Finally....

[tryingtobeagain]

Wow... I never expected this...

Most of you know that my husband left me about a year ago and refused to divorce me. He's been hiding ever since. Well, he called today out of the blue, and gave me his address to serve him with divorce papers. I don't know what to think of this or what to say. I feel like I've been waiting for this for so long and he's been arguing it so hard and now I wonder what his motive is for doing such a thing. I'm really worried about it being some kind of set-up for something. I never imagined being anything but happy when he finally gave me the info to move forward and now I'm not as happy as I imagined.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Maybe he wants you to want him.

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

You know the truth and you know what's been on your heart for awhile. Follow through with what you know to be right.

 

[hope4today]

Sometimes they really do throw out a curve ball don't they?

Pray about it and trust your heart. If I remember correctly you have been wanting this for a long time.

I pray you will find peace in the midst of this.

Bless you

Hope

 

[deliciousBass]

Wow... I never expected this...

Most of you know that my husband left me about a year ago and refused to divorce me. He's been hiding ever since. Well, he called today out of the blue, and gave me his address to serve him with divorce papers. I don't know what to think of this or what to say. I feel like I've been waiting for this for so long and he's been arguing it so hard and now I wonder what his motive is for doing such a thing. I'm really worried about it being some kind of set-up for something. I never imagined being anything but happy when he finally gave me the info to move forward and now I'm not as happy as I imagined.

Yeah, I want to say congratulations but then again... having to go through the process I'm sure will only bring up past pains...

Anyway, I know you suspect he has an ulterior motive but what if he doesn't?

 

[tryingtobeagain]

If he dosen't, then God has worked through him and he is now prepared to give up a life we never really had. I had been praying to God to soften his heart so he could stop sinning the way he was. I am hoping God has done this but I am prepared for the worst. It just dosen't make sense when eh's been saying for so long that he plans on staying married to me for the rest of his life because he dosen't believe in divorce (but yet thinks that it's ok to have relationsips with other women when he's married to me). And now out of the blue he gives me the address. I mean I've argued with him via email for the past year to give it to me... I don't get it at all and I don't really want to know if he's met and planning on marrying someone else because I would only feel bad for her.

 

[ALABALE]

First, let me say HOW HAPPY I AM FOR YOU! I know the struggles you've been thru and the pain. And I've seen how in the past few weeks you have really come out and tried to be social again and you've been doing a great job at it.

Second, Do you want the divorce? If you do, serve him the papers and see what transpires.

When I was separate a friend of mine showed me their signed divorce papers and it was shocking, it hurt, it was like- WOW!!
Maybe when he sees them he might reconsider.

You have a tough decision to make and I will keep you in my prayers for God's guidance and widsom.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

Thanks Alabale,
I know I want the divorce! I'm just worried about what will be the consequences...

It seems I have been being really social lately and enjoying my life more and more.

 

[FLANDIDLYANDERS]

Congrats... hopefully!

It's a bit disconcerting when they finally do the right thing. You-know-who finally agreed for me to have residency for the eldest. No contest, huffing or irrational outbursts. Thankfully.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

That's great news Flan! I know she must be happy (the eldest I mean).

After doing the wrong thing for so long, or doing selfish things for so long I just can't help thinking that this is another selfish attempt in some way...

 

[FLANDIDLYANDERS]

It will be self-serving fo shizza! BUt accept it anyway. He's just found a new more self-orientated spin to put on the divorce. It'll still be selfish, but it'll be done, which is the best thing for you!

 

[tryingtobeagain]

I finally spoke with my lawyer and she said everything is ok for me to file! I already have the paperwork at home and half filled out! I can't wait for this to be over!

 

[hope4today]

I'm glad and sad for you at the same time. I hope you understand what I mean by that.

Now you will be able to move on much freeer....is that even a word?

 

[dbhost]

I'm glad and sad for you at the same time. I hope you understand what I mean by that.

Now you will be able to move on much freeer....is that even a word?

The poster above stole my thunder...

My heart hurts for you, and at the same time I am glad it is moving forward to being over.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

Thanks Hope and DB... I know what you mean. I'm sad that it went this way in the first place but now that it has I know I really need to be severed from this man. I don't enjoy being legally tied to someone who is sinning the way he is. I do need to move forward with my life and I'm happy about the way my life is progressing.