Actually you've brought up an extremely interesting topic.
I offer this to you - that the fear of Yahweh isn't where we're afraid of Him - you know that He'll strike us dead but rather that we hold Him in such high regard or reverential awe that it is the deciding factor - it determines what we do and think. Instead of following what man thinks or wants, we go with what Yahweh thinks and wants (paraphased definition based on some articles by Nancy Missler).
One Biblical example is King Saul who failed in Yahweh's sight because he based his decisions on what the people wanted instead of what Yahweh wanted. Two examples - the first one is from[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif] 1 Sam. 13:7-14; particulary v 10 and 11 - "...And Saul said, Because I saw that the people were scattered from me, ..." Example 2: 15:10-29), from v 24 - "... because I feared the people, and obeyed their voice."
We do the same thing. An example that's been given here on the forums. I remember this because since this was posted, it really captured my attention and seems to be key. Someone was having martial problems and instead of praying that Yahweh change their spouse, etc. they prayed to Yahweh - Please reveal to me whatever YOU want concerning this matter. It didn't happen immediately but He showed them what mistakes they had made, what they needed to do, etc. She was desperate & abandoned what she thought, felt, etc. Certainly not an easy task.
Scripture says in several places "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom:.." (Psa 111:10) and [/FONT] Pro 1:7 “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”
[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Seven of the spirits of Yahweh are in several places in the Bible such as Rev 4:5 and Isa 11:2 "And the spirit of the LORD shall rest upon him, the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the LORD;"
I believe that the fear of the Lord is pivotal because unless we have it, would we accept His wisdom, understanding, counsel and knowledge?
We can pray for wisdom and revelation in Him such as Eph 1:16-17 "Cease not to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers; 17 - "That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him" Jam 1:5 "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him."
Having the fear of the Lord means setting aside what others think or want - ESPECIALLY OUR own thoughts and feelings - and following what Yahweh wants. It sounds so easy yet can be difficult to carry out in our daily lives BUT through His strength (the spirit of might) all things are possible. Life application: ask Yahweh, what do You want me to do or think about every situation?
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