Feeling Ill and Stressed

[Loven God]

I am feeling so ill and stressed . My father is in very bad health and I am not handling it very well . I don't want to see him suffer but I don't want to lose him.
Hie is a christian man and I know know he is bound for heaven , but it is not easing the pain . My father was a hard worker and a good provider . It hurts to see him so weak and not being able to do for himself . I am sure he feels like he is not living himself . How have any of you dealt with something like this

 

[quietpraiyze]

Oh Loven God that is sooo hard. I don’t know if this will help but when I was twelve my dad (step dad) had cancer. We were allowed to go see him before he died. I remember seeing him with all those tubes and thinking that’s just wrong. He didn’t deserve that. He had been such a kind man and it shouldn’t be like that for him. I wanted him to die because then he could rest. I understand now that I’m older but back then seeing that as a kid, I just wanted him to rest and all those tubes looked so uncomfortable and I knew there was no coming back from his state.

I wasn’t Saved or had a Saved family but I did attend parochial school. I had some sense of God but I didn’t really know him then. I just felt like from what I was looking at God had to be more than that. God had to be more than a hospital and tubes. The hospital was just up the street a couple of blocks. I remember running all the way home crying wishing my dad would just die. A few days later he did. I was relieved because I knew he was alright now at least in my twelve year old mind.

My dad was a cook. He was a good man. He was a kind man, a gentle man, and a good provider. He was Filipino. We are African American. I still remember all the different aromas and spices that filled the house. My dad was a beautiful man and I loved him.

I think that’s what you do. You hold on to your dad while letting go. You tell him how much you love him and share the different memories you have while knowing and resting in the fact that God fully has him. If there’s other family you all get together and love on your dad, spend time with him as you can, make sure his needs are met, and let God love on all of you however He chooses.

God is still the “I AM” and He will be whatever you need him to be even when you can’t name it.
　
　
　

 

[Loven God]

Thank you for all the words of comfort , they did help . I am sorry for what you went through at 12 . I am blessed to have a saved father and can know he will go home to be with God . But I still do try to hold on to him at the same time because I don't want to lose him but I don't want him in pain . I am trying to put my faith in God and let Him has his will .

 

[angelkiss]

I know times like this are very difficult. The thing that helps me personally, is focusing on the good. There is nothing good about a sick loved one, however, his heart belongs to God and that in itself is a comfort. Here's a few suggestions that you may try....
Sing/play his favorite songs
Talk about some of your best moments together
Count your blessings together
Basically anything that keeps the focus on the good. It's easier said than done, however, it makes the weight a bit lighter for all.
Hope this helps, if even a little. Lifting you up in prayer
s and es!!

 

[quietpraiyze]

Loven God I also wanted to say that I don’t think there’s anything wrong with how you feel. Sometimes as Christians we don’t always address our humanity like something is wrong with us (not you just in general). As if everything always has to be spiritual but we are human and God knows that because He created us. So we don’t have to be super spiritual or whatever. God gets our humanity, I think really more than we do.

So I just wanted to say a little more clearer that I know God is your refuge and it’s okay to cry and feel whatever you feel - it’s alright.