Familys drunken behavior

[Daysoni]

I am saddened by my family's drinking. We go years with out talking because of our differences and a painful past. I went through that partying stage a liitle with friends. We have always been different them and I. They wake up drinking and fall asleep drinking. They use drugs. I'm a christian they are not. such talk is not allowed around them. In fact I'm ridiculed. I say nothing just take what they dish out wich is what I have always done. But what makes it hard for me to be around them is that I see that they are throwing their lifes away. And I don't want my son to see this. Keeping them away is hard on my son. So I need to know what to do. Iwant him to see them but I don't want him to see them drinking and their behaviors. They won't quit drinking even for a half hour. I'm not judging them. I just want there to be a time for my son to visit that doesn't envolve the drunk and disorderly.

 

[Harlan Norris]

I am an only child.As such I wasn't exposed to any drunken family members.Never the less, I still became a drunk and a drug addict.Now that it's over, I can look back on my life of substance abuse.I realise that the desire to drink and drug is simply part of my charictor. At Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner, I always wanted more that the one glass of wine I was allowed.And even before I knew what pot was,I knew I wanted some.I was a seeker after experience.I wanted to try everything,do everything.So I looked for and found those that could provide me with what I wanted.However,culture matters. The sobriety of my family during my upbringing is where my knowledge of such things as sobriety came from.I knew it was possible to live without drugs and booze. You are right to be concerned for your son. Sometimes, even though we are dealing with family, we must separate ourselves from them for the sake of those we love and ourselves. It will be easier for them to corrupt your son and even you,than for you to bring them out of Egypt,so to speak. They don't want to leave.I'd advise you to take your son and leave there,and go and start again somewhere else.

 

[huk]

I'm not judging them.

If I walk out my door tomorrow and theres 20 lbs. of dog doo-doo laying there and I'm not judgemental, I'm going to have awful smelly shoes all day. It's what I do w/the judgements that I make that counts.

I am saddened by my family's drinking.

You should be. But not saddened enough that your willing to jepordize your sons spiritual and moral development in the process just to play kissy face and make nice-nice w/a bunch of drunks. I am a recovered alcoholic, and friend, your family is insane. On a consistent basis they make decisions that harm themselves and those about them. That is INSANITY!
Explain to them that your first and foremost duty as a parent is to your child, and anything that threatens your childs spiritualy / physicaly / morally must be nuetralized.

 

[Revolutionist]

I am an overcomer ofr 19 years when I meet Jesus Christ He set me free from the addiction, but I had to do my part and work on my heart issues through the 12 steps of overcomers which are the same 12 steps of AA only with the use of the Bible. One thing I can share is that my mother prayed for me for 21 years before she seen her answered prayers. People of today want and microwave miralce right NOW which is the self-centered ways of the human nature of fall man. Today I am ministring to the same type of people that I use to be. Also when I started using at the age of 13 I had NO Father in the house to help raise me. My mother did the both roles to the best she could but spiritually didn't work. That is where we need the MEN to step up to the plate and do what God has had them to do since the fall of man. Keep lifting them up in prayer.
From: THE REVOLUIONIST HIS BONDSEREVENT FOREVER. \o/