Hello again James, yes, that is always a good thing to remember. That said, they are human beings, not animals, and we are not called to be a doormat for others because we've become Christians[FONT=Georgia] (and that, for their sake). [/FONT]I say that very carefully, but if you always keep ~their~ good in your mind [FONT=Georgia](especially in the midst of strife) [/FONT]and pray for the Holy Spirit's guidance in dealing with them[FONT=Georgia] (before, during and after you have contact with them), [/FONT]trusting that the Lord will see you past your present problems with them, things will be fine .. or at least they should end up that way[FONT=Georgia] :)[/FONT] That's good :oldthumbsup: As for your issues with "confidence", you can certainly work on that (or is this a matter that is principally related to the present relationship that you have with your co-workers?). Correct. They shouldn't treat you poorly either, of course, but as Christians, we are "commanded" not to do so. I'm certain that you are aware of the Golden Rule, yes, [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=5]"[I]However you [B]want[/B] people to treat you, [B]so treat them[/B], for this is the Law and the Prophets[/I]" .. [I]Matthew 7:12. [/I][/SIZE][/FONT]The thing about it is, we are commanded to treat others like we would want or expect to be treated by them... no matter how badly they may 'actually' be treating us at the time (or have treated us in the past). It's hardly an easy commandment to follow, impossible, in fact [FONT=Georgia](on any kind of a regular basis)[/FONT] outside of Christ (or for Christians, apart from walking in full fellowship with Him/being guided by Him). Again, this is not to suggest that we are simply to be a doormat and "take it" [FONT=Georgia](as that rarely does anyone any good)[/FONT], but we are to always approach others, even when they are being harsh towards us, in a loving manner/with their good in mind, even if the reason we are doing so is corrective. Finally, if they are unwilling to be reasonable, tell them that you are sorry that they feel that way and then politely excuse yourself from the conversation, walk away, and pray for them/pray for another opportunity to talk with them in the future [FONT=Georgia](and for yourself too, especially if your emotions are continuing to run high and you are having trouble with the idea of loving them and wanting the best for them)[/FONT]. Pastors are called by the Lord as His undershepherds, to help us/guide us/pray for us, and to keep a close watch over our souls on this side of the grave .. e.g. [URL='https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Hebrews+13%3A17&version=NASB1995'][I][U][COLOR=#0000ff]Hebrews 13:17[/COLOR][/U][/I][/URL]. Most pastors I know enjoy talking to their congregants and are very good at giving us timely, godly advice, so just call him [FONT=Georgia](or email him if you'd prefer)[/FONT], as this seems [FONT=Georgia](at least to me)[/FONT] too pressing a matter to wait until the COVID restrictions have been lifted. Quite frankly, you'd probably want to communicate with him privately about this anyway, even if the pandemic had never happened. Thank you for praying for me as well :) God bless you! --David p.s. - here's a set of Scriptures that I copied from another forum that seem good to consider and keep in mind whenever we have dealings with others [FONT=Georgia](and especially when things are not going so well)[/FONT]. [INDENT][FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=5][I][B]Matthew 5[/B][/I] [I]16 Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and [B]glorify your Father[/B] who is in heaven.[/I] [I][B]Matthew 7[/B][/I] [I]12 However you[B] want[/B] people to treat you, [B]so treat them[/B], for this is the Law and the Prophets.[/I] [I][B]1 Corinthians 13[/B][/I] [I]1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have[B] love[/B], I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.[/I] [I]4 [B]Love is patient, love is kind[/B]........[/I] [I][B]James 1[/B][/I] [I]19 Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;[/I] [I]20 for [B]the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God[/B].[/I] [I][B]1 Peter 3[/B][/I] [I]15 Sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet [B]with gentleness and reverence[/B].[/I][/SIZE][/FONT][/INDENT] [/QUOTE]
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