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Feeling Godless

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I'm 25, and I tried to be a Christian before, but I always struggled anyway:
  • I feel like I've been given a really tough burden in life compared to other young adults, to the point where I'm ashamed to admit or discuss it. I have never been employed in my young adult life, I had no real friends, not being able to drive a car (not likely) and I stopped caring about what God's will is. I believe in all my heart that this burden is God's will and I can't stand it anymore. All this has been the same ever since I graduated at 18. I thought I would've been living life more as an adult by now.
  • Why is it wrong to reject/walk away from God? Like my earlier point, I couldn't stand it anymore. I feel like God has burdened me more than helped in life, and he is not deserving of that much respect. What's God going to do if I'm mad with him? Kill me?
  • Since my teens, I grew a bit worried about the vision of being in Heaven as believed by today's modern Christian. Why should God allow anything on Earth and call it "good" when in heaven it is obsolete?
  • I can't stand anymore of this. I'm still ashamed to discuss it because I know I'll get a generic Christian response instead. I wish I can say anything, but I don't want to break forum rules. I'm that mad sometimes.
 

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A large-scale study of Catholic high school seniors found that self-esteem is directly related to God concept. Those with poor self-esteem generally viewed God as cold, distant, and impersonal. Those with high self-esteem generally viewed God as kind, loving, forgiving. Young men with low self-esteem can't imagine pretty girls being attracted to them. So female friendliness for them means that girl must be really needy with serious problems. The guy thinks, "If she really knew me, she wouldn't be interested." The same with God! The guy's poor self-image makes it inconceivable that he has infinite value in God's eyes. So the guy perceives God as cold, distant, and impersonal.

The solution? Recognize that "Love your neighbor as yourself" is terrible advice for a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]! For Jesus, the background assumption of this principle is offered in Ecclesiasticus 10:28-29: "My child honor yourself, but with humility, and give yourself the esteem that you deserve. Who will acquit those who condemn themselves? And who will honor those who dishonor themselves?" The implication of this principle for your personal lifestyle is made clear in Ecclesiasticus 14:12: "My child, treat yourself well, according to your means." So develop high self-esteem from the perspective that your are the potential masterpiece that God has created you to be.

But, you say, Ecclesiasticus is in the Catholic Old Testament. True, but keep in mind that Jesus was influenced by this book to the point where part of the Lord's Prayer is based on Ecclesiasticus 28:2! When this sinks in, meditate on this definition of agape love that emerges from 1 Corinthians 13: "to love in the agape sense means that in my presence you experience yourself as both lovable and capable."
 
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God is good

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I'm 25, and I tried to be a Christian before, but I always struggled anyway:
  • I feel like I've been given a really tough burden in life compared to other young adults, to the point where I'm ashamed to admit or discuss it. I have never been employed in my young adult life, I had no real friends, not being able to drive a car (not likely) and I stopped caring about what God's will is. I believe in all my heart that this burden is God's will and I can't stand it anymore. All this has been the same ever since I graduated at 18. I thought I would've been living life more as an adult by now.
  • Why is it wrong to reject/walk away from God? Like my earlier point, I couldn't stand it anymore. I feel like God has burdened me more than helped in life, and he is not deserving of that much respect. What's God going to do if I'm mad with him? Kill me?
  • Since my teens, I grew a bit worried about the vision of being in Heaven as believed by today's modern Christian. Why should God allow anything on Earth and call it "good" when in heaven it is obsolete?
  • I can't stand anymore of this. I'm still ashamed to discuss it because I know I'll get a generic Christian response instead. I wish I can say anything, but I don't want to break forum rules. I'm that mad sometimes.
My name is Zack and I struggle with ocd Scrupulosity which is really bad thoughts and I keep getting terrible thoughts about selling soul and other terrible things which I don't want to do and I'm always afraid of going to hell. God loves you so much and He wants you to be happy and remember the Bible is the word of God and his will is good and in the Bible it says that God will never give us anything more than we can handle. Just pray to God and talk to him because He wants a relationship with us. God loves you and Jesus is Lord and will always be for us. "If God is for us, who can be against us".
 
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God is Good, what does that mean? "God will never give us anything more than we can handle."

Yeah, I absolutely can relate with the OCD thoughts, even though I don't have official OCD.
I believe it's scripture but I'm not 100 percent certain that God will never
God is Good, what does that mean? "God will never give us anything more than we can handle."

Yeah, I absolutely can relate with the OCD thoughts, even though I don't have official OCD.

give us anything more than we can bear. I believe that no matter what circumstances we go through that God will never give us more than we can take. God loves all of us
 
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