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SarSardonic

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Sorry to be a bother yet again....

I feel so abandoned by God.
For a while it seemed like our prayers were answered (we had enough money to make it through the month, things were going well, my husband made it back to the States safely from Afghanistan and is getting the medical treatment he needs.)
Now I feel (I know it's wrong...) that God hates me.

My husband is basically homeless....
[Read "Homeless Veteran (Active duty) help?" in Military forum.]
When he deployed I returned to my home town/state to be closer to family to get support (I have a disability and need help, my oldest son is also special needs.) I signed an apartment lease for 1 year (March 2011 to March 2012) for the duration of his deployment.
Now that he's returned early from his deployment due to medical issues and is back at his base (for 8 months until he's out of the military completely), they won't let him stay in the barracks because he is married.
We can't afford to pay for our apartment here and an apartment over there for him.
If he divorces me he can have barracks (and still get BAH [money for housing] for my apartment here). (That was a suggestion from the Housing office.)
We can also get on-post housing there in 1-3 months (but he doesn't have a place to live NOW, and we can't afford to move all of our stuff 400 miles [we used our tax return money last when we moved last time...], and I don't think I can break the lease, plus my son has surgeries coming up in the next few months that we've been waiting for for almost 2 years, plus it would mean transferring to a new school [he's special ed, so there'll be a lot of paperwork] for a few months [Aug-Mar] and then transferring him back when my husband gets out of the military, then finding a place to live all over again in March.)

Our account is negative by almost a thousand.
(My husband needed food, military stuff, a vehicle to get to/from "work" and doctors appointments; we're basically two "households" sharing a 'one household' income.)
I might not have enough for rent for our apartment, I'm running out of food and diapers for my kids, and I don't even have enough gas in my car to make it to church and back.

I just feel so hopeless.

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Please pray that either my husband gets to stay in one of the many empty barracks on post, or that he finds someone to stay with, or that we get on-post housing quickly and that the move goes smoothly.

Please pray that we have enough money to pay bills, feed the kids (and ourselves), get diapers and wipes [or that both of my sons will be fully potty-trained asap...], and have enough for gas to get to/from work/church/school/etc.

Please pray that I feel God's love again and that I stop feeling so hopeless/mad/sad/resentful/depressed/negative.


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Sorry this was so long.

Thank you, and God bless.
 

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God doesn't hate you. Many people suffer even more than you and are still loved by God. You can not allow your faith to be dictated by earthly things, because faith is not about earthly-things. In these hard times, God requires your Faith, not your doubt and sense of rejection.

Those who suffer poverty will appreciate riches more than those who have not. All suffering comes with a blessing. Know that you will make it through this, though it may be hard. If God is not answering your prayers, pray for other things in other ways. However, I will certainly be praying for you guys, and I wish you the best.

BEN
 
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Thank you.

I know that God doesn't really hate me.... I guess I'm just upset that I was just praising Him for my answered prayers for our other situations, and then this gets thrown at us.
I am not "strong" in my faith to begin with, and this whole situation is really causing me to struggle.

Thank you for taking the time to actually read my post, respond, and offer your kind encouragement and prayers.

God bless you.
 
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Sarsardonic,

I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I've been there, my friend.

I'm going to challenge you to do what God challenged me to do many years ago, and which changed my financial life forever.

There is a challenge to us in God's Word that appears to be an impossibility for you. But stay with me, and I'll show you how God gives us another way to fulfill this not using money.

Malachi 3:10-12
Bring your tithes into my storehouse so that there will be food for my people. Try me - prove me and see if I won't pour you out a blessing so great that you will not have room to contain it. I will rebuke the devourer for your sake. You will not lose your provisions early, but your fruit will stay on your vine for its full season. I will not allow the pestilence to come and devour your crops. All those who look at you will call you blessed of God, for you will be prosperous and delightful.


No money means none to pay tithes. Don't think in terms of money. Give from what you already have. Go through your home and pick out nice things you do not need; clothes, shoes, books, dishes, knick knacks, whatever. Give it to the homeless shelter or similar charitable organization in your area. It is very important that you give what is nice - not what is broken down, stained, faded, or of little value. Let the Spirit of God guide you in this.

God will count this as righteousness unto you. He will fulfill his promises. For the one act of giving/paying your tithes and offerings, he has given you 7 promises. Every one of them will start to come true for you before you can tithe again. You cannot out-give God, and He loves to bless his children.

I did this 20 years ago, and I could make a list of miracles that began to overtake my life in the first few weeks after I gave the first time. I have continued to give like that (with money too) and He has always given me back more. Which reminds me. There is one other verse that goes with this one:

Luke 6:38
[Jesus said] "Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full—pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.”

You have nothing to lose, but everything to gain.


Father God, help Sarsardonic to see the truth in this. Holy Spirit, bear witness with his spirit right now, and reveal to him that what I have told him is true and that it has not the ability to fail. Show him anything there is that perhaps he just hasn't seen. Rebuke the devourer and bring glory to your name, Lord. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.
 
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Contact your church and let them know of your need.

Contact a food bank for diapers and supplies / food for your kids

Contact military organizations that help with this type of situation.

See if your landlord will help out - sometimes when people know a vetran needs help, they are willing to help

Contact a local newspaper and see if they will write an article - often that getshelp especially for vetans

I'll be praying - I'm nearly homeless myself.
 
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Thank you all for your prayers.

Please continue to pray.

-Our finances are still horrible.

+ I have enough food/diapers for my kids for 2+ weeks.

-My husband is still homeless (and right now he doesn't even have his vehicle to sleep in because it's getting worked on until Monday or Tuesday so that it can pass inspection).

-He is only able to eat sometimes, not every day. (Without a place to store food or any way to cook food his options are limited and expensive, and no one has any extra MREs that he can have.)

[He's contacted the USO, the American Legion, the Veterans support place, housing, he's been up the chain of command, he's made a complaint to the Inspector General, he's asked around different places and no one can help him.
I'm tempted to contact the local news about this, but I'm scared that he'll get in trouble if I do....]

+We are now on the waiting list for on-post housing.
It will take 1-3 months to get the housing.
We aren't sure how we're going to manage to afford the move or where we're going to stay while we wait after I close out our apartment.
-Also the school district doesn't have a preschool for my 3.5 year old son. He's accomplished so much in special ed (when he started right when he turned 3 he couldn't even say "mama," now he talks at a 2 year old level- a major accomplishment.) I'm afraid that in the 7-9 months he's out of preschool he'll forget all that he learned and be even more behind when he goes back to school here in 7-9 months.


Please continue to pray for our situation.
Thank you.
God bless.
 
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Please continue to pray....

This is a really stressful time.

+My husband is getting an apartment on the 10th.
-Our BAH stops then, and I have until the 19th to get out of this apartment and get it professionally cleaned.
-Our account is negative (my hubby had to eat, and fast food was his only option.)
I can't afford a Uhaul or storage for our furniture and stuff. I can't even afford gas to get to where my husband is. I can't afford a place to stay after I get out of here but before I manage to make it to where my husband is.
I am lucky that I think we have enough food to last for at least a couple of weeks and I'll hopefully have enough diapers for my two sons.
-My special needs son is not going to be able to get to go to preschool and receive the special education services that are in his IEP because he's too young for the preschool in the school district and there's no way we can afford private school (and we're not Catholic anyway...).
-I finally was able to start Vocational Rehabilitation and now I have to stop and hope that they re-open my case in 7-9 months when I get back here....
-I have to cancel a lot of doctor appointments for me and my sons. It took months of waiting to get the appointments, now it will take even longer....
-My husband is still homeless right now. He can't even plug in his nebulizer to take his meds. And now that the account is negative he can't even eat....
-To add to all this stress: My step-father-in-law is in the hospital having heart surgery (he has 4 or 5 clogged arteries) and it doesn't look good....

Continued prayers are really really needed right now....

Thank you all who have prayed.
 
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I just retired as an Army 1Sgt. In my 20 years I never saw one active duty soldier go homeless or hungry. What good is an unfit and malnourished soldier? The Army won't let him starve. What post is he assigned to? His CO or 1Sgt should be aware of the issues you all are facing and offer a solution. There is always room in the barracks and chow hall. Active duty soldiers eat free there. Three meals a day. I will be praying for you and your family.
 
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I have also been in the US Navy for almost 14 years now and I understand the situation that you are in at the moment. I'm not sure by the sound of the situation that all the appropriate people are aware of what's going on. There is a place called "The Fleet and Family Service Center" for the Navy. I'm not sure what branch your husband is in, but there should be something similar on the base that he is stationed. They provide all types of services relating to your issues for both military and military spouses. They have all kinds of programs available such as WIC which ultimately qualifies you for a variety of free staple foods for the month such as bread, milk, and cheese. I was on WIC myself as a young recruit with a family and very little income. Other programs that they offer is counseling as well as interest free loans. The Fleet and Family Service Center is a very good place to start. My prayers will be with you as you fight through!
 
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