Father/Daughter Dates

[Kimberly09]

I am trying to get my post count up

So I figured I would make a random post about Father/Daughter dates.

This is not a date between a father and daughter for intimacy or perverse meaning.

It is meant to promote a healthy and close father and daughter relationship.

For example: When I was little, my daddy used to take me out to my favorite place to eat. There we would just talk and connect on many different levels, there I was able to get his 100% undivided attention and he was able to show me the respect I deserved and how a real gentleman and godly man is supposed to act.

That is my story, I would love to hear others!

 

[Grace51]

well, i kind of envy you a bit.

me and my dad have never been close. i mean he was a good father in a sense he loves me unconditionally, but he was also very traditional ie what i say goes and no but.

so i guess we never get to establish that kind of easy friendship you are talking about......

 

[Kimberly09]

well, i kind of envy you a bit.

me and my dad have never been close. i mean he was a good father in a sense he loves me unconditionally, but he was also very traditional ie what i say goes and no but.

so i guess we never get to establish that kind of easy friendship you are talking about......

I am very sorry, Grace51. I guess the positive way to look at it is that your father was in your life and loved you.

My father is such a Godly man in so many ways. He is the spiritual leader of the house, he always put my mother and my sisters and I first after God of course. He never once raised his voice to us, and always spoke with such wisdom, patience, and kindness... not matter what went wrong. If that man was ever stressed, you would never know.

He would take turns with my 3 sisters and I, every Friday he would take one of us out for our 1 on 1 father/daughter date. He would allow us to pick whatever we wanted to do, and that whole night would be dedicated to us individually. He would even do things I know he did not want to do, but for our happiness he did. He raised my sister and I to have self respect and self worth, always told us how smart, beautiful and kind we were and how special we were to him. When we would go on our father/daughter dates it would give us the time to just talk, laugh... I mean if anything was on our mind we could talk to daddy. My dad was always there and never missed one special event in our lives growing up.

With him doing that, he raised my sisters and I to know how a Godly man should treat his wife and children. I think it is so important for children to have active parents in their lives, married or divorced and children should have that encouragement regardless. You do not have to be married to be an active parent

 

[Woven]

With him doing that, he raised my sisters and I to know how a Godly man should treat his wife and children. I think it is so important for children to have active parents in their lives, married or divorced and children should have that encouragement regardless. You do not have to be married to be an active parent

Completely agree.

My dad didn't used to take my sisters or I on father/daughter dates as such, but I remember I often used to go with him to different job sites. He owns a construction company, and from quite young I remember going with him. It was quality time that I really valued.

 

[citizenthom]

I would not in a million year call a day out with my daughter a "date." Not in today's world. I've counseled more than a couple of dads who had to deal with the cops after teachers or school counselors reported harmless incidents like checking their kids' moles or "butterfly kisses" pursuant to mandatory reporting laws. Dads and granddads of bi-racial kids face a constant risk of being harassed or arrested on kidnapping charges now (this has happened to one grandfather three times). You just can't take the risk.

I'll spend time with my daughter and set a good example of male behavior for her, but I will avoid ANY language that could possibly be construed as romantic/sexual like the plague, and I would advise any father to do the same.

 

[Kimberly09]

I would not in a million year call a day out with my daughter a "date." Not in today's world. I've counseled more than a couple of dads who had to deal with the cops after teachers or school counselors reported harmless incidents like checking their kids' moles or "butterfly kisses" pursuant to mandatory reporting laws. Dads and granddads of bi-racial kids face a constant risk of being harassed or arrested on kidnapping charges now (this has happened to one grandfather three times). You just can't take the risk.

I'll spend time with my daughter and set a good example of male behavior for her, but I will avoid ANY language that could possibly be construed as romantic/sexual like the plague, and I would advise any father to do the same.

If you had read my thread in the beginning you would notice that it said "This is not a date between a father and daughter for intimacy or perverse meaning."

The word "Date" does not always imply intimacy. My girlfriends (girls that are friends) go out on what we call "girl dates" all the time. Or when I arrange a time with anyone I always in a jokingly way say "Its a date!"... No where I am implying intimacy.

I do understand what you mean with this day and age and how everyone, especially men must be extremely careful in the things they do with their children. I think it just depends on how it is all presented... I think it is very sad that a man cannot simply do anything now a days with his daughter with innocent intentions without it leading to others accusations.

I think that if you are going to discuss father/daughter dates with others, you should first discuss it with people you know and who know your family and are comfortable with. Secondly, you should present it in the innocent nature of it.
To be honest, perverse thoughts would not be the first thought on my mind.. but then again, I cannot speak for others.

 

[Kimberly09]

Completely agree.

My dad didn't used to take my sisters or I on father/daughter dates as such, but I remember I often used to go with him to different job sites. He owns a construction company, and from quite young I remember going with him. It was quality time that I really valued.

That is wonderful that you were able to go on his jobs with him! That counts! Everyone has their own definition of quality time that they spend with others, and as long as you remember it and it means something to you now, then that is what matters!

There is such a dramatic statistic between children that grew up with active parents (married/divorce) vs. children that grew up without active parents (married/divorced).

A dear friend of mine; her parents divorced when her and her sister were 4 and 2. Since the both of them were so young at the time, neither one of them really remembers much of their parents being married. However, she does remember that even though her parents were not married to one another, that they both were very positive regarding the other parent. They got along for the sake of their children. They set aside all differences for their children. They got along at school/family functions for their children. Both of their parents remarried, and they always encouraged their girls to have a relationship with their step-parents. They knew that love is unconditional and you can never have enough! They put their children first, and the majority of the time, many parents do not. My best friend grew up perfectly well adjusted and "normal". She excelled in school, was very emotionally stable, had many friends, and was a very happy person. I am sorry I am a little off topic, but it got me thinking of the importance of being active for your children...

 

[Leggomyegolas]

If you had read my thread in the beginning you would notice that it said "This is not a date between a father and daughter for intimacy or perverse meaning."

The word "Date" does not always imply intimacy. My girlfriends (girls that are friends) go out on what we call "girl dates" all the time. Or when I arrange a time with anyone I always in a jokingly way say "Its a date!"... No where I am implying intimacy.

I do understand what you mean with this day and age and how everyone, especially men must be extremely careful in the things they do with their children. I think it just depends on how it is all presented... I think it is very sad that a man cannot simply do anything now a days with his daughter with innocent intentions without it leading to others accusations.

I think that if you are going to discuss father/daughter dates with others, you should first discuss it with people you know and who know your family and are comfortable with. Secondly, you should present it in the innocent nature of it.
To be honest, perverse thoughts would not be the first thought on my mind.. but then again, I cannot speak for others.

I understood what you meant by "father/daughter date", but I certainly wouldn't call it that to everyone and anyone in public. Not everyone who hears that term would understand it the way it was intended.

I have a 13-week old daughter, and am looking forward to the chance to take her out on "dates" when she gets a little older. Thinking of starting when she turns 2. It will be a great opportunity to spend some one-on-one time with her, to join into her world and understand what she's experiencing. I've been told that when girls reach the age when they start taking an interest in boys, they instinctively look for one who reminds them of their dad (if their dad has been a positive influence in their life, that is). So, this will also be a great opportunity for me to model for her what kind of man she should be looking for to be a potential husband.

 

[akmom]

Ah, my dad would take me for a walk every single day since I was 4 years old. My mom convinced me to eat my carrots all gone, even though I hated them, so that I'd be able to see better and find snails on our after-dinner walk. And I did. When I was older and my dad expressed an interest in going on lone walks afterward for exercise, I started walking as fast as I possibly could and insisting it was my "normal" pace so that he'd let me go on his exercise walk too. I'd be totally exhausted, but made sure to hide it because I wanted to be invited again! In high school I started running, and my dad (who ran marathons until he was 50) and I went for runs together until I left for college.

 

[Leggomyegolas]

Ah, my dad would take me for a walk every single day since I was 4 years old. My mom convinced me to eat my carrots all gone, even though I hated them, so that I'd be able to see better and find snails on our after-dinner walk. And I did. When I was older and my dad expressed an interest in going on lone walks afterward for exercise, I started walking as fast as I possibly could and insisting it was my "normal" pace so that he'd let me go on his exercise walk too. I'd be totally exhausted, but made sure to hide it because I wanted to be invited again! In high school I started running, and my dad (who ran marathons until he was 50) and I went for runs together until I left for college.

That's awesome!

 

[gracefulone1980]

My father had pretty much no involvement with me growing up, only my brother. However, I did have my Godfather who was there for me like a father. He was there for all of my milestones, birthdays, wedding, first child being born and anytime that I needed him. He went to go be with our Lord three years ago and I cherish every memory I had with him.

My husband and I have two daughters and they are starting to do daddy/daughter dates. =)

 

[JRSut1000]

I guess the most memorable 'dates' were the ones over the summer when he'd get me up Saturday morning and say 'lets go drown some worms' (aka fishing). It was a blast and I look fondly back on those times. Also during the summers, he'd take me to the local fairs and festivals. I miss that somewhat although I know my family and I (along with our children) are making new different memories.

 

[tturt]

Those special times don't have to be expensive. The quality time can be just about anything when undivided attention is paid to the child. Just throwing a cloth on the floor inside or outside and having lunch makes a special treat for some kids. In this age of technology, just putting down the "unit" and interacting with the child would be a step in the right direction.

 

[jminnesota]

fathers are important in a girls life just as much as mom. they need that daddy time so father daughter dates to the store movies mcdonalds etc. ballgame etc. its important for those moments for dad and daughter to bond and talk about issues girls need to know there dad loves them and cares about them. tell your daughter she is beautiful tell her she is special. as they get older they tend to date guys that are like there dads so if there dads are great they will find great guys. if dad is not in there live at all then lot of times they find the creeps in the world

 

[jminnesota]

I would not in a million year call a day out with my daughter a "date." Not in today's world. I've counseled more than a couple of dads who had to deal with the cops after teachers or school counselors reported harmless incidents like checking their kids' moles or "butterfly kisses" pursuant to mandatory reporting laws. Dads and granddads of bi-racial kids face a constant risk of being harassed or arrested on kidnapping charges now (this has happened to one grandfather three times). You just can't take the risk.

I'll spend time with my daughter and set a good example of male behavior for her, but I will avoid ANY language that could possibly be construed as romantic/sexual like the plague, and I would advise any father to do the same.

i feel there is nothing wrong with dads who kiss there daughters goodnight or kiss them as they get on bus for school kinda thing. and to me father daughter date means a day that dad spends with his daughter doing whatever they want to do for fun and they both bond and laugh and just have fun.

 

[FreeInChrist88]

My daughter is now a young woman off at college, but as she was growing up, we had many "dates" (or whatever is the appropriate thing to call them in our paranoid society). They forged a great relationship that we still enjoy. When she is home from school we still go "out" from time to time.

We typically get lunch and then see a movie or go look at model homes (something both of us like to do). We usually have some great conversation although none of it is on an intimate level. She and her mom (who also happens to be my wife) have many deeper conversations. Nevertheless, I think that there is a very healthy connection that has been forged. I hope I have been an example of the kind of guy I hope she marries.

 

[jminnesota]

i also feel there is nothing wrong with dads who kiss there daughters a kiss means you love them. kiss goodnight or etc. i dont mean a sexual kiss just a quick butterfly kiss. if a girl does not have a good relationship with her dad then she will seek it elsewhere often boys. girls are more likely to have sex as a teen if there dads are not in there lives. but if they have a healthy dad/daughter relationship they will often have a better view on life and quality. and often will wait for the right guy and often pick a guy like there dad.

 

[jerem]

My daddy did the same. I will always remember our dates which frequently ended up being at the DQ for dilly bars Take those daughters out for one on one time dads!

 

[RaebethJud]

As a father of 2 daughters who are 2mos and 2 yrs and I cannot wait to take them out.

I will take them to the store, get ice cream, go to the park, gardening ect.

This will be a blast.

 

[jminnesota]

i think most dads love having date nights or dates with there daughters. taking them to a ball game or taking them to a park to play or a nice trip to dary queen or mcdonalds. a day with just dad and daughter. daughters need that they need to see that there dads love them for being who they are. and that they are beautiful from there dads eyes. girls that have a healthy relationship with there dads often grow up normal and healthy and good self esteem about themseves vs a girl that has no dad like person to be around. or a dad that is abusive to her etc. so if you want to raise a good girl you need to have those father/daughter times together as often as you can