Feeling judged.

[Restoresmysoul]

I was told that i have mental illness because i have unrepentant sin in my life, but i must disagree with that judgment, and i have confessed all of my sins and weaknesses to God and to others as well. I use to confess my sins to people because i wanted prayer and i wanted to to be free from those things, but in the end i felt like i was judged by religious people rather than accepted and loved. I struggle with battles in my mind and it seems that i cannot talk about these things with most Christians because they dont understand, they just end up judging me and shunning me.

These people think because i have trouble with social interaction that i am afraid of coming into the light, but this is not true because i have confessed my sins, i just have trouble in social environments, i guess perhaps i have social anxiety or something, but this is because of how people have treated me in this world, it makes me want to stay at home.

Anyway, i don't like this world, it seems like a huge burden to me. One positive thing that i can at least say about all this- at least i don't love the world or the things in it anymore. My hope is heaven, not this broken world.

 

[Restoresmysoul]

This life is a burden, my hope is in heaven. I guess that i must edify and encourage myself because religion sure won't do it for me. If anyone here feels the same way i do then i welcome you to join me in prayer and thanksgiving to God because we have a far better place waiting for us, all we must do is run the race set before us, this world is not our home and heaven will be much better.




Colossians 3 If then you were raised with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ is, sitting at the right hand of God. 2 Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth. 3 For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory.

1 Thessalonians 4:16 For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And thus we shall always be with the Lord. 18 Therefore comfort one another with these words.

 

[Restoresmysoul]

I try me best to obey God in all things. To the religious folks out there who judge me rather than encourage me i would just give this parable as my answer to them.



The Parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector

Luke 18:9 Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others: 10 “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ 13 And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

 

[Restoresmysoul]

Heaven is our home therefore it should be our hope - YouTube

 

[chapmic]

I understand where you come from, I've been around a lot of judgmental also but do not pay them any attention. Only Jesus judges and he wants to heal you and not condemn, so when you confess he is the one that frees you. He smiles on you because you have the Heart to please him. Sadly there will always be people that disrespect us in this world, but the irony is that every time they disrespect us they are blessing us because Jesus said when we are insulted because we follow Jesus rejoice because great blessings are stored for us in Heaven. Keep letting your heart shine and focus on the Lord's will because in the end his followers will have victory. I hope this helps! God bless! I will be praying for you!

 

[Restoresmysoul]

I understand where you come from, I've been around a lot of judgmental also but do not pay them any attention. Only Jesus judges and he wants to heal you and not condemn, so when you confess he is the one that frees you. He smiles on you because you have the Heart to please him. Sadly there will always be people that disrespect us in this world, but the irony is that every time they disrespect us they are blessing us because Jesus said when we are insulted because we follow Jesus rejoice because great blessings are stored for us in Heaven. Keep letting your heart shine and focus on the Lord's will because in the end his followers will have victory. I hope this helps! God bless! I will be praying for you!

Thank you chapmic. God bless you brother.

 

[Criada]

I'm sorry you've felt judged that way, brother
So many Christians treat mental illness that way - they don't seem to do the same for physical issues.
Jesus understands our struggles, and loves us in them and through them - that's what matters

 

[Restoresmysoul]

I'm sorry you've felt judged that way, brother
So many Christians treat mental illness that way - they don't seem to do the same for physical issues.
Jesus understands our struggles, and loves us in them and through them - that's what matters

Thanks Criada. God bless.

 

[MadamImAdaminChrist]

Christians judge because people LOVE to judge in general-it makes them feel superior than the person they are judging. It also makes people feel like they are in control, that they have power--"If only that person did not do A or B, then they would not have calamity"--it pushes pain and tragedy out at arms length as the people think as long as I am believing and behaving ok, I am prevented from YOUR kind of suffering. See Job and his advisors.

I judge and I hate it. I judge myself and I judge others all the time because it soothes me, it makes me feel better in some twisted way--even though I know it is wrong.

Remember Christ had his harshest words for the religious who put burdens on others that they themselves could not carry.

How could/would I encourage you, Restoremysoul? I am curious, what would you like to hear from people, in general---or maybe some specific thoughts . . . I have some vague thoughts but only vague--I don't know what I would want to hear. I just know I would not want to be treated harshly or unfairly accused like you were!

I suffer from mental illness, and I have not been judged harshly by others, for the most part, for I am a good actor and I hide. I am lucky, in that sense. But I admire your willingness to be more open and honest with other Christians, even if it has not worked out well at all.

I have not found a group I found safe with yet, and I hope you do.

 

[Restoresmysoul]

Christians judge because people LOVE to judge in general-it makes them feel superior than the person they are judging. It also makes people feel like they are in control, that they have power--"If only that person did not do A or B, then they would not have calamity"--it pushes pain and tragedy out at arms length as the people think as long as I am believing and behaving ok, I am prevented from YOUR kind of suffering. See Job and his advisors.

I judge and I hate it. I judge myself and I judge others all the time because it soothes me, it makes me feel better in some twisted way--even though I know it is wrong.

Remember Christ had his harshest words for the religious who put burdens on others that they themselves could not carry.

How could/would I encourage you, Restoremysoul? I am curious, what would you like to hear from people, in general---or maybe some specific thoughts . . . I have some vague thoughts but only vague--I don't know what I would want to hear. I just know I would not want to be treated harshly or unfairly accused like you were!

I suffer from mental illness, and I have not been judged harshly by others, for the most part, for I am a good actor and I hide. I am lucky, in that sense. But I admire your willingness to be more open and honest with other Christians, even if it has not worked out well at all.

I have not found a group I found safe with yet, and I hope you do.

Thank you for your honesty, i think honesty is a good thing. Im not sure anyone can say anything to me that would heal my suffering, prayers are welcome though.

 

[blackribbon]

I am a nurse and I want to scream at people sometime. The brain is an organ just like the heart and the bladder...and it sometimes doesn't function properly. People with mental illnesses usually didn't cause them (a few overdose exceptions...but then it could be argued that the need to take recreational substances is a form of mental illness). The brain is simply ill and needs both therapy and often medication to bring it back into chemical balance. No different than a diabetic takes hypoglycemics and insulin and a person with hypertension takes blood pressure medications.

I want to ask these judgmental Christians how come not all people with unrepentant sin aren suffering from the same mental health issues. It would seem if it was the cause of depression or bipolarism or schizophrenia ... then all sinners would suffer from mental illness and there would be no Christian believers on the psych floor. Trust me, I have found some of the strongest faith in people that are having to cope with living a life where the brain continuously plays tricks on their thinking. It is a pure faith because they are blindly trusting God in the midst of their crisises.

 

[Restoresmysoul]

I am a nurse and I want to scream at people sometime. The brain is an organ just like the heart and the bladder...and it sometimes doesn't function properly. People with mental illnesses usually didn't cause them (a few overdose exceptions...but then it could be argued that the need to take recreational substances is a form of mental illness). The brain is simply ill and needs both therapy and often medication to bring it back into chemical balance. No different than a diabetic takes hypoglycemics and insulin and a person with hypertension takes blood pressure medications.

I want to ask these judgmental Christians how come not all people with unrepentant sin aren suffering from the same mental health issues. It would seem if it was the cause of depression or bipolarism or schizophrenia ... then all sinners would suffer from mental illness and there would be no Christian believers on the psych floor. Trust me, I have found some of the strongest faith in people that are having to cope with living a life where the brain continuously plays tricks on their thinking. It is a pure faith because they are blindly trusting God in the midst of their crisises.

Thank you for your words blackribbon. Faith and hope are what keeps me going.

 

[blackribbon]

Thank you for your words blackribbon. Faith and hope are what keeps me going.

I hope you are actively getting treated also. Just like diabetes and hypertension, mental illness won't spontaneously get better either.

 

[Restoresmysoul]

I hope you are actively getting treated also. Just like diabetes and hypertension, mental illness won't spontaneously get better either.

No im not getting treatment, but i think that if i stay away from unprofitable debate and away from negative people that this will be helpful.

 

[ToBeBlessed]

I was told that i have mental illness because i have unrepentant sin in my life, but i must disagree with that judgment, and i have confessed all of my sins and weaknesses to God and to others as well. I use to confess my sins to people because i wanted prayer and i wanted to to be free from those things, but in the end i felt like i was judged by religious people rather than accepted and loved. I struggle with battles in my mind and it seems that i cannot talk about these things with most Christians because they dont understand, they just end up judging me and shunning me.

These people think because i have trouble with social interaction that i am afraid of coming into the light, but this is not true because i have confessed my sins, i just have trouble in social environments, i guess perhaps i have social anxiety or something, but this is because of how people have treated me in this world, it makes me want to stay at home.

Anyway, i don't like this world, it seems like a huge burden to me. One positive thing that i can at least say about all this- at least i don't love the world or the things in it anymore. My hope is heaven, not this broken world.

I totally agree with you. We need to guard our hearts. Most Christians do not understand mental illness at all and never will. As someone else said in a post in this thread, they do not treat mental illness as an illness or a lack of something that makes the body funcion correctly.

I only share the very deepest things in my heart with Jesus and a few other friends who have a mental illness. I guard these deep parts of my heart.

Don't feel bad for not being an open book for all people. As Jesus said "Love the Lord your God" and "Love your neighbor as yourself". It is ok not to share those things that people will not understand. These are the things that I share with Jesus as He knows my heart. and understands me perfectly.

Myself and a few others have created a support group called Son SHine Mental Health Support Group. If you'd like to join, here is the url http://www.christianforums.com/groups/555/

We'd love to have you and anyone else who wants to encourage and edify their brothers and sisters in Christ.

 

[Restoresmysoul]

I totally agree with you. We need to guard our hearts. Most Christians do not understand mental illness at all and never will. As someone else said in a post in this thread, they do not treat mental illness as an illness or a lack of something that makes the body funcion correctly.

I only share the very deepest things in my heart with Jesus and a few other friends who have a mental illness. I guard these deep parts of my heart.

Don't feel bad for not being an open book for all people. As Jesus said "Love the Lord your God" and "Love your neighbor as yourself". It is ok not to share those things that people will not understand. These are the things that I share with Jesus as He knows my heart. and understands me perfectly.

Myself and a few others have created a support group called Son SHine Mental Health Support Group. If you'd like to join, here is the url http://www.christianforums.com/groups/555/

We'd love to have you and anyone else who wants to encourage and edify their brothers and sisters in Christ.

Amen sister. I think being an open book is what causes me so much grief, yet i think its good to share our struggles. This helps people see that Christians are not perfect and we struggle too. I hope to overcome my struggles so it can give God glory. And in the mean time i can still give him glory by persevering and staying faithful to Him.