Found out my husband is going thru with the plans to serve me next week. Says that he doesn't want to bother with counseling. I can't believe this is happening.I hurt so bad and cant stop crying. Before, at least I had hope that he could change his mind. I can't even function now and be a mom. Wish I could just run away somewhere..... I can't crawl out of the pit.
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Connielw, I wish I could ease your pain. I know God can and will. These scriptures will help...John 14 and Psalm 27. You said you're a mom, try to focus on your child (ren). Believe me I know it's hard. Thankfully there are many hands here to help pull you out of that pit. They (this site) has truly helped me. Please visit here often and vent. God be with you.connielw said:
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Do not fret, and do not deapair, For God is always there. It is not too late, nor is it ever too late, unless he is dead. That would be the point of no return. Prayer works miracles. The more uninted in prayer with you, the more powerful it is. I shall stand and pray with you.
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Dear Connie y r u scared? Can't u see Jesus is there with u waiting to talk to u? surrender ur worries to him n he will take care. Yes like major_minor said belive in the Lord and things will be fine. God loves all of us connie. So just give praise to the Lord for all the troubles u get. Lord cover my sister with ur precious Blood n show her how much u love her. Soften her hubby's heart n show him connie love for him. Amen
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Connilw,
Dear sister in Christ may God lift you and put His healing arms around you.
I know exactly where you are for I am there as well. We hope and hope and hope but our husbands have theri own agenda. All we can do is pray for them to soften their heart and cleanings of their minds.
God Bless
Dear sister in Christ may God lift you and put His healing arms around you.
I know exactly where you are for I am there as well. We hope and hope and hope but our husbands have theri own agenda. All we can do is pray for them to soften their heart and cleanings of their minds.
God Bless
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Hi Connie,
I am going through the same thing...all I can do is share with you how the Lord is healing me:
I was in rebellion of the Lord when I married my husband and willfully chose to not listen to counsel or to the Lord. I basically said to the Lord, "I know this isn't what you want, but I want it, and I'm going to do it". I have sincerely repented and have been sincerely disciplined. My relationship with the Lord is restored while my relationship with my husband is nearly destroyed. We are separated, and he is wanting a divorce; papers are in the works.
My husband is not walking with the Lord; his salvation is between him and Jesus. He has told me, though, that he isn't interested in church, the Bible, etc. He says that he wants a divorce because he knows that he is not what I want or need and he's not interested in changing. He says our differences are too great, and that we both need to be free to be who we are. He has filed divorce papers.
Maybe he's right. I'm so tired of praying, interceding, crying, hoping. I keep giving him to the Lord and 1Cor 7:15 is always on my mind. Maybe I am just supposed to give up and let him go. I'm so tired. It'd be so much easier in some ways to just let this fall apart. He's still willing to talk, though, and I think as long as he is, I need to be.
The Lord has used all of this in my life to expose my idols (primarily my husband...that paved the way for all this wreckage) and to draw me to himself. I'm just so sorry that he had to use my husband and this marriage to get my attention regarding my rebellion and idolatry. I am so sorry of how I hurt my husband. First, I looked to him to be my savior and then I looked at him as my enemy. What a disaster. I hurt him so badly, and I know the Lord can heal him, but my shame is so great. No wonder he doesn't want anything to do with me OR the Lord. Ugh. I know this will heal, too, and that the Lord is dedicated to restoration and redemption. I so wish I could fast-forward a few months as I know healing is coming.
My focus has been on Isaiah 54: 4-6, but I substituted the word "divorce" for "widowhood" in verse 4:
"Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame.
Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.
You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood (divorce).
For your Maker is your husband-the Lord Almighty is his name-the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.
The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit-
a wife who married young (or in rebellion!), only to be rejected," says your God.
Isn't that awesome???!!! Oh, what a wonderful God we have. At the very moment that He is breaking my heart, He is healing and comforting me.
I've also clung to Psalm 32:8
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will counsel you and watch over you.
I need sooo much instruction, teaching, and counseling. Everyone has their own opinions, interpretations, and ideas of what is right and how to handle these situations. I could really care less what anyone thinks: I NEED to know what the Lord wants me to do; what will please Him. Therefore, I spend a good chunk of my days on my knees with my face buried in my hands, seeking Him. I have never cried so many tears; I didn't know it was possible. I didn't know my physical body could handle this kind of grief and pain. Romans 12:1 "Therefore, brothers, in view of God's mercy, offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God". That's what my tears are.
I am so in need of wisdom and my constant prayer is also James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."
Thank God for His generosity, wisdom, mercy, and grace. I also love Philippians 4:19 "My God WILL meet ALL your needs through His glorious riches in Christ Jesus, our Lord."
I am soooo needy; and He is ready and able to meet ALL of my needs: to be filled, to be accepted, to have purpose, for courage, perseverance, for forgiveness, for a soft heart, for wisdom, for Life, etc.
Thanks, everybody, for listening and for letting me share my heart. Thanks, especially, for your prayers; I am praying for all of you as well.
I am going through the same thing...all I can do is share with you how the Lord is healing me:
I was in rebellion of the Lord when I married my husband and willfully chose to not listen to counsel or to the Lord. I basically said to the Lord, "I know this isn't what you want, but I want it, and I'm going to do it". I have sincerely repented and have been sincerely disciplined. My relationship with the Lord is restored while my relationship with my husband is nearly destroyed. We are separated, and he is wanting a divorce; papers are in the works.
My husband is not walking with the Lord; his salvation is between him and Jesus. He has told me, though, that he isn't interested in church, the Bible, etc. He says that he wants a divorce because he knows that he is not what I want or need and he's not interested in changing. He says our differences are too great, and that we both need to be free to be who we are. He has filed divorce papers.
Maybe he's right. I'm so tired of praying, interceding, crying, hoping. I keep giving him to the Lord and 1Cor 7:15 is always on my mind. Maybe I am just supposed to give up and let him go. I'm so tired. It'd be so much easier in some ways to just let this fall apart. He's still willing to talk, though, and I think as long as he is, I need to be.
The Lord has used all of this in my life to expose my idols (primarily my husband...that paved the way for all this wreckage) and to draw me to himself. I'm just so sorry that he had to use my husband and this marriage to get my attention regarding my rebellion and idolatry. I am so sorry of how I hurt my husband. First, I looked to him to be my savior and then I looked at him as my enemy. What a disaster. I hurt him so badly, and I know the Lord can heal him, but my shame is so great. No wonder he doesn't want anything to do with me OR the Lord. Ugh. I know this will heal, too, and that the Lord is dedicated to restoration and redemption. I so wish I could fast-forward a few months as I know healing is coming.
My focus has been on Isaiah 54: 4-6, but I substituted the word "divorce" for "widowhood" in verse 4:
"Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame.
Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.
You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood (divorce).
For your Maker is your husband-the Lord Almighty is his name-the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.
The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit-
a wife who married young (or in rebellion!), only to be rejected," says your God.
Isn't that awesome???!!! Oh, what a wonderful God we have. At the very moment that He is breaking my heart, He is healing and comforting me.
I've also clung to Psalm 32:8
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will counsel you and watch over you.
I need sooo much instruction, teaching, and counseling. Everyone has their own opinions, interpretations, and ideas of what is right and how to handle these situations. I could really care less what anyone thinks: I NEED to know what the Lord wants me to do; what will please Him. Therefore, I spend a good chunk of my days on my knees with my face buried in my hands, seeking Him. I have never cried so many tears; I didn't know it was possible. I didn't know my physical body could handle this kind of grief and pain. Romans 12:1 "Therefore, brothers, in view of God's mercy, offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God". That's what my tears are.
I am so in need of wisdom and my constant prayer is also James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him."
Thank God for His generosity, wisdom, mercy, and grace. I also love Philippians 4:19 "My God WILL meet ALL your needs through His glorious riches in Christ Jesus, our Lord."
I am soooo needy; and He is ready and able to meet ALL of my needs: to be filled, to be accepted, to have purpose, for courage, perseverance, for forgiveness, for a soft heart, for wisdom, for Life, etc.
Thanks, everybody, for listening and for letting me share my heart. Thanks, especially, for your prayers; I am praying for all of you as well.
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Dear littleinthelord .. u said u repented.. did u confess all the sins in front of the Pastor? If u haven't then plz do. Surrender urself and all ur worries totally to the Lord. humble urself to everyone.. and practive forgiveness by forgiving everyone, ur hubby and the last forgiving urslef. and u'll be revaled to the Lord what u should do. Gives thanks and praises to The Lord for all the Blessing and the troubles that came ur way. Well Lord Blessed u and ur hubby in marriage and he used ur hubby to bring u closer as what he did he can tke it back so thank him for that. Secondly he has giving u troubles to bring u closer to him and now he will bring u and ur hubby closer to.. So pray and belive him. Wehn u pray belive all those words. Whatever u ask Lord belive that u have received and see how much more u'll be happy. Lord cover littleinthelord & her hubby with ur Precious Blood and repari their borken marriage. Soften her hubby hearts so that he forgets what passed n looks forward to unite with his wife I ask this through Christ our Lord Amen
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Good morning! I think I am doing OK - LOL. I have had a major headache for the past week almost and finally got myself to the doc. He just said it was stress (whats that?) and gave me some pills that so far haven't seemed to work. Today is the kids trip to the dentist and school starts on the 5th! I was just over on another board and had a great revelation! I was typing about how hard this is and likened it to climbing a steep mountain. But you know what? When we finally reach the top we will be able to look down from the mountain and realize that we have the whole world at our feet!!!!
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AirForceTeacher
King of the Wicker People
The important ting about climbing the mountain is that you never get to the top (or in my case out of the valley) if you stop climbing.
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Deborah6763
Regular Member
This is truly a difficult time, and you will receive lto sof advice. Ask the lord for His wisdom and try to seek only Godly consel. Do you have close friends with whom you can be yourself? women who will love you no matter what and who will speak truth to you?
this is a really difficult time, but you can do it. Stay close to the Lord as much as you can, use doctors and meds if you need them. Seek prayer support.
do what you can; the Lord will see you through.
Blessings to you!
this is a really difficult time, but you can do it. Stay close to the Lord as much as you can, use doctors and meds if you need them. Seek prayer support.
do what you can; the Lord will see you through.
Blessings to you!
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PRAISE GOD FOR HE IS WORTHY. THANK YOU LORD FOR SPIRITUAL REVELATION! Isn't it wonderful how you receive it when you least expect it. May God continue to bless you. Amen.
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