Feedback HELP!

[10092]

I need some honest feedback on this issue.

My stepdaughter came home this past Friday night very drunk. She was sick all over her room. This is not the first time.

My daughter who is 10 idolizes my stepdaughter. Unfortunately she has been exposed to music, dress and male/female relations that I feel are inappropriate for her age. Saturday morning my daughter said she didn’t sleep well because here big sister was sick. I told her that she was drunk and that is what happens when you drink. I wanted her to understand that behavior like that leads to bad things. My wife has objected to me telling my daughter.

Was I wrong?

 

[katelyn]

I think it's important to be honest with children. I think it's good that you wanted to discuss it with her, to talk about what big sis was doing wrong, why it was wrong, and what the consequences are.

But perhaps you should have talked to your wife first before having the discussion. It's hard enough when you are both the parents of all your children, to make sure that you are united in your parenting tactics, but I imagine it must be even harder when you have a blended family like that. Maybe your wife was upset because she felt like you were looking down on her daughter. Just a thought.

 

[Droobie]

What?... You mean being drunk is okay?

 

[mamaneenie]

FInd out why your wife was mad. I think it is important to tell kids the truth. She was probably very concerned about her stepsister. I don't think I would have been angry if I was the mummy in that situation. Afterall, kids find out the truth eventually.

 

[jessiegirl]

I think you did the right thing. My step daughter is a little on the wild side too. There was a time when my two daughters looked up to her so much. I pretty much did what you did. I told my girls that it was just the way she was. I told them that I loved her very much, but the way she was living was wrong. They still love her, but they don't look up to her as much as they used to.


jessiegirl