Okay...this is "Broken Arrow's" wife....Yes, I have read every post on here from the very first one. I did NOT know that a certain person had even changed his name on Christian Forums...I read the Marriage Ministry section a lot. It has helped me through a lot of things. Reading where everybody else is and how they are working on things has been a big encouragement to me to stay and try to work things out.....Broken Arrow...when I called you at work and told you that I read the post you started under Marriage Ministry about "Neglecting my Wife....," you denied it and said, "I don't know what you are talking about. And all along, yes you did...you knew I recognized that was you posting....The "teenage girls" that call our house...you met through Christian Forums...Ministry is FINE...you spent countless hours talking to those girls from "out-of-state" on MSN, then they started calling the house. Sometimes, every night...or you called them and talked for hours. The whole time you talk to them....you didn't speak to me or the kids ALL NIGHT, because after getting off the phone with the girls, you got back online on MSN, "ministering" to more kids, sometimes to 12:30 am or later...TELL ME HOW can there be a relationship with 2 people when so many others are in the middle? Yes, I began talking to another man. That was wrong..I know that. I regret it...I will never get in chat rooms again. I was left home with the kids a lot when you were gone more than you were home with either youth events or something you just had to go do with the church or the teenagers. I was hurt and I became friends with somebody online...It did get emotional...We became too close....What I did was wrong....I know that...I chose to stay with you...I chose to work out things with you....I know it was wrong...I've asked God to forgive me, and I've asked you to forgive me....It's not just the girls that have called the house and taken priority over me, and our children. I quit going to the teenagers ballgames because instead of sitting with the wife and kids, you had to sit with the teenagers. I quit going out and eating after church with you, and I began taking my own car to church, because when we went out to eat....you didn't want to sit with the "wife and kids..." you had to sit with the teenagers....had teenage girls hugging all over you, also...that really makes you mad for me to say that...I reached out to a lot of teenage girls at that church we were at...but I sat back and saw for myself...they did like me...but they would much rather be around you and "hug on you..." and how hurtful is it to your wife that after you got home...there were no hugs left for the wife and kids? And when you got home from "ministering..." I was questioned as to WHY didn't I try to minister to those kids? Why did I just sit back and do nothing...? It ripped my heart out watching you love everybody else and pour yourself out to everybody and then you come home and you are like a stranger...You were one thing in front of those teens and the church, and totally different at home...You couldn't love us at home...you took advantage of us...and although I have been a Christian for 15 years now...a person can only take so much...You post in here and blame everything on the "cyber boy"...he was the icing on the cake, so to speak...I literally spent years of deliberately ignoring when men would try to talk to me...I avoided all tempation...I goofed up by thinking it was okay to "talk online..." It wouldn't hurt anything to be friends with somebody...Well, I was wrong to have done that...I'm sorry...I honestly believe you that all you ever intended towards any of those teens was to be there for them and reach out to them...Totally inappropriate...but especially the ones that call the house...they have became so dependent on you...if they don't get to talk to you...they get upset and freak out and then they are sending you emails to every email address that you have...so the only thing you did different is to tell them to stop calling the house every night...they are still contacting you...at your work email, your other emails..you call them, etc..I am really mad and irritated right now. I probably shouldn't have even wrote any of this. The reason I thought you were "checking up on me...." you have asked before whose phone number that was on the caller I.D., and I've told you...You saw that it was a "man's name" that showed up on the caller I.D....the phone is listed in her husband's name...most phone #'s are listed in the husband's name...so it was hard for me to believe that you didn't know who it was...I'm sorry for getting upset over it....I probably said a lot of things in here that I should not have said....I am sorry....I'm hurting...Things didn't get like this overnight, and it won't go away overnight...This is just how I feel about some things....I have a lot of changing to do and seeking God myself...so I know I have my faults...I don't know where we go from here...I have days where I want to just give up...